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RE: [humanism-174] How did our values get so confused?

From: user 2.
Sent on: Tuesday, September 29, 2009 10:20 AM
A quick rant.
I want to start by saying I hope no one will interpret this as a racist comment.  There is no racist intention, but simply an observation about a community which is often one of the most religious.  I read a different story recently about the power and the intensity of religion in the inner-city black communities, and how families were in church praying for their gang-member sons.
The story at the link above upsets me because it seems like more innocent bystanders are being pulled in to the web of violence of gangs and drugs.  Its always the honor student, the military man just back from combat (as in Akron recently), the good kid who works hard, etc. Often, the "good kid" is ridiculed and targeted by the gang mentatlity.
I remember a time when these people-- the honor student, the soldier, the blue-collar man-- had power.  They had respect from the community and they were valued.  Now it seems they just need protection.  A statistic and a sad story is all Darrion Albert will be permitted to be.  How do we return the respect to decent people?
The end of the story referenced above is what made me write this comment-- perhaps rhetorical, since there is no answer-- but Im speechless and not sure how to feel right now.
Monday night, parents and community members met with Fenger High School officials as well as police.

One activist promised that if they sense no progress on dealing with youth violence, he'll organize a demonstration to embarrass the Mayor and the school system.

Mark Carter pledged to take a large group of children right up to the barricades outside President Obama's Kenwood home. It'll be in full view, he says, of the international press. 
First of all, when did it become the mayor and the school system's responsibilty to raise the children???  It is the kids doing the violence, not violence against the kids by the mayor and the school system.  We are supposed to send kids to school and in to our communities who are eager to learn and do well.  Not send them to commit violence and crime.  Not pray for them while they commit violence and crime.  Parent them!  
Is there a place that the city and the school system can send the kids who arent parented and who commit violence?  Oh, wait, they will be in jail soon enough.  The city and the school systems are flooded with kids they cannot control and arent able to punish because the parents who arent parenting will sue them.
Mr. Carter-- why dont you take the children who are commiting the violence on a march?  What about their parents?  There is much talk about the "black community", but where is that community during black-on-black crime, during gang violence, during events like this?  Instead you take the 10% -- the good kids.  That is great, but we already want to help those kids.  Its the other kids who need the help first.
I would not say this type of event couldnt happen in the suburban school system in the area where I live.  There are certainly bad kids there.  Columbine was in an affluent area of Cherry Creek in Denver.  But where I live 90% of the parents parent and the bad kids are considered bad.  Even then, the gang mentality--via hip hop and rap, etc. -- is considered cool.
When its the other way around the bad kids are revered, they get the respect and the honor instead of the honor student.  How did bad become so cool? 
Ok enough rant.  How do we save our children?  All of our children?  It doesnt seem like throwing ones hands in the air to Jesus to save the youth is providing an answer. 

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