Are you...

Queer? Bi? Married? Gay but heterosexually married? Transgendered? Gender Queer? Intersexed? Asexual? Gay but don't fit with the LGBT community, or don't want to be boxed into a label? Or do you have a fluid sexual orientation or gender identity that changes? Are you androgynous? Are you straight but generally attracted to the kinds of people listed above?

If any of these strike a chord with you, then this may be the group you have been looking for!

Welcome to the "Queer Middle-Ground"... Shades of Lavender!

We welcome the questioning, and the decidedly undecided and those who went through an acceptance process years ago. Together these differences make our group feel more like "family" than your average group.

A Co-Ed queer group welcoming every shade of the rainbow, including the ones we may not know about.


Please feel free to bring your partners (regardless of their queer status) to events unless the details of the event specify otherwise. And please feel free to bring your queer friends to events unless the details of the event specify otherwise.


"The heterosexual-homosexual continuum, sometimes referred to as the sexual continuum, is a psychological and philosophical understanding of human sexuality that places sexual preferences on a continuum from heterosexuality to homosexuality. This concept stems from Alfred Kinsey's 1940s surveys of sexuality: significant numbers of Kinsey's subjects reported bisexuality of varying degrees, rather than the strict heterosexual/homosexual division that had been previously assumed. This work was expanded by Fritz Klein, who hypothesized that sexual orientation was a dynamic, multi-variable process, involving attraction, behavior, fantasies, emotional and social preferences, self-identification, and lifestyle. This continuum was an important influence on the feminist and gay-rights movements of the 1970s and 1980s as academics and movement leaders tried to distinguish between physical gender—e.g. being male or female—and the social, cultural, and psychological aspects of gender and sexuality.

According to the American Psychological Association: Sexual orientation is an enduring emotional, romantic, sexual, or affectional attraction toward others. It is easily distinguished from other components of sexuality including biological sex, gender identity (the psychological sense of being male or female), and the social gender role (adherence to cultural norms for feminine and masculine behavior). Sexual orientation exists along a continuum that ranges from exclusive heterosexuality to exclusive homosexuality and includes various forms of bisexuality. [...]

This term, or similar variants of it, are used commonly in the field of sexual orientation studies. See the Kinsey scale. Today, many sexologists see scales like this and the Kinsey scale as simplistic. "They suggest that sexual orientation and sexual identity are even more complex and varied." (source-Wikipedia)

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Founded Aug 21, 2008


Jenny, G Kinsey

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