RE: [lgbtfriends-82] Re: Friday or Saturday Mixers!

From: Karen
Sent on: Sunday, December 23, 2012 3:41 PM

Hello Everyone,


I am in the meetup group however I am a gay woman.  Is this meet up limited to just men?  Just asking as I would love to make some new gay friends, male or female.




From: [address removed] [mailto:[address removed]] On Behalf Of Christopher
Sent: Sunday, December 23,[masked]:19 PM
To: [address removed]
Subject: Re: [lgbtfriends-82] Re: Friday or Saturday Mixers!


I am looking hard to meet up with LGBT friends in the area as well. I'm not a big drinker but I love coffee and eat a variety of food. I find it rather difficult to meet many other gay men for friends or more on the eastside where I live (Kirkland). Wish it was easier to get over to the other side of the water.




From: Jess Morales <[address removed]>
To: [address removed]
Sent: Sunday, December 23,[masked]:50 PM
Subject: Re: [lgbtfriends-82] Re: Friday or Saturday Mixers!


Rick is giving the perfect advice here. Gay mixers can be hard when the event isn't fully geared to interacting with new people and being inclusive. Let me know how this goes. Sounds like it could be fun.




From: Rick Grossman <[address removed]>
To: [address removed]
Sent: Saturday, December 22,[masked]:57 PM
Subject: Re: [lgbtfriends-82] Re: Friday or Saturday Mixers!


Being a newcomer (June) to the area, I can't say where to meet.  I can suggest some characteristics that make for good/bad mixers.


  • Loud music big environments tend to be bad for mixers.   People can't communicate or meet new people.  Great for cruising and encouraging people to drink, but not talking.
  • An activity (ies) allows for awkward periods with no conversation to go by (seeing something, doing something in common).
  • Movies are people sitting quietly looking at a wall and not communicating.
  • People have lousy memories.  As corny as it sounds, name tags are appreciated.
  • Some structure helps.  Greeters, formal activities, etc.  People don't feel left out, unwelcome or strange when they come in if they don't know anyone.  
  • Everyone should be encouraged to mix away from their friends.  The purpose is to meet new people, not to form cliques.  Structure can help here.
  • There are great "sources" of activities in books of "new games" or in activities for ice breaking.
  • Activities (such as trips) also can create the common bond.
  • Someone should "scout out" any activity beforehand and provide clear instructions—where to park, how to identify the location, etc.  Information should be provided such as who the audience is for—men, women, singles, couples, is there a cost, etc., etc. People are nervous when they don't know what to expect.









From: Patrick <[address removed]>
Reply-To: <[address removed]>
Date: Saturday, December 22,[masked]:48 PM
To: <[address removed]>
Subject: [lgbtfriends-82] Re: Friday or Saturday Mixers!


Who all would be interested in having rotating friday or saturday night mixers?

And if we did, where should they be? I proposed one at another gay socials site,

wondering if everyone here has a good idea for one?


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