Join us for an honest and intimate discussion about the silent pressure many women – and men – carry today: the pressure to be endlessly strong, independent, composed, and untouchable. Using the character of Miranda Hobbes as our starting point, we will explore how ambition, self-protection, and emotional restraint can slowly disconnect us from joy, intimacy, and ourselves.
Together, we’ll talk about:

* Why modern society glorifies the “strong, independent” persona
* How humor, sarcasm, and busyness often mask loneliness
* The hidden emotional cost of perfectionism
* The fear of vulnerability and why it blocks real connection
* How to soften without losing yourself
* How to build a life where strength includes tenderness

This event is for anyone who has ever felt exhausted from holding everything together, who struggles to open up, or who wants to understand the deeper emotional patterns behind the “I’m fine” mask.
Expect an evening of vulnerability, connection, and real stories.
A space where strength and softness can finally exist together.
Miranda Hobbes was a woman who succeeded in her career – but she never learned to enjoy it, or anything fully, because she never had peace. Always tense, always on guard, always ready to prove she was smarter, more capable, colder. Her sarcasm was her way of hiding how truly lonely she was. Anything that smelled like emotion felt like a threat to her – because emotions come with no rules, no guarantees, no control.
She played the role of the strong woman for so long that she no longer knew how to simply be a woman. Miranda was the type who seemed like she knew everything, but in reality had forgotten how to let go. How not to explain, not to plan, not to fix. And that’s why she seemed cold, when in truth she was just tired, tired of herself. Tangled in herself and her own constructs.
She is the face of an entire generation of women who, unfortunately, learned that it is safer to be brutally independent than loved. That it’s better to keep distance than risk getting hurt. And while the world praised her success, she was slowly fading on the inside, despite further attempts and choices. The coldness remained.
Miranda was never truly an example of strength – she was an example of how the constant pressure to be strong can make us empty. Because if you never allow yourself to be seen as weak, no one will ever see the real you, no matter how hard you try. What remains is only passive-aggressive humor and uncontrolled escapism.

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