Connecting You with Your Self

The most important relationship you have is the one with your Self.

Connecting You with Your Self (CYWY) is a free online community that has been gathering since 2006. Join multi-level yoga classes, a grief support group, energy alignments, and more, including this Circle.
Intentional Living Circles focus on Enneagram teachings that invite self-discovery.

Learn more about CYWY at www.connectingyouwithyourself.com
Topic: Working With Triggers Through Object Relations
Object Relations helps us see how present triggers connect to past stories. Reflect on recent examples that activated us and learn practical tools for working with future triggers. (Second in a two-part series on Object Relations, come to either or both.)

As infants, we needed others in our lives to keep us safe and give us care and belonging. We learned ways to relate to others in order to get our needs met. The experiences and patterns of relating continue to shape our experiences in adulthood. Object Relations offers us a framework for working with and understanding these patterns.
When something triggers us, it often points to earlier events or long-held stories about who we are and how others will treat us. Together, we explore how our personal Object Relations history shapes the way we interpret the “other” and how these interpretations color our reactions.

Last week, we looked at how this can play out in the Enneagram Object Relation triads and tendencies in type patterns. This week, we will look at real examples, which can be more complex and messier. What story was brought up when you were triggered, and how did it play out? Leave with practical tools you can use with future triggering events to bring more clarity and choice.

This is the first in a two-part series on Object Relations. Each workshop stands on its own, and you do not need to attend both.

Bio: Sophia Carmien is an Enneagram teacher and guide who helps people reconnect with their deeper selves by bringing awareness to inner patterns and expanding what’s possible. After experiencing a profound transformation through her own work with the Enneagram, she now shares this tool of ancient wisdom with others. Through teaching, workshops, and one-on-one work, she supports the shift from habitual reactivity to a life of freedom and empowered authenticity. Website: www.essentialwholeness.life

Reach out with any questions,
Nancy Markow
Founder of CYWY
www.connectingyouwithyourself.com

Learn more about Connecting You with Your Self at www.connectingyouwithyourself.com

Guide: Anca Kuns, Usui Reiki Master www.beyondorionenergy.com www.youtube.com/@ancakuns

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The Breath That Knows

A Harmonic Breath Series for Nervous System Coherence
Description:
Step into a field of resonance where your body remembers what the mind cannot explain.
“The Breath That Knows” is an ongoing energy alignment series dedicated to helping you develop embodied coherence through guided breath, subtle awareness, and energetic stabilization. Each session invites your nervous system to harmonize with what is already true—beneath tension, beyond thought.

What to Expect:

• Gentle group attunement through harmonic-informed breath
• Nervous system recalibration without force
• Deep stillness, presence, and body-centered insight
• Space to reflect and integrate in a supportive field

This isn’t performance or breathwork as exertion—this is energetic listening through breath, revealing the intelligence already within you.
No prior experience required. Just bring yourself and your breath.

Hosted in an intimate, grounded setting.
You’ll leave each session clearer, lighter, and more you.

Note on arriving late:
I allow a 5–7 minute settling-in window at the start. After that, the space closes to new arrivals (especially if I don't recognize your name) to honor the group’s focus. Thank you for respecting the container and everyone present.
I see you.
I celebrate you.

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Short Description: The Enneagram’s Object Relations triads show three ways we relate to others to get our needs met. We will look at how each type expresses its pattern and reflect on how they show up in us.

From the time we are born, we all have needs for belonging, protection, and care, and we look to others to meet those needs. Object Relations theory shows us how the patterns that start as infants continue through life, shaping how we relate to others in our lives.

In this Intentional Living Circle, we will explore the Object Relations Triads to see type patterns when it comes to Object Relations. Each triad has a distinct way of relating to the “other” in order to get a key need met. We will examine how each type within a triad expresses its core relational dynamic and how these patterns influence connection and expectation.

We will reflect on how these approaches show up in us and how they shape the roles we give to ourselves and others. The session invites us to grow our awareness of the ways we protect ourselves, the ways we idealize others, and the ways we merge with or pull away from them. By seeing these patterns more clearly, we open space for choice and deeper understanding.

This is the second of a two-part series on Object Relations. Each workshop stands on its own, and you do not need to attend both.

Bio: Sophia Carmien is an Enneagram teacher and guide who helps people reconnect with their deeper selves by bringing awareness to inner patterns and expanding what’s possible. After experiencing a profound transformation through her own work with the Enneagram, she now shares this tool of ancient wisdom with others. Through teaching, workshops, and one-on-one work, she supports the shift from habitual reactivity to a life of freedom and empowered authenticity. Website: www.essentialwholeness.life

Connecting You with Your Self (CYWY) is a free online community that has been gathering since 2006. Join multi-level yoga classes, a grief support group, energy alignments, and more, including this Circle.

Intentional Living Circles like this focus on Enneagram teachings that invite self-discovery.

The most important relationship you have is the one with your Self.
Learn more about CYWY at www.connectingyouwithyourself.com

Reach out with any questions,
Nancy Markow
Founder of CYWY
www.connectingyouwithyourself.com

Enneagram Colorado IEA is an affiliate (chapter) of the International Enneagram Association. Learn more about Enneagram Colorado IEA at www.EnneagramColorado.org

In-Person Monthly Members focus on connections, building community, networking, and learning from each other.

Guests are welcome with $5 fee

Attendees are invited to purchase their own dinner, then spend dinner time meeting other Enneagram enthusiasts and entrepreneurs. Each person is given time to introduce themselves and answer a question related to the evening's presentation topic. There is a space for sharing marketing materials, and you can volunteer to be a presenter, too!

Being a presenter is a great way for you to share questions about the Enneagram or offer instruction, promoting your Enneagram practice.

This month's Presenter: Kathy Watters
Description: Mindful Relationships using Enneagram

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