For those who have completed the bereavement process and are younger than the typical age when a spouse passes, it is difficult to keep up with or be included in the usual couple activities that once you were a great part of and which provided much of your social outlets.

When you are ready to start socializing again, it is nice to do it with people who understand where you have been and what you are coming from. This is not a grief group but rather a group of people, both men and women who will forge new friendships and perhaps closer connections to have FUN again.

I have searched the Naples/Bonita Springs area for a club such as I describe and found one: The Widow and Widowers Club of Naples started in 2002.  http://www.naplesnews.com/news/2007/feb/10/widows_and_widowers_help_each_other_start_over_aga/

It is successful, well organized and welcoming. It would have been really a nice venue for me if I was approaching 70 or older. I was the youngest one there out of about 85 people. Since it has been in operation for over 10 years, several unions and marriages have ensued within the group and those "couples" continue to attend the monthly events so it is hard to know the status of the person sitting next to you. It is also a bit clicky with long-term members who have shared many years of friendship and/or courtship.

There are also several 40+ social and/or singles groups on Meetups and I have gone to a few of these events, but the age range is too vast and often venues are dance clubs with loud music, movies, or kayaking. Unfortunately it is difficult to talk and get to know each other and the group is generally very big and then gets clicky.

I envision this group doing things of that nature eventually, but first off, it is nice to have smaller informal gatherings where we can meet, brainstorm and plan, at least for newcomers.

Further if you have been out "there" hoping to meet a special someone you may have confronted a separated or divorced interest. However, there is generally an unhappy xspouse that you will have to deal with at future family gatherings. Widows and widowers don't have that (as they say) type of "baggage".

That being said, to start members need to sign up. So, if you are a widow or widower ages 50-68 and identify, please join. Once we have 10 or so members, I'll be in touch to organize our first meetup. I promise it will be enjoyable and classy.

 

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