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Welcome to Starting Over!

Divorce is one of the most stressful events that can happen to a human being. In our culture we rush to put a lid on emotions and the natural process that needs to happen to move forward successfully and freely. But you can't skip emotional steps! Just burying the feelings will not help us to learn from our experience, live authentically, or move forward with real freedom. We are a peer-led support group for men and women who are in any stage of separation, divorce or post-divorce. Our caring facilitators have all been through the divorce/breakup process in their own lives, but they also hold the scientific background to support us through such an overwhelming experience. Some of the topics we go through are:
-Recognizing what's happening to me
​-Dealing with loss
-The road to finding help
-Facing my anger
-Facing my depression
-Facing my loneliness
-Financial Survival
-Children Care
-New Relationships
-Moving On

We meet bi-monthly to help each other navigate the emotional roller coaster we all experience while going through this difficult time in our lives. We also share our personal experiences on getting through the legal process as this can seem quite overwhelming when life as you know it has been turned upside-down.

At our meetings we provide positive support in a NON-JUDGMENTAL setting where each member has a chance to discuss the evening's topic or any issue that is relevant to his/her situation. While divorce is an end of a marriage, it also provides the opportunity for starting over and rebuilding the life you want. Social activities are open to members who regularly attend support meetings. We meet every other week in the area of Rotterdam.

We request 15 euros at the end of each meeting (as you are able) to help defray meetup costs, these funds also go toward providing free or low-cost group events approximately twice per year. One is usually a holiday brunch at a restaurant.

Please note - Starting Over is first and foremost a support group, not a dating group.

Bring only your concerns, questions, open minds and warm hearts!


Geplande evenementen (4)

Face your Fears. Dare!


What is Fear? Fear is a vital response to physical or emotional danger. Erroneously, even if fear is here to protect us from dangerous situations, it is one of the feelings that makes us feel the weakest. The “ fight or flight mode”, as it’s scientifically called, makes us feel the need to escape, however, fear can be overcome if we stay IN the fearful situation. In this workshop you will get: In this workshop you will learn how to DARE! That’s right! ⁃ You will get the insight of what happens when we are afraid. ⁃ You will finally understand why we feel so uncomfortable in various, seemingly harmless situations. ⁃ You will learn step by step how you can overcome fear. ⁃ You will get all the needed tools to handle situations that make you feel terrified! In addition, after this seminar, you will be at the position to embrace and understand that fear is there to protect you and not to harm you. You will never hold yourself back again, neither you will feel that your life or job is in danger because of your fears. The application of the psychological tools is enormous and they will finally set you free from your “worst nightmares”. Don’t surrender to fear, learn how to dare and it will pay back! Contact me here for details LIMITED PLACES AVAILABLE - REGISTER NOW-https://www.eventbrite.com/e/face-your-fears-dare-tickets-73291241075 www.antiloneliness.com DATE: 07/03/2020 TIME:[masked] PLACE: Koninginnegracht 101, The Hague Kind regards, Vassia Sarantopoulou Counselor-Psychologist http://www.antiloneliness.com

Setting Boundaries, Taking control of your life


Taking control of your life can be challenging. Often we tend to trust other people more than ourselves, to value their opinion more than our own. However, by not taking responsibility, we give others the permission to be in charge of our lives. How can we change that? This workshop will give you all the necessary tools to understand your personal wills and empower you to take back the lost control. You will learn: ⁃ how to overcome the fear of being responsible for yourself. ⁃ How to trust your own choices. ⁃ How to say No even to loved ones or family ⁃ How to set your ground and create a safe space for yourself. ⁃ How to express your own needs without prioritizing others. But not only that: ​ ​“I think the workshop was more than just theory. A lot of learning from the input/views and experiences of the other participants.” I. “I do not know how to articulate properly what I feel. Sorry. But my feelings are overwhelmingly positive about the experience tonight.” A. “NO” is a complete sentence. Contact me here for details www.antiloneliness.com LIMITED PLACES AVAILABLE - REGISTER NOW-https://www.eventbrite.com/e/setting-boundaries-taking-control-of-your-life-tickets-73298998277 DATE: 20/5/2020 TIME:[masked] PLACE: Koninginnegracht 101, The Hague Kind regards, Vassia Sarantopoulou Counselor-Psychologist http://www.antiloneliness.com

Explain your Anger. Don't Express it! Express it!


If you are nice to everybody, then where is all your anger going?.. Why would anger be expressed in an explosive and not in a positive way? Anger is a healthy human emotion used as a natural response to real and unavoidable problems in our lives. Experiencing it can be liberating and even positive. Have you recently got out of a relationship where the other person never let you express how you felt about them, about your relationship or about the breakup? Now all these words that left unsaid are turning into anger, coming out sometimes randomly to people close to us, who have nothing to do with the real reason of the suppressed anger. Do you know how many emotions are hiding behind your angry face? Excessive or misplaced anger can be just the top of the iceberg; a mask hiding grief, embarrassment, rejection, regret, worry, etc. If we don't know what the source is, our physical and mental health but also our relationships with others can become seriously affected as soon as anger overtakes the control of our daily life. ​ How many times has your anger caught you by surprise? Were there any warning signs? Most of the times we can’t predict, get rid of, nor change the things or people that enrage us. But we can learn to spot the early signs or cause of our anger; we can learn to change the way we perceive it; and we can learn to control our reactions to it, without neglecting the expression of our feelings. Join us on this powerful workshop and let us guide you on an internal reflection about your anger and on how to manage it, using a healthy and adequate response. Join us and see the results yourself! “Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other to die." Contact me here for details LIMITED PLACES AVAILABLE - REGISTER NOW- https://www.eventbrite.com/e/explain-your-anger-dont-express-it-tickets-73293060517 www.antiloneliness.com FEES: from 90€ (INCLUDING: Handouts & Coffee/ tea/ nibbles) DAYS: 21/3/2020 TIME:[masked] PLACE: Koninginnegracht 101, The Hague “Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other to die." Kind regards, Vassia Sarantopoulou Counselor-Psychologist http://www.antiloneliness.com

Find your Inner Peace


What is Inner Peace? "Ego says, “Once everything falls into place, I'll feel peace.” Spirit says, “Find your peace, and then everything will fall into place.” -- We all know how difficult it is to achieve Inner Peace, even for people that they have been trained for that. We have to deal with distractions, rejection, setbacks, stress and difficult people on a daily basis and the same time we feel our energy and our emotional resources are running significantly low. Yes, it is difficult to find our Inner Peace, but in this workshop we will acquire some good tools in order to give ourselves a chance. Inner peace is one of the most powerful gifts to embrace and acknowledge. What is Inner Peace? Inner Peace is not the absence of confict from life, but the ability to cope with it. Inner peace is one of the most powerful gifts to embrace and acknowledge. It helps us open up to our true nature and rid ourselves of the distortions, therefore allowing us to feel more joy and love in our lives. ​ In this workshop you will learn: · New skills to cope with uncertainty, confusion and negative thinking · How to be more in control of our thoughts and emotions · How to deal with situations with calmness and reason, while we keep our inner balance · How to not let the external problems affect our sense of tranquility Join us in a safe environment, that is highly motivated and energized to support your awakening, your growth, and your inner exploration. ​Join us and give yourselves a chance to come closer to your Inner Peace. “World peace must develop from inner peace. Peace is not just mere absence of violence. Peace is, I think, the manifestation of human compassion.” ― Dalai Lama XIV LIMITED PLACES AVAILABLE - REGISTER NOW-https://www.eventbrite.com/e/find-your-inner-peace-tickets-73300095559 www.antiloneliness.com FEES: from 90€ (for more information, see tickets) (INCLUDING: Handouts & Coffee/tea/nibbles) DAYS: 04/07/2020 TIME:[masked] PLACE: Koninginnegracht 101, The Hague Kind regards, Vassia Sarantopoulou Counselor-Psychologist http://www.antiloneliness.com