First, a disclaimer: We are not a sex group. Yes, sex is a good thing that happens within healthy poly families. Our focus here is on building healthy poly families of many different types. Nor is this a place for those who call cheating on their spouse, poly, for poly must be consensual, with honesty. We are not a swinger group. This is not the place for those not currently in a relationship, to shop for one.
This is not to say that sex outside of a committed family is wrong or that swingers are wrong. It's just not us as a group. There are many singles dating, sex and swinger groups in our area which offer a different perspective.
Based on the advice of another Meetup organizer, we are making our membership conditional on attending an event: 1) within three months of joining, and 2: at least once a year. We need to keep the inactive membership size down as Meetup charges us a fee based on our membership size, and we cannot carry a large membership of people who never attend events. I guarantee, that this decision has nothing to do with you or the content of your application.
Once you have attended an event, please reapply and advise me of when you attended.
That said, please attend our Polyamory Meetup, the second Saturday of the month, at the IHOP Restaurant in Upland, to meet other supporters of nonmonogamous relationships and poly families. Talk about open relationships, polyfidelity, polyamory, honesty, respect and alternate forms of commitment. Typical topics discussed will be family structure, children, conflict resolution, communication, compersion, jealousy avoidance, how the lifestyle works, and what doesn't work, adding new partners, and many others.
Once you do attend an event, If you would like to join this Meetup, Please fill out ALL THE PROFILE QUESTIONS. (If you do not fill out all of the questions, your membership will probably be denied. While we do not require members to be actively involved in a poly relationship, we would hope that when you join that you have either had experience in a poly relationship or dating at least one person who is also interested in poly.
If in the course of discussion we conclude that a member is cheating on their primary, or anyone in their family for that member, we will probably suspend their membership. This has nothing to do with imposing our morality on others than it does in fostering an environment of open consent.
We use these questions to make sure that those who join have at least read the information on the about us page (See link on the left side of the page) and are serious about wanting to know more about the lifestyle. The questions also serve to let the other members know what your "model" of a Poly relationship would look like. Yes, this means your answers to the questions will be visible to the rest of the group. It is of benefit to both the group and to yourselves to answer these questions honestly. Please check out our "ABOUT US" page (See link on the left side of the page).
The links on there will give you an idea what Polyamoryis all about (they are also posted below). Many members here are on OKCupid (http://www.okcupid.com), it's FREE!!
Since we are family oriented, children are welcome. We ask for a $2 donation at the meetup to help cover the expense of running the meetups, but no one is ever turned away for an inability to contribute. You are also invited to contribute more. We ask that when we meet in a restaurant, you patrionize that restaurant by eating something there. The courtesy the extend by offering their space should be acknowledged. welcome all poly and poly friendly individuals, groups and families.
We generally hope to have between 10 and 20 people who show up at our main meetup each month. Again, our main event is held in Upland on the 2nd Saturday of the month at IHOP Restaurant, hosted by Bear, Rikki, and Rochelle. We offer other activities together as well--movies, hikes, camping, etc.
Please remember that this group is based on the premise of all successful relationships should be open and honest, as well as foster communication, respect and tolerance of our individual beliefs and philosophies. We may not always agree with one another, but we still need to respect each other. We are not here to change one another's beliefs, perceptions or expressions of those beliefs, we are here to support one another and possibly learn something in the process of getting to know one another. Along this vein, please note that we are not responsible for what others put on their profiles. If you see something you do not like, simply do not go to that profile.
This is a public forum, and while we do our best to pre-screen members, always follow the rules of internet safety and screen people yourself. (http://psychcentral.com/online_dating/safety.html)
***MEMBERS*** Please RSVP every month. Even if you RSVP "NO", it allows us to see who is active on the board. ***THANK YOU***
New members must be approved by the Organizer
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