We're a low-key Meetup group that focuses our energy on relatively small, intimate events where you can have a real conversation with the people sitting next to you. (Seriously, how well can you get to know someone if you can't hear them over the DJ?) There are a bunch of great Meetups out there that do the bar/lounge/dancing thing, and they're super awesome (we know because we go to them - they're cool!). We're here to provide the flip side of the coin to that - gotta have some balance, after all.
We like to go to outdoor concerts, ethnic food restaurants, movies, barbecues, art exhibits, festivals, and whatever else we can find. Despite the fact that Meetup.com classified us as a singles group, we're not really about finding a date, we're about making friends. We're a great group to hang out with if you're new in town, but we're just as helpful if you've lived here forever but all your friends have moved away.
If you know of something really great happing in the greater San Jose or lower peninsula area, let us know. We're always on the lookout for interesting events to put on the calendar.
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to chat with folks, ask questions, issue invitations, and otherwise communicate with people who are here for the same reason you are: to make cool friends.
How to RSVP
If you want to attend, RSVP "Yes." If you are unable to attend or do not wish to attend, simply do nothing. You do not need to RSVP "No" unless you want to leave a comment for the event organizer or other members. If you have RSVP'd "Yes" and your plans change, please be considerate to those on the waitlist and change your RSVP to "No" as soon as possible. Incidentally, three hours before the event starts does not qualify as "considerate."
How to Get on a Wait List
Events typically fill up within a few days of being posted.
If you want be wait-listed for a FULL event, RSVP "No" and include a comment asking to be added to a wait list.
Please remember that you "lose your place in line" every time you edit your RSVP. That means once you ask to be put on a wait list, it's best not to edit it if you're still waiting for a spot. Organizers do not maintain the waitlist by email, so emailing them your waitlist request will not put you on the waitlist.
What If I Don't Know Anyone at the Meetup?
We are a very friendly group. If it is your first time with us, you may think that everyone at the dinner/concert/movie knows each other except for you. While easy to believe, it is not accurate at all. We usually have a mix of half regulars, half newbies. Just walk up and say, "Hi!" and you'll be a regular in no time.
What if I'm Late?
We generally wait a bit for folks, however we do not wait for everyone who has signed up. If it's an event that involves outdoor crowds, we will have a balloon or other sign - check the event listing for details. We will keep the balloon or sign visible for about half an hour after the event starts. After that, you're on your own. If it is at a restaurant, we will have a reservation under the organizer's name. You can ask the hostess to point you to our table at any time.
How to Bring Your Friends
You are welcome to bring guests, family members, partners and friends to our events. The more the merrier. Simply include +1 (or 2 or 3) in the appropriate box in your RSVP. However, if you're taking up two to four spots on the RSVP list, it becomes paramount that your RSVP be up to date. If your plans change and you and/or your guests are not coming, please update your RSVP to allow someone from the waitlist to be included.
You Want to Cross-post Your Own Meetup/Party/Event on Our Calendar
If you are an active member in our group (i.e. you have actually attended one of our events) you are welcome to use the message board to inform the rest of us about an event that may be of interest to us. This includes Meetups that you organize or attend, informal private parties, and the like. Posting on the message board instead of the mailing list is a nice, non-invasive way to spread the word to the 50% of members who are interested in your party, while protecting the other 50% of members who would view your invitation in their email box as an unwanted annoyance.
If we have not made your acquaintance and the first we hear of you are your cross-posts for other Meetup groups, we will tend to assume you joined our group solely to promote your own, and that does not generate goodwill or good karma. We reserve the right to delete your message board posts if we feel taken advantage of.
You're in Promotions and You Want to Advertise (a.k.a. Host Us or Sell Us Tickets)
We periodically get emails from bars who want to host us for an event. You're welcome to contact us about such things, but as our group description clearly states we like to meet in places other than bars, it's unlikely you'll hear back from us unless your bar is really really really cool. We are receptive to offers from restaurants and pool halls, but the discount better be good and your Yelp standing better not suck.
We also periodically get emails from event promoters who want access to our mailing list in order to sell tickets to wine tastings, cruises, speed dating, and other events that will make the promoters a profit but not necessarily improve our lives in any way. Please do not bother. We are very sensitive to the reasons people signed up for our mailing list - and to receive solicitation emails is likely not high on that list of reasons. We never want members to feel they are being solicited for money. As such, we will not spam our mailing list or message board with sales pitches, no matter how "fun" they sound.
We do welcome information about free (or very cheap) events such as cultural festivals, outdoor concerts, and fund-raisers for good causes. Whether these events make it onto our calendar is at the discretion of our group organizers.
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