What we’re about
Remake The Rules is a space for thoughtful people navigating modern decision-making in a world full of noise, tools, systems, and overwhelm. Led by Emily Pabst, ChoiceTech Consultant and Coach, these gatherings explore how we make decisions—big and small—when we’re inundated with input, options, and outdated advice.
This space is for slowing down, thinking clearly, and exploring new ways forward.
If you're:
-Tired of burnout cycles and app fatigue
-Stuck between too many options and not enough movement
-Doing everything "right" but still feeling off
-Curious about decision-making, tech design, or systemic pressure
…you’ll feel at home here.
We cover topics like choicetech, decision fatigue, app dysfunction, information overwhelm, choice overload, hybrid human-tech systems, choice inflation, and more—through real talk and simple frameworks that meet you where you are.
Learn more at remaketherules.com.
Upcoming events (4+)
See all- Let’s Talk AIBarFly at the Alamo, Denver, CO
AI is changing more than just headlines—it’s reshaping how we think, work, create, and decide. This low-key gathering is for people who like to think out loud about how to live well in a hybrid human-tech world.
Hosted by Remake The Rules, this casual night of connection includes a few light prompts to spark reflection and conversation. Curious minds and good company welcome.
Possible prompts:
– What’s the first thing you heard about AI—and how did it make you feel?
– What decisions do you delegate to tech without thinking about it?
– How has AI helped or hurt your creative flow?
– Do algorithms know your desires—or shape them?
– What's something you wish tech could do for you?
– What parts of your life do you not want tech or AI involved in—and why?Curious how AI is reshaping not just technology, but how we think, choose, and understand ourselves?
Ahead of our upcoming conversation, you're invited you to read this short piece from Remake The Rules: “From Darwin to Data: How AI Continues Humanity’s Greatest Reframing.”
It explores how artificial intelligence joins a long history of humbling forces—like evolution and the unconscious—and asks what it means to live well in a world shaped by choicetech, decision fatigue, and shifting definitions of creativity and control.
Read it before the meetup—or just come with curiosity.
- More Apps, More Choices, More Overwhelm: Finding Balance in a Digital WorldLink visible for attendeesUSD 15.00
You’re not imagining it—decisions feel heavier in today’s tech-rich world. From what to eat for dinner to how you run your business (or your love life), the powerful systems we rely on—what I call ChoiceTech—deliver more information and opportunities than ever before. But with that power comes new patterns of thinking, new tradeoffs, and the need for new ways of collaborating with these tools so they serve us well.
In this discussion, we’ll explore:
- Why decision fatigue happens and how it affects your work and personal life
- How ChoiceTech—the systems and tools shaping how we receive and process information—brings incredible benefits while also creating new pressures
- How much of your life is being reinvented by these hidden forces and how to work with them instead of feeling controlled by them
You’ll leave with a balanced perspective on how to collaborate with technology more intentionally, along with a simple tool for noticing where to amplify the benefits and reduce the downsides of ChoiceTech in your daily decisions.
(This is the first session in a 6-part series, but it also works as a standalone event.)
Emily Pabst is a ChoiceTech Consultant and Holistic Decision Coach helping people and organizations rethink how they interact with information, systems, and uncertainty. With a rare blend of technical fluency and human-centered insight, she works at the intersection of decision science, digital architecture, and personal growth—especially in areas like online dating, business overwhelm, and leadership strategy. Through her consultancy, Remake The Rules, Emily empowers clients to untangle complexity, collaborate more effectively with modern tools, and build decision-making habits that actually serve their goals. If you’ve ever felt stuck in analysis paralysis or unsure how to move forward, Emily offers something most systems don’t: actual transformation.
- Quiz and Connect: Commiserating for Online DatersTown Hall Collaborative, Denver, CO
Online dating is full of options—but are those options helping you find connection, or just adding to the overwhelm?
Join others for a relaxed, eye-opening evening where we explore how design, defaults, and digital systems shape our dating choices—often more than we realize.
You’ll take a short quiz (before or at the event) that explores how your swiping habits, app use, and messaging strategies reflect broader patterns of ChoiceTech. Then we’ll unpack our results together and share insights, stories, and “wait… same!” moments in good company.
What to expect:
– Take the quiz to reflect on your digital dating habits
– Swap stories, patterns, and dating app epiphanies with others navigating the same mess
– Hear new ways to understand your dating strategy (and how tech might be quietly influencing it)
– Learn from others’ experiences and get unstuck with fresh ideas
– Connect with curious, thoughtful people who are just as tired of the old dating scripts as you areThere’s no pressure and no performative sharing—just a supportive space to get curious about how our tools and choices intersect in modern love.
Who should join?
People dating online (or thinking about returning to the apps)
Anyone feeling decision fatigue, stuck patterns, or dating confusion
Folks who want better tools, better conversations, and better stories about what dating could beHosted by Emily Pabst, founder of Remake The Rules—so bring your questions, your curiosity, and your dating app screenshots (kidding... kind of).
- Let's Talk: AstrologyBarFly at the Alamo, Denver, CO
Astrology is a meaning-making tool with deep cultural roots. And in a world where decision-making often feels rushed, data-driven, or disembodied, it makes sense that people turn to something more symbolic, personal, and story-driven.
This casual meetup, hosted by Remake The Rules, is a space to explore why astrology resonates (or doesn’t), how people use it to navigate uncertainty, and what it tells us about our deeper desires for connection, self-understanding, and control in a chaotic world.
No readings. No eye rolling. Just a thoughtful conversation about the role astrology plays in how we orient ourselves in modern life—and what it means to seek meaning in a system that rarely makes space for nuance or mystery.
Possible prompts:
– What do you turn to when life feels overwhelming?
– Has astrology ever helped—or hindered—a decision?
– What need do you think astrology meets in people?
– Does a tool have to be true to be useful?
– When does astrology feel empowering vs. limiting?Curious why astrology still resonates in an age of algorithms, burnout, and decision fatigue?
Ahead of our upcoming conversation, you're invite you to read this short piece from Remake The Rules: Finding Yourself in the Stars: Astrology, Decision Fatigue, and the Search for Meaning in the Information Age.
It explores how symbolic systems like astrology offer relief, reflection, and ritual in a world that often demands speed, certainty, and optimization.
Read it before the meetup—or just come with curiosity.
