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Create a definite plan - "Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire, and begin at once to put this plan into action."--Napoleon Hill What are the presumptions in this sentence? 1) That you have clarified your wants into a very few definite a David R. May 24, 2017 4:27 AM
a definite chief end - "Both Poverty and Riches are the Offspring of Thought"--Napoleon Hill. I'm about 1/4 of the way back through "Think And Grow Rich" and again, Hill has restated his basic proposition in another way. He never directly states the "s David R. May 22, 2017 2:03 AM
You did not program yourself - "I realize the dominating thoughts of my mind will eventually reproduce themselves in outward, physical action and gradually transform themselves into physical reality, therefore, I will concentrate my thoughts for thirty minutes daily, upo David R. May 21, 2017 2:09 AM
Love, Faith, and Sex - "The emotions of Faith, Love, and Sex are the most powerful of all the major emotions"--Napoleon Hill. Again, I'm looking at "Think and Grow Rich", going back to the basics of my success education, looking to shore it up and plug loopholes. David R. May 20, 2017 4:09 AM
Only NOW exists - My postings haven't been as regular as I'd like, and once again, it's because life is so busy right the best possible ways. Television, film, fiction, non-fiction and lecturing are all popping at the same time. I'm dealing with my David R. May 18, 2017 2:35 AM
A few thoughts on relationships - The best guess I have about how to find a lasting relationship. 1) If sex was removed from the equation, you'd still be friends. If Tananarive had been a guy, we would have hung out and chased chicks together. No doubt. David R. May 17, 2017 5:22 AM
What are we, without fear of death? - I was writing about the Hero's Journey again on my Lifewriting list. The first step of course is recognizing and accepting the challenge. I had fun with that. And there are many forms of this, of course. But I find it useful to ask: what is David R. May 16, 2017 5:30 AM
What has lifted you from depression? - Studying the Hero's Journey, one of the things that must be carefully considered is the "Dark Night of the Soul", which is the seventh step (in the way I reckon things.) This is the moment in any life path when it feels that all of your inn David R. May 15, 2017 4:16 AM
Lining it up - Some very interesting things happen when you line up the Chakras properly. For instance (but not limited to) what happens when you make love to someone you love with whom you share a future. In such an instance you have sex (second), love ( David R. May 14, 2017 5:20 AM
Can We Change? - Something I said recently triggered a flurry of comments and emails, centered around the question of whether or not human beings can change. My answer: yes and no. It's tricky. No, I don't think our absolute essence change David R. May 13, 2017 2:39 AM
know ourselves - "To know oneself is to know everything"--this is a thought extracted from the Bagahvad Gita. I agree. If you go to Musashi "Know one thing, know ten thousand things" or even Jerry Pournelle's "If you master anything, you have the key to mas David R. May 12, 2017 2:11 AM
Concepts of excellence applied to an "ordinary" life - Recently, in comment on my discussion of Steve Muhammad's "four rules" for life, a reader offered not everyone wants high levels of achievement. I agree. But my attitude is that "not everyone wants to build the Sistine Chapel, but no one wa David R. May 11, 2017 2:26 AM
4-Part Balance - I've always enjoyed getting close to that elusive Big Game--the balanced human being--and studying them carefully. Having the unique circumstance of observing someone for 35 years, and THEN becoming friends with them (heck, we darn near adopte David R. May 10, 2017 2:05 AM
Can we control our lives? - Marty S. said: "Steve: We have less control over our lives than we like to think. Today we found out that our 6 year grandson has a potentially devastating leg disorder. He may have to be hospitalized and put into traction. The d David R. May 9, 2017 2:56 AM
Letter from a reader - I think that in one sense the "Power" of human beings is in direct relationship to the degree to which they identify with spiritual forces rather than anything operating on the normal human level of existence at all. But in terms of relatio David R. May 8, 2017 2:24 AM
Calibration - I've received email from three different people over the last week or so, from people trying to justify their belief that their bodies disobey the laws of physics. In other words, that they can decrease their caloric intake, maintain the sa David R. May 6, 2017 3:12 AM
Why Live? - Marty S. said: "For instance, let's accept that being overweight will shorten your lifespan. A longer lifespan may not be a goal of every individual. Your three criteria for being happy/successful are a great body, a great relati David R. May 5, 2017 3:15 AM
Fear of dying on a treadmill - Will Smith on the Laws of Success­=6anpCwPT9qA The most interesting quote: "The only thing different about me is that I'm not afraid of dying o David R. May 4, 2017 2:04 AM
Arjuna - While I've started watching the political scene over the last few years, I've always been very clear on the fact of my vast and gaping ignorance on many, many particulars. Navigating such treacherous waters on the basis of general principle David R. May 3, 2017 3:12 AM
the relationship between stress and strain - The fourth day is a consideration of the relationship between stress and strain. In short, it isn't stress you have to concern yourself with... it's STRAIN. The difference is that stress implies that you are under pressure. Strain is the de David R. May 2, 2017 3:57 AM
You're worth the fight - A question from a reader: "This is the sort of question you can answer on your blog, if I can figure out how to ask it anyway. I'm trying to figure out how and when a writer makes their writing time a priority. You write for a li David R. May 1, 2017 2:09 AM
The Quantum Jump - Just received this note from a student-- (Identifying characteristics have been changed, of course) Call her "Bonnie" ### Hey Steve, I need your advice on something. I have reached a pretty major emot David R. Apr 30, 2017 2:12 AM
The Mastermind--and Friendship - A very important question arose about friends, and when to "cut them off" from hurting you. The answer is--INSTANTLY. You don't have the life to waste. That doesn't mean hurting them, shaming them, or whatever--although, if you change your David R. Apr 29, 2017 2:12 AM
The conscious mind - Had a chance to speak to an old friend of mine who, just a couple of years ago, didn't believe that the subconscious mind really existed. It was all conscious to her. Now she believes it exists, but that the conscious is still the part that David R. Apr 28, 2017 2:27 AM
Are the rich born that way? - One of our readers, in a passionate letter, recently said: "The rich are born that way." While I have no idea of the background of this reader, this is a typical attitude of those born without money. Before I make my case, let me explain wh David R. Apr 27, 2017 2:14 AM
Liberals and Conservatives and Katrina - The Left generally has the attitude that the poor must be helped from above. The Right, that they must learn to help themselves, and that any help from above actually weakens them. My attitude, obviously, is somewhere in the middle. Why? Be David R. Apr 26, 2017 2:03 AM
The inner and outer man: Matching Character to Plot - One of the secrets to a happy life is the ability to perform, instinctively, as you would if you sat and thought about it for a month. The only way you can do this is to have the inner and outer worlds in harmony--that you can present yours David R. Apr 25, 2017 2:07 AM
Throwing your hat over the fence - Tananarive just finished giving the keynote address for the second half of the conference. She was, (of course) beautiful and brilliant and inspiring, but one of the things she stressed is the need to throw your intentions in front of you: David R. Apr 24, 2017 2:06 AM
control of breathing - If you meditate in the morning, note where your breathing is by the end of your session: probably deep and slow. Take that same breath into your Tibetans, yoga, Tai Chi or whatever you use to wake your body up in the morning. If you run, li David R. Apr 23, 2017 2:29 AM
The only reason we are ever afraid - A thought: the only reason we are ever afraid is that we aren't paying attention to the NOW. Since responses in the Now are the only things that can ever resolve a problem, fear should be seen as a signal to re-center your breathing and sta David R. Apr 22, 2017 2:18 AM
your practice of life - For the thousandth time, the rubber meets the road here: IF you meditate and control your breathing, you go to a calm, centered place. If you then remember to breathe during the day, eventually you will check your breathing during a stressf David R. Apr 21, 2017 2:12 AM
Perfectionism... - Perfectionism is procrastination masquerading as quality control. Anything worth doing well is worth doing badly at first. One of the worst mistakes you can make is trying to be perfect. I know people who routinely deprive themse David R. Apr 20, 2017 2:10 AM
Die Before You Die - No, that’s not the title of the new James Bond movie. It is a Sufi saying that relates to the need to shed ego. We are going to start with the specific, and then go broader to the entire structure of the Mastery Technique, Lifewriting’s David R. Apr 19, 2017 2:17 AM
Do you love yourself? - Do you love yourself? And so we come back to the question of loving yourself, possibly the central issue in the process. The reason that I have placed so much emphasis on relationships is that they mirror who we are. True, David R. Apr 18, 2017 2:06 AM
Triangle Goal Setting - In yoga this morning, there were a few moments when I was totally drained, just rolled over onto my back during rest periods, and tried to remember to breathe. At those moments, I visualized my triangle: breathing, motion, and alignment. M David R. Apr 17, 2017 2:35 AM
Yoga - Yoga, a Sanskrit word meaning "to yoke," or "to unite" is a set of disciplines that address the body-mind split in many powerful ways. Meditation, concentration, physical postures, breath control and so forth are some of the better known on David R. Apr 16, 2017 2:05 AM
regarding honesty - The first of Musashi Miyamoto’s principles is “Do Not Think Dishonestly.” Now, I’ve seen this translated several different ways, including “Harbor no sinister designs” such that it seems to be a statement that includes both conc David R. Apr 15, 2017 3:17 AM
physical movement relate to spiritual advancement. - On my morning tea box, there was a reference to "easy yoga for flexibility and spiritual growth." I'd bet not one in a thousand readers of that has any real idea how to actually make a physical movement relate to spiritual advancement. Here David R. Apr 14, 2017 2:06 AM
Confidence - "Success is all about confidence." Re-read that. Before we go forward, ask yourself what confidence means to you, in all of its positive and negative aspects. What is confidence? Because your ability to achieve anything you desire in life i David R. Apr 13, 2017 3:21 AM
Telling the Truth - I receive notes all the time from people who want to help their friends, or to "fix" something broken they see in the world. Invariably, I offer the same advice: first, fix yourself. I know people who are horribly depressed about David R. Apr 12, 2017 5:52 AM
Modeling: Beliefs - We talk a lot about body, mind, and spirit... but how exactly do you quantify such things? It’s my belief that the ultimate truth of these subjects is beyond direct discussion, but we can have great fun dancing around it. The d David R. Apr 11, 2017 2:30 AM
Conducting Light - I’ll say this again: your ability to succeed in life will be in direct proportion to your ability to maintain flow state under pressure. Last week on “Commander In chief” there was a bit about how potential contributors to a presidential David R. Apr 10, 2017 4:08 AM
Even more specificity - Remember: stress "dis-integrates" the triangle of breath, movement, alignment. You will ALWAYS see stress manifesting in one of these three areas. If you begin the re-integrative process at the first sign of stress (straighten posture, rel David R. Apr 8, 2017 2:35 AM
The Core of All Things - Is the breath. Learn to breath properly, and your metabolism will normalize, your fears will release from your body, your endurance will skyrocket, your energy triple, your ability to remain in flow state go through the roof. There are so m David R. Apr 7, 2017 2:09 AM
Have Faith - Many people are afraid of hard questions if they cannot already see the answers. This can lead to a "head-in-the-sand" attitude that destroys your life and dreams. Here's a core belief system that empowers me: 1) The truth is alway David R. Apr 6, 2017 2:03 AM
Balance is the Key - If you neglect growth in any of the three main arenas (the seven-level approach is for graduate students!) you risk burn-out. Let's take a look at what happens to you as you neglect health in any of the Big Three (body, mind/career, spirit/ David R. Apr 5, 2017 2:05 AM
measurement of what is real -­c/2006-02-25/ A very funny cartoon dealing with balance. I was asked to comment: 1) The negative effects of seeking balance are being ludicrously ex David R. Apr 4, 2017 3:29 AM
Workshop - I noticed years ago that the rules we run our lives by reflect the world view that we develop over the years... and that that world view also reflects the rules. If I began years ago believing that "we become what we think about" and that " David R. Apr 3, 2017 4:04 AM
Being a Potato - Is a good thing. Being "solid all the way through". Our philosophies of life should be in alignment with our actions and beliefs. People should look at us and know us--or, more honestly, we should be AWARE that the world knows us from our a David R. Apr 2, 2017 5:36 AM
Energy and the 5MM - The reason I suggest the 5MM is simple, actually. In years of teaching success principles, the missing link with most of the "stuck" folks was their body. They hadn't time to exercise, or didn't know how. They were carrying so much pain and David R. Apr 1, 2017 2:17 AM
More on Triangle goal setting - I know, I know. "Diamond" goals, "Triangle" goals... I'm still working with terminology, folks. This is new to me, too. Think about the different aspects of life that can be contained within a triangle: 1) Body, Mind, Spirit 2) Bre David R. Mar 30, 2017 5:08 AM
Reasons or results - Yesterday was a breakthrough day. My meditation was clean and sharp, indicating that the emotional garbage I've been processing has finally turned into mulch. I met with my friend "Mike" and things were both worse and better than I'd though David R. Mar 29, 2017 4:02 AM
struggle - I've been opening up the back of my head, and letting some of the snakes crawl out. In preparations for The Path workshops, I have to get my mind as clear as it can possibly be, and to be able to come from the absolutely cleanest place that David R. Mar 28, 2017 5:40 AM
everybody wants - It is my observation after fifty-plus years on this planet that, based upon what people say a couple years down the line, I'm more often right if I trust my instincts than if I pay attention to what people initially say. And it is my instin David R. Mar 27, 2017 4:21 AM
automatic upshift - Every day, multiple times a day, I visualize a triangle and the "end points" of my three main goals: body/fitness, intelligence/career, and internal/external peace and love. I visualize the body I'm working for, and the way I want it to mov David R. Mar 26, 2017 4:00 AM
Maturation, Primitive Gestalts - This natural process of maturation can be interrupted by conflicts early in life, and until those conflicts are resolved, they remain fractured. Much therapy tries to give the individual a chance to bring old conflicts up to consciousness, David R. Mar 25, 2017 4:19 AM
Gestalt Formation, maturation - All living systems crave homeostasis, the state where all systems are in balance. Note what happens in a problem situation: “Lack of awareness of any need results in the splitting off of a part of oneself that continues to seek completion David R. Mar 24, 2017 2:06 AM
Balance - Seek to balance yourself in your external aspects, and you'll begin to sense how to maintain that internal, "spiritual" balance. Seek a physical discipline (yoga, martial arts, etc.), something you can push yourself with your whole life. Co David R. Mar 23, 2017 2:18 AM
waking people up - I get asked again and again what I'm really up to with the 101 program. There really isn't quite language for it. I can say "lose 20 pounds" or "double your energy" or "increase income" or "find love" or "decrease stress" and all of that wo David R. Mar 22, 2017 2:51 AM
Why Even Care? - I had a student ask why, if nothing ultimately matters, we should care about anything at all. Well, that’s why no world religion will take you all the way to clarity: there’s no social benefit. However, encoded within each major religio David R. Mar 21, 2017 2:14 AM
Fear, again... - Here's a note from a student: ### Good Afternoon Steven, I have the question of the year for you, it's right up your alley; How do you control fear? Better; how do you get rid of fear? All of my li David R. Mar 20, 2017 2:13 AM
the common elements in success - Our job as adult human beings is to clearly define the path leading to a life of contribution, joy, and growth, and then to walk it. What are the things in common in that group achieving beyond the average? True, some of these th David R. Mar 19, 2017 2:08 AM
Musashi #9: Do nothing that is of no use - Musashi #9: Do nothing that is of no use This should be painfully obvious, but is not. Don't waste your time and energy. How many times do we spend great effort to accomplish something that was never worth our time to begin with? "Ther David R. Mar 18, 2017 3:35 AM
Musashi #8: Pay attention even to little things - "The Devil is in the Details", as they say. There are moments in the learning of a skill where the large details dominate. And then there is another point where you have mastered the larger aspects, and it is the tiny things that make the d David R. Mar 17, 2017 2:45 AM
Musashi #7: Perceive those things that cannot be seen - Why can't you see the forest for the trees? Because the forest isn't the trees. The forest is the space BETWEEN the trees. The trees GROW in the forest. In order to see the forest, you have to perceive negative space, something that we're n David R. Mar 16, 2017 2:42 AM
Musashi #6: Develop intuitive judgment and understanding for everything - I.D.E.A., ANYONE? Intuition, the kinesthetic flash that is deeper than thought, that goes beyond calculation or conscious reckoning. I had that flash when I met Tananarive--within three days we knew we wanted to spend our lives t David R. Mar 15, 2017 2:41 AM
Musashi #5: distinguish between gain and loss in worldly matters - Again, this is just incredibly common-sensical, and I find it simply amazing how many people don't take care of business here. Simply put, what does a positive or negative result look like in your endeavor? Do you know when you're getting c David R. Mar 14, 2017 2:15 AM
Musashi #4 : Know the Ways of all professions - Wow. This is a fine and wonderful principle for several reasons. 1) First of all, this principle will lead you to investigate the question of excellence. How is it that people succeed and fail in the world? Excellence, and the pu David R. Mar 13, 2017 2:43 AM
Musashi #3: Become acquainted with every art - I've seen this translated as "every martial art" or "every fine art form." The implications are different, and let's see why. If a warrior becomes familiar with all other martial arts forms, he starts with throws, locks, holds, punches, kicks, David R. Mar 12, 2017 3:06 AM
Musashi #2: The Way Is In Training - The second principle is "The Way is in training." I read this as: the "Way" (the path, the door, the goal, the method) is in ceaseless, daily effort. There is a great scene in John Steinbeck's WW2 memoir "Once There Was a War." I David R. Mar 11, 2017 3:16 AM
Musashi's Principles and Mastery - Trying to communicate something that can't quite be put into words is an interesting challenge. A path to mastery is (I honestly believe) revealed in the balance of body, mind, and spirit as we have defined them on my blog. YES, there are o David R. Mar 10, 2017 2:07 AM
The Mastermind Group - The Mastermind Group--and your best Ally. You. One of the most important factors in the achievement of any goal beyond your current capacity is the quality of what Napoleon Hill referred to as your "Mastermind Group." This is 1-5 David R. Mar 9, 2017 2:13 AM
the first 10-15 minutes - For most people, the first 10-15 minutes of meditation are a cavalcade of negative internal monologues, twitches, and itching. Only after this does the mind begin to settle down, the waters calm, and a sense of peace emerge. Thos David R. Mar 8, 2017 2:27 AM
fit for OUR lives - Steve Perry made a comment about not trying to be in Olympic shape. There's one factor he didn't put in there: you can't keep Olympic conditioning. You will wear your body out, if you aren't a monk who does nothing but exercise, meditate, a David R. Mar 8, 2017 2:25 AM
4-Dimensional Performance Pyramid - Coach Sonnon promotes a brilliant concept he calls the "Three-dimensional performance pyramid." I'm just adapting it a bit. It operates in the physical realm, but the creative will immediately see the adaptation to the intellectual. David R. Mar 8, 2017 2:21 AM
Filter Reality - I want people to note something: Again and again I've laid out a theory about human perception, race, and the way we can measure attitudes by watching the performance of Hollywood films. Again and again, people "don't get" what I'm saying, David R. Mar 5, 2017 5:18 AM
When the Lover is Ready... - Wow! So busy yesterday I forgot to mention that August 1, 2008 was my tenth anniversary with Tananarive. She is absolutely the love of my life, and my perfect partner. We had such a narrow window of opportunity to find each other. I David R. Mar 4, 2017 2:26 AM
Perfect Template - There are many, many different ways to look at the aspects of fitness. I like Coach Sonnon's "Three Dimensional Performance Pyramid" which goes from health to fitness to skill to competition. The more basic step MUST be established before y David R. Mar 3, 2017 2:37 AM
The proper structure of physical performance - Lifewriting uses the physical to ground our search for the spiritual, much as the Chakras start with survival and reach up to the sky. The physical body allows us to sense material reality, and therefore should be cultivated if we are to reach David R. Mar 2, 2017 2:06 AM
5MM and weight loss - The 5MM, designed to strengthen the all-important body-mind connection, can be used specifically to lose weight. Here's how: In terms of physics, weight loss is simple, and everyone knows it: you take in fewer calories than you burn David R. Mar 1, 2017 2:07 AM
The shoulders we stand on - This is a man of enormous dignity and accomplishment, and I was struck by an element of his world view: that he is part of a chain, part of a line of human families that ultimately includes all of mankind, that all of his efforts, all of hi David R. Feb 28, 2017 2:52 AM
Weight - Weight. Some have asked me why this is such a hot topic for me. Well, partially because I've had too many friends actually DIE due to weight issues. Partially because I am furious that the diet industry makes billions obscuring the simple t David R. Feb 27, 2017 2:03 AM
And then love. - If it is true that every human being is the result of a biological union between a male and female, then it stands to reason that much of our biological, psychological, and social apparatus will be dedicated to keeping this chain going. YES, t David R. Feb 26, 2017 2:42 AM
Intensifying the 5MM - Here's advice to take the 5MM technique to a new level. Practice this for five minutes every other day, and your unconscious competence with the 5MM will skyrocket! Versions of this exercise can be found in Chito-Ryu karate and yoga. A vers David R. Feb 25, 2017 2:32 AM
Fear and love - So, then, let's take a look at our basic ideas. From time to time, it's a good idea to go back to the foundation... and because the basic ideas behind Lifewriting, the 5MM, and the Mastery Technique are very very simple, we have to look at the David R. Feb 24, 2017 2:12 AM
Rest, Exercise, Nutrition - One of the things most interesting about the entire process of increasing or maintaining fitness is the necessity to maintain (wait for it) balance between three aspects: rest, exercise, and nutrition. You know, if you have too much or too David R. Feb 23, 2017 4:44 AM
Where is Spirituality? - One of the most frequent questions I get is, "Where is spirituality in your equation? Fitness, relationship, career... doesn't seem to be much room for God there, now is there?" I'd laugh, if this weren't such a serious issue. An David R. Feb 22, 2017 2:05 AM
Control and Responsibility - I spent some time recently with a friend who is in a bad marriage, and who struggles with health issues: weight, energy, etc. It was interesting to note that, pressed for explanations, every bad circumstance in her life was the responsibili David R. Feb 21, 2017 2:35 AM
Honesty - Musashi Miyamoto, arguably the greatest swordsman in Japanese history, placed one maxim in life above all: "Do not think dishonestly." Why would a killer, a man who basically lived his life in the shadow of a three-foot razor blade, consider h David R. Feb 20, 2017 2:31 AM
Fear Removal - Learn the 5MM's "Be Breathed" technique. Then take it into an aerobic activity that you can perform for at least, say, 30 minutes. Hill walking will do it. "Aerobic" means enough exertion that you can't sing, but you can still talk. You nee David R. Feb 19, 2017 2:30 AM
Healing the Wounded Heart - Let's finish up on the heartspace for right now, so that we can move on. If you take responsibility for this chakra/aspect of your life, you can probably heal any other damage. Look at it this way: if you have a four year old child, very fe David R. Feb 18, 2017 2:24 AM
Heart Wounds - Let's think some more about the heart, and how wounds to it manifest in other arenas. I've known heart chakra wounds to trigger suicide, and a loss of willingness to live. A dear friend was raped, and within a year contracted terminal cancer-- David R. Feb 17, 2017 2:41 AM
Mirroring - One of the most interesting phenomena is the way people in relationships can’t see how they match. “I’m so much more mature than him.” “She hasn’t grown up and I have,” and so on. Most of the time, I don’t believe it. People David R. Feb 16, 2017 2:25 AM
Seducing Ourselves - I still want to talk about relationships, because I believe our relationships with others are our best mirror to our true relationship to ourselves for about 99.9% of people. It's a great place to start. And I have a hard time thinking of s David R. Feb 15, 2017 3:27 AM
The Biggest Lie - We can't predict the future behavior of others, but I remember something one of my teachers said: "Do not trust people. Instead rely upon them. Rely upon them to do whatever it is they consider to be in their own self-interest." The only way t David R. Feb 14, 2017 2:37 AM
Re: [kenwilber-21] ways to avoid disaster - Thank you for your response to me. A very profound paragraph. Very enlightening, and it coincidentally pertains to some recent experiences I've had at so called gay friendly churches. I reall michael m Feb 13, 2017 1:28 PM
ways to avoid disaster - So there's no way to ensure positive results in relationships, fitness, or finance. But there are some pretty solid ways to avoid disaster. In general, I'll settle for that. One major point of having goals in all three arenas is that as you David R. Feb 13, 2017 2:18 AM
The Same Garbage In Different Bags - I have the strong suspicion that VERY similar dysfunctions underlie problems in all three basic arenas. 1) In body, people blame diets that make them hungry and uncomfortable, exercise that is "boring and painful" and the cruelty of David R. Feb 12, 2017 2:36 AM
If you can't be sure of a good apple... - Maybe you can at least avoid some of the rotten ones. More specifically in terms of relationships, we may not be able to come up with a way to ensure success. But we can probably look at some things that raise the chances of success David R. Feb 11, 2017 4:03 AM
Keeping Your Word - Note please how much of this is related to keeping your word to yourself. Discipline. Honesty. If you want to increase your motivation to do something, come up with a dozen solid reasons for doing it. Invariably, when someone says they can' David R. Feb 10, 2017 2:01 AM

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