Fwd: E-Newsletter: Marriage after DOMA, LGBTQ Family Days at Jewish Museum and Oakland A's

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From: Our Family Coalition <[address removed]>
Date: July 16, 2013, 7:12:35 PDT
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Subject: E-Newsletter: Marriage after DOMA, LGBTQ Family Days at Jewish Museum and Oakland A's
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In this Issue:
Staff Snippet: DOMA From Macro To Micro
Marriage after DOMA: Walk (Not Run) to Tie the Knot
LGBTQ Family Day at the Oakland A's
LGBTQ Family Day at the Contemporary Jewish Museum
"Egg Meets Sperm" Networking Mixer
Ongoing Groups
Community Events
Community Announcements
In the News & Media
Staff Snippet: DOMA - From Macro to Micro

Dear Families,

Working at a small non-profit in San Francisco, it never occurred to me that the repeal of DOMA would impact me personally, at least not until the next time I did my federal taxes. Then I read an article (okay, it was in a finance newsletter...) which explained that now that my marriage was federally recognized, my payroll deductions for my wife's health insurance were no longer taxable. My paycheck today will show an increase of $170 a month! (That's over $2,000 a year.) Although I fought hard to end DOMA, because is was just plain wrong, I wasn't even aware that I was losing money every month because of it! 

Jennifer Grant
Office Manager

PS: Imagine what else we'll all learn about the impact of DOMA when we attend the upcoming Marriage After DOMA seminars!

Marriage after DOMA: Walk (Not Run) to Tie the Knot 


This informational seminar regarding tax, immigration, social security, property co-ownership, and other legal implications of same-sex marriage and the possible repeal of the Defense of Marriage Act is co-sponsored by the Beck Law Group, P.C., McCown & Evans LLP, Our Family Coalition, GAPA, APIQWTC, API Equality, and Out4Immigration.


San Francisco: (San Francisco Main Library, 100 Larkin Street)  

Tuesday, July 16, 5:30-7PM Register:  Click Here! 

Thursday, August 22, 5:30-7PM Register: Click Here! 


East Bay: (BANANAS, 5232 Claremont Ave., Oakland) 

Tuesday, July 30, 6:30-8PM Register: Click Here! 

Saturday, August 17,  10-11:30AM

Register: Click Here!   



LGBTQ Family Day at the Oakland A's 


Take me out to the ball game at the 2nd Annual LGBTQ Family Day with the Oakland A's! We have Section 232 reserved just for our families.  It's "1969 Turn-Back-The-Clock" Day, and 10,000 fans will receive the Oaklandish Throwback Tee upon entrance to the ballpark. We can't wait to see you at the old ball game!


When: Saturday, July 27, 1-4pm 

Where: The Coliseum, 7000 Coliseum Way, Oakland

Register: Click Here! 


Intro to Conception Options - East Bay 


SPECIAL FREE EDUCATIONAL EVENT INTRO TO CONCEPTION OPTIONS: From Home Insemination & Home IUI to Clinical Options (IUI, IVF, Mini-IVF, IVF with Partner Eggs, Donated Embryos & Fertility Preservation)

When: Friday, July 26, 6 PM
Where: Banana's Childcare Resource Center, 5232 Claremont Avenue, Oakland
Registration and more info

LGBTQ Family Day at the Contemporary Jewish Museum


Celebrate CJM's 3rd Annual LGBTQ Family Day: A Day for Families, Friends, and Allies.  Picnic and play with friends, join a modern family parade led by the SF Lesbian/Gay Freedom Band, explore the artwork in Beyond Belief, and create a family portrait inspired by the photographs of Allen Ginsberg.


When: Sunday, July 28, 1-4pm 

Where: Contemporary Jewish Museum, 736 Mission St., San Francisco 

Register: Click Here! 


"Egg Meets Sperm" Networking Mixer 


Are you ready to start a family? Missing either egg or sperm? Looking for a co-parent? At this fun and informative mixer, people interested in finding or being a known donor or co-parent can meet one another and discuss family building options. Open to all genders.   


When: Thursday, August 1, 6-8pm

Where: SF LGBT Community Center, 1800 Market Street, San Francisco 

Register: Click Here! 

LGBTQ Family BBQ & Campout  


Join us for our annual LGBTQ Family BBQ & Campout at Tilden Park in Berkeley!




The kick-off BBQ begins at noon on Saturday. Eat burgers and hotdogs (meat & veggie) fresh off the grill, as well as side dishes. We'll play outdoor games and hold our famous watermelon eating contest!    


When: Saturday, August 3, 12pm

Where: Gillespie Camp, Tilden Regional Park, Berkeley

Register: Click Here!   




Pitch your tent and stay for the night! The CAMPOUT is from Saturday afternoon until noon on Sunday. We provide dinner and breakfast as well as an evening campfire with s'mores! We'll play games, eat yummy food, and enjoy the great outdoors together as family.


When: Saturday, August 3, afternoon, until Sunday, August 4, 12pm

Where: Gillespie Camp, Tilden Regional Park, Berkeley  

Register: Click Here! 

Summer of Equality Campaign


Set Up a Personal Fundraising Page! 


We are living through history in the making!  Just imagine, our kids are going to grow up in a world where same sex couples can marry. Do you want to help take us to the next level - full equality beyond marriage and creating a more just world for our kids? Set up your own sponsorship page to support Our Family Coalition.  Get motivated to do something you have been wanting to do for yourself, while promoting equity for LGBTQ families!


Click here for more info and to set up your own campaign page!

Ongoing Groups

Transgender Parents Group
Are you or your partner a transgender parent? Or thinking about transbecoming a parent? The Transgender Parent Support Group is an opportunity to connect with your peers and get mutual support.  The group will meet every third Saturday of each month. The first half hour will be spent socializing, with the remaining time dedicated to group discussion. Drop-ins are welcome, but ongoing attendance helps to establish group rapport. 

Registration: Click Here!
Every 3rd Saturday, July 20, 10am-12pm
Where: SF LGBT Center, 1800 Market St., San Francisco

Habitot Kids Painting Mamas & Papas With Children 7-12

OFC and Eureka Valley Recreation Center are partnering up to provide an interactive and fun program for kids of LGBTQ Parents ages 7-12. The parents can drop off their kids at EVRC where staff from both organizations will do some ice breakers, fun games, and rec sports. Parents are encouraged to head to a nearby cafe to socialize, catch up, and discuss anything that is on their minds. Child care for children ages 6 and under will be provided at Eureka Valley Recreation Center by the SF LGBT Community Center Kid Space staff. Come expand your circle of LGBTQ Parents and help your kids build friendships with other children with LGBTQ Families.

Registration: Click Here!
When: Every 3rd Wednesday, July 17, 6-7:30pm
Where: Eureka Valley Recreation Center, 100 Collingwood St., San Francisco

Mamas & Papas SF: Families with Children Ages 0-6

New families are always welcome! Expand your circle of LGBTQ parents and explore concerns and tips shared by all parents as well as those of special interest to our families. Help your kids build friendships with other children from LGBTQ families.
Registration: Click Here! 
When: Every 4th Saturday, July 27, 10-11:30am
SF LGBT Community Center, 1800 Market St., San Francisco

Prospective Parents Potluck 


Meet and network with other LGBTQ prospective parents. This is a potluck, so remember to bring your favorite creation. OFC will bring materials on resources and agencies that can help on your road to parenthood.

Registration: Click Here!
When: Every 2nd Wednesday, August 14, 6:30-8pm 
Where: Bananas, 5232 Claremont Ave., Oakland

Peninsula Parents, QPLAY, All Ages Daytime Drop-in Playgroup

Home during the day with the kids? Join LGBT parents for an informal hour of grown up conversation and playtime for kids of all ages.  Share stories and browse the shelves. Tea and snacks will be provided.  Please contact [address removed] or call[masked] for details.


Registration: Click Here! 
When: 1st Fridays, August 2, 11am-12:30pm
Where: Reach and Teach, 178 South Blvd., San Mateo

LGBTQ Parent Coffee Talk 

Come join other LGBTQ parents and their children for a relaxing time sharing resources and getting to know one another.  Each month will have a topic to kick start the conversations.  Please contact [address removed] or[masked] for details.

Registration: Click Here!
When: 2nd Sundays, August 11, 3-5pm
Where: Backyard Coffee Co. 965 Brewster Ave., Redwood City  
Community Events

"The New Black" East Bay Premiere

This powerful documentary, The New Black, tells the story of how the African-American community is grappling with the gay rights issue in light of the recent gay marriage movement and the fight over civil rights.  The film documents activists, families and clergy on both sides of the campaign to legalize gay marriage and examines homophobia in the black community's institutional pillar  the black church and reveals the Christian right wing's strategy of exploiting this phenomenon in order to pursue an anti-gay political agenda. For more film information; the SPECTRUM film schedule and trailers VISIT: www.SPECTRUMQueerMedia.com

When: Sunday, July 21, 3pm
Where: New Parkway Theatre,[masked]th St., Oakland
Registration and more info

 "The Campaign" Easy Bay Premiere  

With the historic overturning of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) and Prop 8 in the Supreme Court on June 26th, California re-won marriage equality for all couples. However, couples in 37 states still live with the pain and legal uncertainty of not having the right to marry. Please join the ACLU-NC for the East Bay Premier of this inspiring documentary about the No on 8 campaign, the reinvigorating of the LGBT equality movement, and the march forward as we make equality a reality for all of America's loving families.

When: Wednesday, July 17, 7pm
Where: New Parkway Theatre,[masked]th St., Oakland
 Registration and more info

LGBT- Intro to Conception Options

SPECIAL FREE EDUCATIONAL EVENT INTRO TO CONCEPTION OPTIONS: From Home Insemination & Home IUI to Clinical Options (IUI, IVF, Mini-IVF, IVF with Partner Eggs, Donated Embryos & Fertility Preservation)

When: Wednesday, July 24, 6 PM
Where: Fresno LGBT Community Center, 1055 N. VanNess Avenue, Suite A, Fresno
Registration and more info

When: Friday, July 26, 6 PM
Where: Banana's Childcare Resource Center, 5232 Claremont Avenue, Oakland
Registration and more info

When: Saturday, July 27, 1 PM - Pre-registration REQUIRED at ChoiceMoms.org
Where: LGBT Community Center, 1800 Market Street, San Francicsco
Registration and more info

"Castro Dads": A Group for Gay Dads in the SF Bay Area


Our Family Coalition is supporting a social networking group for gay dads (and gay men thinking/wanting to become a dad) in and around San Francisco.  


When: Last Tuesday of the month, 5:30-7:30pm 
Where: Squat and Gobble,[masked]th St., San Francisco


Community Announcements


LGBTQ Content Developers


Inspire USA, a youth-driving non-profit, is opening up applications for a new LGBTQ project on ReachOut.com. The LGBTQ Content Developers will be a small but powerful group of 10 young people ages 16-24 who live in California, identify as LGBTQ and are passionate about helping their peers deal with the issues surrounding sexuality and gender identity. Together, they will work virtually with the Inspire team to come up with informative and supportive content relevant to a diverse community LGBTQ teens and young adults. See the application here or contact [address removed] for more info.  


Sundance Film Festival Pitching Contest Winner, J.D. Walker, writes and directs this family drama about a struggling single mom whose life turns upside down when she confronts her husband, dysfunctional family, and teenage daughter about her secret life with another woman. Learn more on the Kickstarter page!


OFC is Namaste Oakland Seva Organization


Namaste Yoga + Wellness has chosen Our Family Coalition to be their Seva organization for this quarter! Be sure to swing by one of their three East Bay locations for a class since all mat rental proceeds will be donated to Our Family Coalition! To learn more about Namaste's Seva program and how you can help, click here.


In the News & Media

Tradition in the trees for LGBT families: Court rulings? Pride parades? Yawn. For some gays and lesbians, the real joy this summer will be found around a campfire in Plumas County. Camp It Up, an Oakland nonprofit, is gearing up for its 25th year as one of the country's oldest camps for gay and lesbian families. Held along Spanish Creek in the northern Sierra, the camp has been a cultural touchstone - plus a relaxing vacation - for thousands of kids and parents for more than a generation.

Black, LGBT, American: My life, like that of many of the kids I work with, has been shaped by the multiple identities that mark me. I am black, but rendered invisible within most mainstream LGBT movements. I am gay and have been ostracized by the homophobia of other black people . I am male and realize that my privileges are not granted to black lesbian and trans women.

Yet another study shows that same-sex parents are just as good as different-sex parents: The Williams Institute released a study last week which found, yet again, that parental sexual orientation is not a predictor for how psychologically well-adjusted an adopted child might be. The study looked at 120 adoptive families (40 female same-sex parents, 35 male same-sex parents and 45 different-sex couples) whose children were younger than 18 months at time of adoption.

Remembering Jazzie: The passing of activist Jazzie Collins is a huge loss to our Bay Area community and the many lives she touched nationwide. She will definitely be remembered by all who knew her. 
Our Family Coalition promotes the equality and well-being of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer families with children. We foster community leadership in advocacy efforts that promote social justice.


Headquarters: 1385 Mission St., Ste. 340, San Francisco, CA 94103

East Bay Office: 401 Grand Ave., Ste. 400, Oakland, CA 94610

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