Relationships & Intimacy: Seoul Honesty Online #29 (NOTE 3PM START)

Hello friends,

Welcome to 2022! After a long break due to COVID, the Seoul Honesty Group returns in an online format. We're planning to stick with Skype and the current format for now. It's completely free, and you can find instructions below on how to join the discussion.

NOTICE – This week's meeting starts at 3pm KST, one hour earlier than the past few weeks.

Topic

This week's topic is relationships and intimacy. What does the word intimacy mean to you? People talk about physical/sexual intimacy, emotional intimacy, and other types as well. How do you relate this concept to relationships? What is the connection between intimacy, closeness, vulnerability and sharing?

What are the different levels of intimacy, and how do relationships progress through these stages? Why is intimacy scary? Can intimacy exist without trust? Can it exist without honesty? What can we do to create more intimacy in our lives, and is this a worthwhile goal?

Here is a video I found on this topic:

(Don't be confused by the first minute! Feel free to skip to 1:10, especially if you're not a native speaker. It's quite a powerful talk but not easy to understand)
(TED) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A3yBxsDv8lM

How to Join

1. Download Skype (available for PC, Android and IOS) and create an account
2. At the time the meeting starts, click 'Meet Now' in Skype
3. Click 'Join a Meeting'
4. Paste the link or code above into the meeting link/code box (it will only be shown to you when you RSVP)

For the sake of making the meeting smoother, please also test your microphone/webcam in advance to make sure everything is working, and try to be in a quiet place without too much background noise.

FAQ

Q. Do I still have to RSVP on Meetup?
A. Yes. Skype allows group calls of up 25 people, and we are currently experimenting with not capping the signups, but please RSVP on Meetup as well so we know how many people to expect.

Q. Do I need a webcam?
A. Yes. If there's a specific reason why you can't turn your camera on for a certain meeting then that's okay, but we are trying to create an atmosphere that is as similar to offline meetups as possible, so we expect all participants to be visible.

Q. What format will the meeting follow?
A. After a short introduction, the meeting will be held as a free and open discussion on the topic, with an opportunity at the end to give feedback to other members through Final Impressions. Check out the 'About' section on Meetup for more information on what to expect.

Q. Can I make an audio or video recording of the meeting?
A. No. Just like our offline meetings, we follow the principle 'What happens in Honesty Group, stays in Honesty Group.' Sharing personal details heard in a meeting with outsiders or attempting to make any audio or video recording of a meeting is grounds for removal from the group.

Q. Can I join even if I'm not located in Seoul?
A. Yes. The name of the group may be the same, but the advantage of an online format is that people from anywhere around the world can join. Some aspects of the discussion may be Korea-focused, but we're open to anyone in principle.

Q. Is there anything I should prepare?
A. Nothing specific. It's a good idea to read through the discussion question before coming though, and some members like to jot down thoughts on a notepad before or during the meeting.

If you have any questions or have trouble signing up or joining, please send a message to Martin through Meetup or on KakaoTalk: baimading101