We've been bemoaning the lack of opportunities to meet professional, healthy, happy, attractive, interesting, adult (21 and older - as alcohol can be invovled) polyamorous people in the Spokane/Coeur d'Alene area. While we know there are lots of poly folk in our around, it appears most of us are just groping around in the dark, trying to meet each other!
So, after thinking about ways to meet others, we had the bright idea to start an upscale polyamory group in the area.
After meeting a few attractive, interesting, fun, intelligent poly people in the area, we're convinced there must be more out there. However, since many of us ARE closeted, it's nearly impossible to meet! So let's fix this. Let's make this a group for us fun, sparkly, happy poly people here and create opportunities to meet, discuss poly issues, have a bite to eat, have a cocktail, plan outings, plan get-togethers, flirt, connect, fall in love, and all the other wonderful things poly folks do.
If we need to explain what polyamory or ethical non-monogamy is to you, then this group might not be a fit. There are many great resources online to get an overview of what polyamory is about and we would encourage all to taking advantage of including http://www.lovemore.com/polyamory/. or http://polyamorysociety.org/
Polyamory comes in every imaginable combination of quantity and sexual orientation, and the journey will be different for each of us. We are happy to invited unattached persons, as well as those who are monogamous, but who are in, or considering being in relationships with those who are polyamorous.
This group has members of all ages, from 20's to 60's. There are singles (both male and female), couples and more. Just like the rest of humanity, we have members who are different shapes and sizes, ethnic and cultural backgrounds, as well as sexual preferences.
A few ground rules:
This is NOT a swinger's or hook-up group.
Polyamory is NOT cheating on your significant other in a monogamous relationship! Do NOT join this group unless all your partners are fully aware of your poly lovestyle, if your heart is set on cheating on your partner, or if you are seeking to only get laid.
We're not meeting for group sex, we're meeting for chat and talk and flirting and fun. If you want to flirt and make dates and plans outside the group -- please do! This is part of what we want! But there are no guarantees you'll walk away with a date, so please just set your expectations at some fun chat and meeting other area poly people in a safe, fun setting. What happens outside of the group is your business! :)
We're not a kink group -- we really don't care if you're into BDSM, etc., but this is not the focus of this group. There are plenty of other groups for those activities and interests.
We would prefer to keep drug and alcohol use to a low roar at group activities; there is absolutely nothing wrong with getting your party on! But if you show up obviously drunk or stoned, you'll be asked to leave. We believe polyamory is hard enough without being wildly intoxicated. What you do outside of the group is your business.
We'd ask you show respect to everyone at the gathering; if you're very interested in another's partner, please do consider how the person would feel if you try to isolate one of their partners and get their number.
This is all pretty basic polyamory stuff -- centered around respect and tolerance -- and if you can't practice it, you won't be a very good fit for what we hope this group will become.
Please leave your drama and trauma at home. We understand Shit Gets Complicated, especially in poly relationships. But please be mindful and respectful of the other members, who didn't come to the group to be wowed by your amateur theatrics! Seriously, though, please resolve your drama outside of the group boundaries. This applies to online drama and the forum, too. This is not The Jerry Springer Show!
We do not discriminate against any race, creed, color, sexual orientation or physical ability. If you are predisposed towards being judgmental of others, chances are this group will not be a comfortable fit for you.
Folks, we know you're out there. We've met some of you, and we know there are more. Let's make this group a resource for the poly people out there in the Spokane/Coeur d'Alene area to meet and connect and flirt and make dates and talk about being poly in a society which is pretty hostile to the idea of ethical non-monogamy.
We hugely respect your privacy - this is why this is a private group, outside of the members, no one can see your information or your smiling face photo.
*Be friendly and fun, or at least have the desire to be. If you're not fun, you will be by the time we're done with you.
*Answer the profile questions. Don't be shy, let us get to know you. These are essay questions - so write a book about yourself :-)
*Post a CLEARLY VISIBLE picture of your smiling face (or faces) as the main photo. If you don't have a picture, take one and upload it. If you don't have a smartphone or camera, find some kid and steal his. If you are a couple - please post a photo of BOTH of your smiling faces!!
You MUST join the group to get specific meetup information.
Being right up front, this group has some expectations. Participation is important and all members in good standing are expected to attend at least one meeting each quarter. To celebrate the anniversary of the group's founding - we are currently waiving dues requirements for solo females and couples. For solo males, the first meeting is free - then dues are $50 for the first full 1/2 year (e.g. if you pay in September it is good until the following July 1) , $10 per 1/2 year afterwards. However, the group is not free to operate, so donations are appreciated.
Don't see a particular event, date, time, place which meets your fancy or schedule? ALL group members are welcome to schedule a meetup - so there is no reason to not participate :-)
New members must be approved by the Organizer
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I started the group because there wasn't any other type of group like this. I've met some great folks in the group who have become close friends and have also met some amazing business owners.
— Bill, started New York City Gay Craft Beer Lovers