"Had Elizabeth been taught
to have sex early and often, she would now be the much better for it."
I don't think most people would want this message sent to teens either. That's the other extreme.
I'm actually all for stressing abstinence to teenagers. It is the only sure way to avoid STD's and pregnancy, and there is an emotional component that comes with sex that some teens aren't ready for. But I'm also practical and want teens to know what the options are for protecting themselves if they do decide to have sex.
They should know how pregnancy works. So many people (sadly) don't. They should know what condoms are, and how they work and where they can get them. They should know how oral contraceptives and the morning after pill work and where they can get them. Same for IUD's. They should know where they can go to get medical attention, should they need it. They should be taught to take care of their sexual health.
They should also learn that sex isn't just all about biology. That emotions often play into sex. They should be able to discuss how they view sex. Whether they have had it or not. They should be taught that sex isn't dirty, it's natural, but that you have to decide for yourself when your are ready to engage in sex. That you should never have sex if you feel unsure about it. That no one who cares about you should ever pressure you into any kind of sex that you aren't ready for. That you should do what you think is right, and find people who you trust to confide in when you aren't sure what to do.
I'm glad I had parents that took every chance to educate me about sex, even though it made them uncomfortable. I feel like I had an advantage over a lot of other teens when I was in school.