Knowing Your Relational, Emotional and Psychological issues

Curiosity is one of the most extraordinary and underestimated forces of the human mind.
It is the power that can transform fear into openness, routine into discovery, and pain into awareness.
Every time we choose to be curious, reality itself changes.
Curiosity doesn’t just observe — it creates.
It reshapes perception, activates new neural pathways, changes our emotional state, and allows us to live in entirely new inner worlds.
When we stop being curious, life turns into repetition.
We may change country, friends, or job, but inside we stay the same.
We keep meeting the same patterns, the same disappointments, the same emotional stories in new disguises.
Without curiosity, the mind doesn’t explore, it simply replays.
But when curiosity returns, the world becomes alive again.
Because how we look at things transforms what we see.

The Psychology of Curiosity
From a psychological point of view, curiosity is the foundation of growth and inner freedom.
It is the opposite of fear, rigidity, and defense.
It is the natural movement of the psyche toward expansion.
In Schema Therapy, maladaptive schemas keep us trapped inside rigid mental realities.
Each schema filters life through a fixed interpretation:

• The Defectiveness/Shame schema makes us see limits where there is potential.
• The Emotional Deprivation schema makes us feel emptiness even in the presence of love.
• The Subjugation schema convinces us to give up our voice to keep others close.

Each schema defines what we expect from life, and so we unconsciously recreate it again and again.
Curiosity is the force that breaks this inner hypnosis.
When we dare to ask, “What if this isn’t true? What if it could be different?”,
we introduce a spark of freedom into the system.
The brain shifts attention from fear to possibility, and in that moment, new neural connections are born.
Curiosity doesn’t only expand knowledge — it heals.

The Cognitive Dimension
Cognitively, curiosity represents mental flexibility — the ability to think beyond what we already know.
It allows us to hold uncertainty without anxiety and to replace judgment with exploration.
Neuroscience shows that curiosity:

• activates the dopaminergic reward system, creating motivation and pleasure;
• stimulates the hippocampus, forming new associative memories;
• reduces activity in the default mode network, the system responsible for rumination and self-criticism.

In other words, curiosity keeps the brain young, plastic, and creative.
It is not just a mental attitude — it is a neurobiological state of openness.
When curiosity is alive, our thoughts flow more freely, our learning deepens, and our attention becomes a creative force.

The Emotional Power of Curiosity
Emotionally, curiosity is a form of courage.
It means staying present even when we don’t understand, even when it hurts.
It transforms avoidance into discovery and anxiety into movement.
When we bring curiosity to our own emotional world, we stop fighting parts of ourselves and begin to understand them.
A curious mind can hold pain with compassion.
Curiosity says to the inner child, “I want to know you. I’m not afraid of what I’ll find.”
In therapy, curiosity is one of the most healing forces.
A curious therapist listens without trying to fix, explains without labeling, and invites the client into a space of shared exploration.
When the therapist embodies curiosity, the patient begins to look at themselves through the same gentle eyes.
And in that moment, healing begins.

Curiosity and Reality
Every act of curiosity is an act of creation.
When you change the way you look at something, you change what that thing becomes in your mind — and therefore in your experience.
Neuroscience confirms that perception is not passive; it is an active construction of the brain.
Reality is not fixed. It responds to the quality of our attention.
Curiosity is the highest and most vital form of attention.
It reorganizes the mind, updates memories, and reshapes emotional meaning.
The absence of curiosity, on the other hand, traps us in the same inner movie, played again and again in different settings.
You can move to another country, meet new people, start a new career — but if you look through the same lenses, you will meet the same patterns.
Curiosity is the power that stops the repetition.
When you look with curiosity, the world becomes new again.
You see colors you never noticed, hear tones you had ignored, and feel life returning to you.
Curiosity doesn’t change external events, it changes your level of consciousness, and that changes everything.

> “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.”
> (Matthew 7:7)

To be curious is to knock on the door of life — and life always answers.

Curiosity and the Spirit
Curiosity is not only a mental process. It is also a spiritual posture.
To be curious is to say yes to mystery, to accept that not everything needs to be controlled or understood.
It is faith in motion — the willingness to keep exploring, to keep asking, to stay humble before the infinite.
In that sense, curiosity unites science and spirituality.
It is the voice of the Spirit that moves us toward growth, understanding, and connection.
Each time we are curious, we open a channel between mind and soul, between knowledge and wonder.

What You Will Experience
In this 2-hour live presentation, Alessandro Carmelita, clinical psychologist, international trainer, and creator of the Mindful Interbeing Mirror Therapy, will guide you through:

• how curiosity reshapes the brain and emotions;
• how rigid schemas suppress curiosity and how to reopen them;
• how to cultivate curiosity in daily life and relationships;
• how curiosity can become a form of self-compassion and inner transformation.

This event will be both inspirational and experiential, combining psychology, neuroscience, and spirituality to awaken your natural sense of wonder and vitality.
You will leave with new insights, a renewed sense of presence, and practical tools to keep curiosity alive in your everyday life.

A Path That Continues on CloseByYou
This event is the opening gateway to a deeper journey:
The Curiosity Training, hosted on www.closebyyou.com.
It will be a 10-module program, one module each month, exploring how to train and strengthen curiosity as a living force within you —
psychologically, emotionally, relationally, and spiritually.
Each session will include guided practices, experiential learning, and integrative reflection designed to help you not only understand curiosity but live through it.
Step by step, you will learn to let curiosity reshape your perceptions, relationships, and inner world — until life itself begins to feel new again.

Maybe you’ve read countless books, analysed your childhood, talked endlessly about your problems, and even changed therapists after therapist. And still, here you are, seeing your patterns, understanding them perfectly, yet feeling powerless to break free.
So what’s the truth?
Is there something wrong with you?
Are you somehow beyond change?
Are you condemned to repeat the same pain, again and again?
The answer is no. There is nothing wrong with you, but there is something deeply human happening within you. Your brain, your emotions, and your body have learned to protect you in ways that once made sense, even if now they keep you trapped.
In this transformative event, we’ll explore why awareness doesn’t automatically lead to change and what truly makes transformation possible. Drawing on Schema Therapy, Mindful Interbeing Mirror Therapy (MIMT), and the latest findings in neuroscience, we’ll discover:

• Why emotional memories override logic and insight
• How the brain’s protective systems keep us “safe” in familiar suffering
• The hidden link between attachment, shame, and resistance to growth
• How to activate real change through emotional connection, compassion, and presence

There are no magic formulas, but there is a clear, evidence-based understanding of how change happens when we stop fighting our mind and start listening to it with awareness and care.
The event is divided into two parts:

• In the first half, the teacher presents a lecture. Participants are not visible and cannot interact. This part is recorded to allow everyone—including those who cannot attend live—to watch it later on demand, while protecting everyone’s privacy.
• In the second half, the recording stops, and the space becomes fully interactive. Everyone can be seen and heard, ask questions, share personal experiences, and support one another. It’s an open, safe, and human moment of connection where understanding turns into growth.

Join us to discover that you are not broken, just wired to survive. And that real transformation begins not when you try to fix yourself, but when you finally learn how your brain and your heart are asking to be healed.

In the modern workplace, too many people move through their days exhausted, stressed, and disconnected from what truly matters. The pressure to perform and the endless chase for results often steal joy, creativity, and meaning. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
In this transformational session, you’ll discover how to rise above daily stress, reconnect with your deepest strengths, and create work that fuels rather than drains you. Drawing from the principles of Schema Therapy combined with high-performance habits, you’ll learn how to silence the inner critic, manage emotions with wisdom, and turn every challenge into an opportunity for growth.
This is not just about becoming a better employee. It’s about becoming a better human being at work — more resilient, more connected, more purposeful. You’ll leave with clear, actionable strategies to show up with energy, to collaborate with authenticity, and to bring your very best self into everything you do.