This is a very unique kind of meetup. It is based in Nonviolent Communication, an ever-evolving, organic process of building deeper, more harmonious relationships. NVC (Nonviolent Communication) is seen by some as a missing link between spiritual meditation practices and the creation of more authentic, satisfying human connections. Meditation helps us to get centered in that heart-space which facilitates this process. So, many of our meetups include a brief meditation or two. For a real-life example of nonviolent communication, be sure to read our special RSVP request at bottom of this page before you RSVP.
About the format:
This meetup is facilitated by Steve Pollack, a seasoned mediator and communication coach/consultant who specializes in nonviolent communication.
Instead of a structured round-robin approach, this group is a focused communication "clinic." Rather than doing exercises from workbooks, Steve prefers to work spontaneously by sensing when something real is very alive for someone in the moment. He prefers to delve into questions or dilemmas presented by a few people, and address them gently before the group for as long as that is helpful. Role plays may be used to illustrate a situation in a dramatic and/or humorous way. Seeing a few people come to a deeper understanding or resolution can be profoundly helpful and supportive to everyone. That's because the principles of compassionate communication are universal. We all learn from each situation, just as the facilitator is constantly learning and growing from each new interaction.
If you have a particular concern you want addressed, consider attending a few consecutive meetings to have it addressed more fully. You can always arrive early and make a request of the facilitator to address any concerns during the group. Still, there is no guarantee that Steve will give each person equal time or attention. Private consultations are available separately as an alternative.
All of our meetings include absolute confidentiality rules/requests. Our goal is to bring people together in peace and harmony, in an emotionally safe environment. Therefore controversial subjects such as politics and religion may be mentioned briefly as a point of reference, but are not discussed in depth at our meet-ups.
Parking and socializing...
It may take some time to find parking; feel free to call if you need help. If you want to relax and enjoy getting acquainted with people in the group (much more fun and highly recommended) please plan to arrive as much as 15 or 20 minutes early. Running late? Then kindly wait until 15 minutes after the scheduled start time to enter, since the group will most likely be in silent meditation mode. If you can power down your phone and other devices before entering, that will help the group to focus and avoid distractions.
About the philosophy of NVC:
We all have some pre-programmed patterns of communication when our needs are not being met. Many of us learned these patterns as children. We raise our voice and evaluate what is wrong with others. We criticize and punish ourselves and others. This triggers deep pain and hurt. We then go on to make harsh accusations or demands which can easily damage or even end relationships. Or, just as painful, we hold our tongue and keep all our toxic judgments inside. There they fester and cause depression, or take the joy out of our relationships.
The "Build Compassionate Relationships" meetup group is based in Nonviolent Communication. NVC, as it is called, is a process pioneered by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg. His book, "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life," supports us in finding ways to connect more compassionately. (To read the first chapter for free online, see link near bottom of this page.)
There is an emphasis on the art of making gentle requests in ways that are much more likely to get our needs met. We also learn how to give deeply healing empathy to others, and to ourselves.
No Announcements/Promotions, please!
This Meetup group is dedicated specifically to the sharing, teaching and learning of NVC. If you want to share other information, we ask that you get acquainted with people's individual likes and interests and share with them discreetly, one on one, but not with announcements at our gatherings. You may want to ask an individual if you can send an email through this Meetup page (if their email preferences are open to that).
There is currently no charge to attend...
Steve is sharing his skills and expertise from over 15 years of training and experience. While $10 is a suggested donation amount, he does appreciate greatly any contributions made out of gratitude, from the heart, regardless of the amount. Currently there is only a contribution box. Since the group is growing, in the future there may be a charge to attend this meetup.
Our special RSVP request of you:
We're so happy to receive your "yes" RSVPs... But if something comes up and you forget to change your yes to a "no" ... we feel disappointed when we don't get to meet you. We need reliable responses because others may wish to attend, but can't if an RSVP is taking up one of the few open seats. Would you please commit to a "yes" by adding reminders/alerts on your phone or calendar? Then, please come! And if your plans change, kindly remember to change your "yes" to a "no" on this Meetup page. Thank you so much for remembering this special request.
On the above link, about 3/4 of the way down the page, there's a section entitled "Your First Time at Our Miami Support Groups." There you'll find a link to view the first chapter of Rosenberg's book at no cost. There is also a link to a 2-page orientation sheet for people new to the Build Compassionate Relationships group. If you can read it before attending, it will help to prepare you to derive maximum benefit from the meetup experience. We read the orientation sheet aloud occasionally at the start of meetings.
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