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This group is for single people in their 30’s & 40's looking for friends and/or a healthier way to date. It’s difficult to get to know people at this age, especially when you’re single. We hope to create fun, easy going events to help. This isn’t a dating group per se (though relationships happen ;) ... it’s for people who genuinely want to make real life connections.
Community Rules:
- 1. Everyone aged 28-49 are welcome to join.
- 2. Be respectful and kind.
- 3. Be honest and transparent.
- 4. Self-awareness and maturity are expected.
- 5. Do not touch anyone at events without explicit verbal consent from that person.
- 6. No harassing or overly negative, aggressive, or forward behavior.
- 7. Instead of asking for someone’s number, please give them yours instead so they can decide whether or not to contact you.
- 8. Do not direct message members you don't know.
- 9. Discrimination of any kind will not be tolerated. All races, genders, sexual orientations, and lifestyles are welcome.
- 10. Our group is “sex positive” meaning we promote an open, tolerant, and progressive attitude toward consensual sex and sexuality. Shaming will not be tolerated.
- 11. Enthusiastic, verbal consent is mandatory for any physical/romantic interactions.
- 12. Make sure to change your RSVP to "no" if you can no longer attend an event. If you no-show to 2+ events (leaving your RSVP as "yes" and not showing up) you will be removed from the group.
- 13. Members must use their real name (not a pseudonym) and a photo with their face in their Meetup profile. This helps many people feel safer coming to events.
PLEASE READ OUR NEW GROUP RULES AND MISCONDUCT POLICY HERE
**If you feel like a fellow group member has violated one of these rules or made you feel uncomfortable, please let the event host or another organizer (like Kristina, Max or Erin) know as soon as possible.**
Other Rules:
- Promoting your business, soliciting members, and/or trying to sell products or services to members is prohibited. This includes promoting dating and relationship services or events that are not affiliated with our group.
- Anyone with sexual offense or violent criminal convictions are not welcome in our group. If it's reported that someone has a sexual or violent criminal history they will be removed from the group. If you know of someone in who has joined our group that is a sex offender please notify our organizers immediately so we can remove them. All reports will stay anonymous.
- Some events require you to provide your own equipment and supplies (like camping and floating). You must have the basic listed items to attend and the group does not provide them. So please do not RSVP or attend if you do not have your own supplies.
- If you wish to bring a pet, child, or someone under 21 to an event, please ask the event host first.
- Any member that is rude to other members or venue staff will be banned from the group.
Group Costs:
- To help with group and event expenses I ask for a $2-3 donation for each event you attend unless it has an event fee. You can contribute on Venmo (@PDX_SINGLES) or pay an organizer at the event.
- Our dating "wristband" events and dating workshops have ticket fees.
Age Requirements:
If you are over 28 then you are welcome to join. The upper limit for joining our group is 49. Existing active members may remain in our group till the age of 53. The age limits are to keep everyone in a relatable life stage. Please do not join if you are outside these ages as we've had issues arise recently due generational differences and older men preying on significantly younger women. We do not make individual exceptions to the age the requirements so do not message to ask. If you disclose after you join that you are outside these ages you will be removed and banned from the group.
Harassment and Phishing:
Harassment, phishing, or spamming our members will not be tolerated and you will be removed from the group. That also includes messaging multiple members in an attempt to score a date/hook up. That is phishing and is grounds for removal. Please do not message members you do not already know. This makes people very uncomfortable and is considered predatory behavior. If you are a member and feel like another member is harassing you via direct messaging or in person at our events please notify Kristina, Max, Erin or another group organizer immediately.
We also have a zero tolerance policy for poor behavior at our events or on the online platform. This includes being too forward in asking people out and making them feel uncomfortable. If you ask someone out they do not give you an enthusiastic "yes" then move on and do not ask them out again. Please review our misconduct policy here.
Discord Server:
We have an active Discord server community that is a great way to interact with group member's outside of the events. To join the server you must be an attending member of our Meetup events by having attended at least 1 in person event. Join here: https://discord.gg/tn66X4Qdxv
Événements à venir (4+)
Tout voir- Science on Tap: The Surprising Lives of America’s Rarest Butterflies 🦋Kiggins Theatre, Vancouver, WA
This is a pretty niche event, but whoever signs up is bound to have a bit in common. So if you're single and a little nerdy about science, nature, pollinators, endangered species, plants, beer, or learning new things... join us!
Here's the blurb for the event: "You’ve probably heard of monarch butterflies, but have you heard of a Bartram’s scrub-hairstreak? What about a St. Francis’ satyr? A Taylor’s checkerspot? In the United States there are 21 butterfly species listed as federally threatened or endangered under the Endangered Species Act. All of these butterflies have unique ecologies that help them survive, whether it’s relying on a particular ant species for protection, or the regular bombing of artillery ranges to maintain habitat, or waiting for rain. With recent headlines of butterfly declines in the news, learn what conservation scientists are doing to try to recover some of America’s rarest butterflies and what you can do for butterflies in your own backyard."
And here's a bit more about Science on Tap: "Science on Tap is an event series based in Portland, OR, where you can sit back, enjoy a pint, and laugh while you learn. Listen to experts talk about the science in your neighborhood and around the world. You don’t have to be a science geek to have fun—all you need is a thirst for knowledge!"
For more info on this event, go here.
Care to join us?
- Get your general admission ticket here (they're $20 plus a $1 fee)
- Let's meet up at Kiggins Theatre in downtown Vancouver at 6:30 so we can grab seats together, get a drink/snack, and chat a bit before the presentation starts at 7. (If anyone wants to carpool, feel free to coordinate that in the comments.)
Any questions? Comment below or message me/Kristina.
- Book discussion: Atomic Habits by James ClearSlow Pour Coffee + Bar, Portland, OR
Want to read "Atomic Habits" and talk about it with other single folks? And maybe learn some tricks to make that thing you've always been meaning to do regularly (exercise, meditate, drink water, keep the living room clean, etc.) stick as a long-term habit? Let's do it together.
Wait, what is this book?
It's a legit New York Times bestseller (on the list for the past 282 weeks!) that's described as "a comprehensive, practical guide on how to change your habits and get 1% better every day." Here's another blurb about Atomic Habits and its author: "James Clear, one of the world's leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results."What do I need to do before this event on June 13th?
Read the book, or a good chunk of it :-)Where are we meeting?
Slow Pour Coffee + Bar in SE Portland / Sellwood. They know we're coming, and to show our appreciation, please plan to purchase a few drinks/food items to support the venue. Let's also make sure to all be out the doors before they close at 10 pm. (Feel free to keep the party going at a nearby watering hole!)How will we discuss the book?
We'll chat about the book in small groups at tables, and periodically take breaks (whenever you want) and come back and find another table/group of people to chat with... or you can stick with the same people if you want. It's pretty casual — take breaks when you want, talk with who you want, and let's all have a good time. I'll print out some discussion questions and guidelines (don't steamroll, be polite, etc.) in case those are helpful too.Where can I get the book?
Just in case this helpful... don't feel like you have to buy a new hard copy of the book to participate. You can get it from your local library, the Libby app (ebook and audio book copies from the library), a local book store with used copies, etc.Housekeeping
Please keep your RSVP up to date and sign in when you arrive. This really helps us out! It also ensures you won't get marked as a no-show. (We periodically remove people from the group who have 2+ no-shows.)Any questions? Let me know in the comments.
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Tips for making a connection at/after the event
- If you meet someone you'd like to get to know more outside of the Meetup (romantically or platonically), you can:
- >>> Give them your phone number (as opposed to asking for theirs), so the ball's in their court to text you later if they're also interested. You can do this in person, or via a Meetup message if their settings allow you to message them.
- >>> Add them as a "connection" on Meetup after the event. If they add you too, you'll definitely be able to message each other. You can add 3 connections after an event (without ever paying for Meetup+). Learn more here.
- Check your privacy/messaging settings to see if they're how you want them. You can set it to only allow "connections" and group organizers to message you, or to let all members of your groups message you.
- Make sure to follow the Community Rules in this group's About section. These include no harassing or overly forward behavior, no messaging people you haven't met, no touching without consent, and being respectful and honest. If anyone violates these rules or makes you feel uncomfortable, please let the event host (like Kristina) know right away or reach out to another organizer in the group (like Max, Kevin, Cory, or Erin).
- Portland Water Lantern FestivalLaurelhurst Park, Portland, OR
The Portland Water Lantern Festival is a nighttime event held in Laurelhurst Park in Portland, Oregon, on Saturday, June 14, 2025, from 6 p.m. to 10 p.m. It's a celebration of light and community. The event offers a unique and enchanting experience with thousands of floating lanterns reflecting on the water, creating a beautiful and serene atmosphere.
Food and Entertainment:
Enjoy tasty food trucks, fun music, and various activities during the evening.Can I bring my pet? For the safety and comfort of all attendees, I kindly ask that you leave them at home, unless they are service animals.
Please note: Festivals are difficult to organize. I will do my best to coordinate meeting points but I want to enjoy the festival as well so once the festival gets started, I will not be responsible for everyone’s whereabouts. I encourage everyone to explore all of the awesome events the festival has to offer.
Tickets and more information Water Lantern Festival
To ensure no-shows as well has having an equal number of ratio to men and women there will be a waitlist for the event
