Welcome to our 110th Divorce Recovery Workshop!!!
Many workshop participants come back for future workshops, since we are usually only able to relate to part of it the first time through. We welcome returnees for life, regardless of what is happening in our lives.
In this first session of an 8-week series, we will discuss who we are, what we are doing, and what we hope to gain or accomplish from the workshop:
a. Our history
b. Our purpose: to have a safe place to talk about what happened
c. Small group structure
d. Fee ($50 lifetime with scholarships available) and materials
e. Book: Bruce Fisher’s Rebuilding
f. Ground Rules:
ii. Share personal experience
iii. Avoid crosstalk, questioning, advice-giving
iv. Seek openness, but not mandatory
v. Feeling level rather than factual
vi. No dating of other workshop participants during the eight weeks.
On your LOSS:
a. Your loss is real
b. Various kinds of loss: divorce, separation, death
c. Not all of the workshop will apply to you.
d. We/You are not unique; the chart applies to most of us.
e. You are not going crazy (usually).
f. Allow yourself to experience the grief and pain.
g. A rebuilding process lies ahead – recovery must be deliberate.
h. Time alone is not the “cure.”
i. This will help you, your kids, and your future emotional/physical health.
1. After the shock comes the first rebuilding block: denial.
2. Recognizing grief reactions
3. Why me? Why now?
4. The blame game
5. Idealizing the relationship
6. Entertaining false hopes
7. Is it over? Maybe, maybe not.
8. Have I made a mistake?
9. Be honest about the relationship
10. How did the relationship begin? (see list A)
11. What changes occurred along the way? (see list B)
12. The “if onlys”
13. Our memories are short – we forget the bad stuff.
14. Accepting responsibility
15. Relationships will end, does not mean we are failures or bad people.
After the topic presentation, we break into small groups for talking about our own situations.