Dating English Style!

FOR WOMEN UNDER 35 & MEN UNDER 40.

Location: Santa Monica & surrounding cities.

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In England, the rules of the dating 'game' are very different from how they are here. They're so different, in fact, that to many people in LA, they can sound quite shocking. But the truth is that they really do work a lot better!

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RULE 1: You only date someone non-exclusively for the first 3 dates.

RULE 2: After 3 dates, if you don’t see enough potential in each other, you stop dating.

RULE 3: After 3 dates, if you do see enough potential in each other, you become boyfriend and girlfriend straight away! (The expression is, you ‘go out’ with each other.)

WHAT? THAT’S WAY TOO FAST!

No, it’s not – because it doesn’t mean that you’ve jumped straight into a full relationship involving deep emotions and sexual contact. All it means is that you like the person enough to focus your attention on them and stop seeing other people. It’s an act of kindness and consideration to each other, and it gives the relationship a much better chance of working. (Have you ever felt bad because the person you’re dating is also dating other people? Prolonged non-exclusive dating is self-destructive.)

Also, you CAN end the relationship at any time. You haven’t made a lifelong commitment to the other person. If, at ANY TIME, you change your mind, you simply break up with each other.

RULE 4: After 3 dates, after you’ve become boyfriend and girlfriend, there's the general assumption that it's probably ok to start holding hands and kissing each other occasionally and lightly. Of course, this is more of a guideline rather than a rule. Mutual consent to touch each other in any way at all is ALWAYS needed. And if more time is needed before both people can be comfortable with this, then that's absolutely fine! But to accept 'RULE 4' as a general guideline - to allow yourself to jump in a little bit and take a risk and see what it's like - can be very liberating, very rewarding, and very constructive!

RULE 5: Then you go as slow or as fast with your relationship as you are BOTH comfortable with.

RULE 6: If, at any time, you think it's not working, you should TELL the other person that it's over. To leave them waiting and hoping indefinitely for another date just isn't kind.

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Of course, many people here in LA would HATE dating by these rules, and that’s absolutely fine! I'm not here to impose any rules or ethics upon anyone! But if you’re willing to give them a try - if you're willing to abide by these rules in your interactions with all of this group's members - then join us today and sign up for our next event. Dating success might actually be a lot closer than you might previously have thought!

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P.S. Just so that there's no confusion: The above rules are simply this group's APPROXIMATION and GENERALIZATION to what it's like to date in England. There are no ACTUAL rules!