The Erotic Mind (Jack Morin) — Non-Fiction Book Club

Non-Fictive Book Club #11
The Erotic Mind

On this fateful day of November 23rd, let us gather and have a candid discussion on The Erotic Mind!

Jack Morin's seminal book defines eroticism as the world of meaning around sex — as the interplay of sexual arousal with the challenges of living and loving. "The erotic is intricately connected with our hopes, expectations, struggles, and anxieties — everything that makes us human."

Building on his experience as sexual therapist and on a survey he conducted with over 350 participants, Jack Morin identifies patterns in attractions, turn-ons, and fantasies. With spicy stories and examples galore, Jack Morin then introduces the concept of a "Core Erotic Theme" — a common thread across all of one's most memorable turn-ons and fantasies, usually linked to one's childhood or life story — and helps clarify the different things we each might want to affirm through sex.

In this journey through the human psyche, Jack Morin also discusses differences between lust and limerence, import/export in romantic attractions, "the sexual equation", how to maintain desire in long-term partnerships, balancing intimacy & separateness, the reason for fetishes, how submission can feel empowering, the four cornerstones of excitement, and the conditions for peak encounters.

Let's meet and have an open discussion on the ideas of this very rich book, exchange personal insights and experiences, and together maybe see through the meaning around sex a bit more clearly!