January 6, 2013
Back in Dallas, TX, where I lived many years, in my 30's and still unmarried I attended for a few years a lot of personal growth classes and workshops. These were usually around a growth theme, but also icebreakers, and personal sharing time--something of our history and hopes for the future. If the group was more than a few, we would break up into very small groups of 3 or 4, and share/listen there.....then maybe change groups a few times during the workshop. So there was a real focus on people--getting to know others and sharing who I am with them. Once in awhile I wound up dating women I met there, but far more often made geniune new friends, really good friends that I now knew quite a bit about and was interested in. Now, and here in Portland, it seems that almost all groups have to be busy doing something or going somewhere, and getting to know each other more than superficially is not valued. I long for a group where we can skip so much "stuff" and meet each other.
Since I retired almost two years ago, from a close knit large office with lots of pretty good friends, I have found it harder to connect to new people authentically. Would hope to do so here.