You're Not a Bad Parent – Repair & Rebuilding Trust After Hard Seasons

Do you lie awake replaying the fight you had with your child, wondering, "Have I damaged this beyond repair?"
Or do you feel like you're walking on eggshells—terrified one more mistake will be the one that breaks you apart for good?
This 60‑minute online webinar is about repairing ruptures and rebuilding trust with your child or teen after hard seasons—when there's been shouting, shutdowns, or long stretches of disconnection that have left the relationship feeling fragile or distant.
Many of us carry a quiet fear:

• "What if I've shouted too many times?"
• "What if they don't trust me anymore?"
• "What if the damage is permanent?"

The truth is, repair is more powerful than perfection.
Children don't need parents who never mess up. They need parents who can come back—who can take responsibility, name what happened, and show them that relationships can survive hard things.
When there's been a pattern of ruptures (shouting, shutting down, harsh words, walking away), your child's nervous system holds a story about you: "When it gets hard, this person gets scary / disappears / blames me."
Repair rewrites that story to: "When it gets hard, this person comes back. I'm still safe with them."
This webinar will help you understand what repair really is, how to apologise in a way that heals (not heaps on more shame), and how to rebuild trust one small, sturdy interaction at a time—even when your child seems "done" with you.

What We'll Cover
In clear, parent‑friendly language, we'll explore:
What repair really is (and isn't)
Why repair is not about being perfect, grovelling, or erasing what happened—but about showing your child that the relationship is bigger than the rupture, and that you're trustworthy enough to come back and take responsibility.
How to apologise without shaming yourself or your child
The difference between:

• "I'm sorry I shouted" (takes responsibility), and
• "I'm sorry, but you made me so angry" (blames the child).

How to repair without collapsing into "I'm the worst parent ever" (which puts your child in the position of having to manage your emotions).
Rebuilding trust after repeated ruptures
What to do when it's not just one bad night, but a pattern—and your child says things like:

• "You always shout."
• "You don't care about me."
• "I don't believe you anymore."

How to hold space for their hurt without defending yourself or shutting down.
Age‑appropriate repair scripts
Simple, concrete language you can adapt for:

• Younger children (5–9): "I shouted and that was scary. My job is to keep you safe, even when I'm upset. I'm working on that."
• Tweens (10–13): "I said some things I didn't mean. That wasn't fair to you. I'm sorry. Here's what I'm going to try differently."
• Teens (14–17): "I know I've apologised before and then done it again. I get why you don't trust that. I'm working with someone on this, and I want you to know I'm serious about changing."

Reconnecting when your child pulls away
What to do when your child:

• Rolls their eyes or says "whatever" when you try to apologise,
• Shrugs you off physically or emotionally,
• Goes very quiet and won't talk to you, or
• Says, "It's fine" but clearly isn't fine.

Gentle, non‑intrusive ways to keep the door open without chasing, pressuring, or forcing connection before they're ready.
The 3‑step Repair Protocol
A simple, repeatable framework you can use after any rupture:

1. Repair with yourself first – Calm your nervous system and deal with your own shame spiral before you try to repair with your child.
2. Repair with your child – Take responsibility, name what happened, and tell them what you'll do differently.
3. Do‑over (when possible) – Give yourself and your child a chance to "try that again" in a calmer, more connected way.

Repair as re‑parenting
How every repair you make with your child is also an act of healing the part of you that never got repair growing up—and why this work can feel so hard, so vulnerable, and so deeply important.

You'll Leave With

• A Repair & Rebuild Cheat Sheet – a simple 3‑step repair protocol you can stick on the fridge and use after any rupture
• Age‑specific repair scripts (younger children, tweens, teens, ND kids) you can adapt to your family's language and situation
• A "Trust Over Time" checklist to help you notice small signs of reconnection (like your child laughing at your joke, asking you a question, or sitting near you again)—even when your shame-brain only sees what's still broken
• A small weekly experiment: one repair, one reconnection moment, one "trying again" conversation to practise this week

Who This Is For
This session is for you if:

• There's been a lot of shouting, slamming doors, harsh words, or long silences in your home, and the air still feels heavy.
• Your child or teen seems more distant, guarded, or "done" with you—like they've stopped expecting you to show up differently.
• You've apologised before, but things still feel tense, fragile, or awkward, and you're not sure what else to do.
• Your child has said things like "You always do this," "I don't trust you," or "Why should I believe you this time?"—and honestly, you're not sure how to answer.
• You worry you've shouted, shut down, or pulled away too many times, and some part of you quietly wonders, "Is it too late? Have I broken this?"
• You feel like you're constantly walking on eggshells, trying not to make it worse, but you don't know how to actually make it better.
• You want to feel like a safe person again for your child—someone they can come to when things are hard, not someone they brace for or avoid.

You don't need to have attended the earlier webinars to come to this one, though it builds naturally on From Meltdowns to Co‑Regulation, Boundaries That Don't Break Connection, Anger as a Healthy Signal, and Parenting from Your Values.

What to Expect on the Day

• A warm, shame‑free space where there's no "perfect parent" standard—just real humans doing repair work
• Short teaching blocks with real examples across age groups (young children through teens)
• Guided reflection time to think about one specific rupture you'd like to repair, and what that might sound like in your family
• Time to write or mentally rehearse your repair script so it sounds like you, not like something you read in a book
• Q&A at the end so you can bring your specific situations into the conversation (e.g., "What if my teen won't even look at me?" or "What if I've apologised ten times already?")

You're welcome to keep your camera off if that feels safer. Come as you are—messy house, tired brain, heavy heart, and all.

About This Series
This is Webinar 6 in the series: You're Not a Bad Parent: The Emotional Skills Most of Us Were Never Taught.

• Webinar 1: Parenting Struggling Teens – understanding the adolescent brain and why they're not trying to hurt you
• Webinar 2: From Meltdowns to Co‑Regulation – staying steady when your child loses it
• Webinar 3: Boundaries That Don't Break Connection – setting clear "I will…" boundaries with kindness
• Webinar 4: Anger as a Healthy Signal – using anger to identify needs and ask for support, instead of exploding or shutting down
• Webinar 5: Parenting from Your Values – making decisions from what matters most, not what you're most afraid of
• Webinar 6 (this session): Repair & Rebuilding Trust After Hard Seasons – coming back after ruptures and showing your child that relationships can survive hard things

You can join this as a standalone session, and there'll be an option at the end to access recordings or book further support if you'd like.

About Your Host
"I'm Angelique, a transformational coach and mum who has parented through crisis and come out the other side. When my son was a younger teen, every day felt like a battle—and I was sure I was failing him. There were moments I wasn't sure we could come back from—shouting matches, long silences, the look on his face that said he didn't trust me anymore. That season pushed me to learn what repair actually looks like, and how to rebuild trust when it feels like you've broken something precious.
Now I work with parents of strong‑willed, sensitive, and struggling kids and teens, helping them move from constant rupture and reactivity into calmer, more connected leadership at home—where mistakes don't mean the end of the relationship, they mean the beginning of repair.
I'm trained through the International Coaching Institute and hold an Advanced Diploma in Drug and Alcohol, but what usually matters most to parents is this: I know how terrifying it feels when you think you've damaged the relationship beyond fixing—and I know there's a way to come back, even from the hardest seasons."

Practical Details

• When: Wednesday, 4 February 2026, 11:00am – 12:00pm AEDT
• Where: Online via Zoom
• Cost: Free

Call to Action
Click "Attend" to save your spot and receive the Zoom link.
If you know another parent who's carrying the weight of past mistakes—who lies awake replaying the fights, who worries they've shouted or shut down too many times, who wants their child to feel safe with them again but doesn't know where to start—you're warmly invited to share this event with them.
Sometimes the most powerful thing we can teach our children is not that we never mess up, but that we know how to come back.
See you there.

Angelique
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