Most people do not fail because they lack motivation; they fail because something inside them quietly blocks the ability to create lasting routines. In this webinar, we explore exactly what those blocks are, how they form, and why they take control of your days without you even noticing. Healthy routines are not about forcing yourself; they are about understanding your emotional and psychological patterns and building a rhythm that supports your life instead of draining it. We look at the hidden mechanisms that break consistency, the stress responses that sabotage your intentions, and the schemas that push you to start strong and then collapse. Drawing from Schema Therapy, neuroscience and the real experience of thousands of people in CloseByYou, we identify the inner barriers that keep you stuck, and we show how to transform them into supportive forces. You will learn how to create routines that fit your mind, your emotions and your goals, and how small, consistent actions can change the quality of your life. This session gives you practical tools, clear direction and a grounded path to stability, wellbeing and success. And remember, you can watch all video recordings for free by registering at www.closebyyou.com.

### **1\. Why routines fail even when motivation is high**

* The invisible inner blocks that break consistency
* Why do you start with energy and collapse after a few days
* The emotional patterns that secretly control your behaviour
* How the nervous system reacts to change and why this matters

### **2\. Understanding your psychological patterns**

* The habits that drain your energy without you noticing
* The link between stress, avoidance and inconsistency
* How your emotional reactions shape your daily choices
* Why forcing yourself never works long-term

### **3\. Schema Therapy and daily routines**

* The schemas that sabotage healthy habits
* Failure
* Unrelenting Standards
* Emotional Deprivation
* Subjugation
* Approval Seeking
* How each schema influences motivation and follow-through
* Recognising the moment your schema takes over

### **4\. The neuroscience of routines that last**

* How habits form in the brain
* Why small steps work better than big intentions
* The role of repetition, safety and emotional grounding
* How to bypass resistance with a micro change

### **5\. Identifying your real block**

* Are you collapsing into avoidance or surrender
* Are you overcompensating with intensity
* Are you following a routine that does not match who you are
* How to discover what your mind truly needs to feel safe

### **6\. Designing routines that support your emotional system**

* How to create a rhythm your brain accepts
* How to match routines to your schemas and coping styles
* How to build a structure without pressure
* Examples of routines for stability, creativity and wellbeing

### **7\. The CloseByYou method for lasting change**

* Learning to work with yourself, not against yourself
* Practical strategies from real community experience
* How to find a balance between discipline and compassion
* How to build clarity through small, consistent actions

### **8\. Daily tools for success**

* Grounding practices you can use in 30 seconds
* Emotional reset techniques for difficult days
* The one per cent rule and how it transforms your mind
* How to use the mirror to stabilise your emotional state

### **9\. Building a routine that changes your life**

* How to keep going without collapsing
* How to recover after setbacks
* How to grow identity, direction and stability
* Moving from intention to action with confidence

### **10\. Final experiential practice and Q and A**

* Short grounding exercise to integrate your new routine
* Unrecorded Zoom session for sharing and questions

Knowing Your Relational, Emotional and Psychological issues

Alex

Miguel

Dijle Baburoglu

Jonathan

Varun Shori

Tania Phillips

Lucian Moldovanu

Adele Valentine

Adam

Gordon So

Yagmur

Frank

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Joël

Martyna 

Maryellen

BeccaG

Anika

Atticus Black 

Building Healthy and Successful Routines to Live a Good Life

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Anger is not the real problem. The real problem is what lies underneath. Most people are not angry because they want to be. They are angry because they have emotional needs that were never fully understood, never fully met and never fully expressed in a safe way.
In this webinar we explore anger through the lens of Schema Therapy and discover why anger explodes, why it shuts people down and why it creates distance instead of understanding. We will identify the schemas that intensify anger, such as emotional deprivation, mistrust, subjugation and defectiveness, and we will uncover the coping styles that transform fear, pain and loneliness into reactivity.
The goal of this session is not to suppress anger. The goal is to understand it, regulate it, and transform it into a clear, assertive voice that others can finally hear. Through practical exercises, grounding techniques, and mirror-based reflections, you will learn how to calm the emotional storm, reconnect with your needs, and communicate in a way that creates closeness rather than conflict.
This webinar helps you develop that gentle yet powerful voice within you. And remember, you can watch all video recordings for free by registering at www.closebyyou.com.

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# **Programme**

### **1\. What anger really is**

* Anger as a secondary emotion
* The emotional system behind explosive reactions
* Why anger is often a request for connection
* How the nervous system enters fight mode

### **2\. The Schema Therapy view of anger**

* Emotional Deprivation schema and unmet needs
* Mistrust and Abuse schema and defensive anger
* Subjugation schema and the rage of feeling unheard
* Defectiveness and Shame schema and self-directed anger

### **3\. Coping styles that distort anger**

* Overcompensation, when anger becomes control or aggression
* Avoidance, when anger turns into cold distance
* Surrender, when you explode and then collapse into guilt
* How these strategies block healthy communication

### **4\. The moment anger takes over**

* Understanding emotional flooding
* Physical signs that the emotional brain is in charge
* Why logical thinking shuts down
* How to recognise your personal early warning signals

### **5\. Learning to regulate anger**

* Grounding techniques to calm the body
* Breathing practices that reduce reactivity
* How to pause without suppressing what you feel
* Creating emotional space before speaking

### **6\. Meeting the vulnerable self behind anger**

* Using imagery to connect with the hidden pain
* Mirror based work inspired by Mindful Interbeing Mirror Therapy
* How to meet your inner child who feels unheard or unsafe
* Transforming anger into clarity, not silence

### **7\. Communicating to be heard**

* How to express needs without attacking
* What assertiveness really means
* How to break the cycle of escalation
* How to create closeness during difficult conversations

### **8\. Final experiential exercise and Q and A**

* A guided grounding and reflection session
* Unrecorded Zoom space for questions and personal sharing

Julia

Kristina Beauvivre

Margherita

Mariana

Nanou

Elisha

linda baker

Eileen

SAHARA    SETORG

Ramiz Ali

Kathryn Coley

Katie

Joanna

Aditi

Emma Whitelaw

Understanding and Reducing Anger: A New Way to Be Heard

Mirror Psychology

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