Social distancing is now the norm with the pandemic. This has resulted in almost no physical events, likely until well into 2021. Most events will now be online. We will list both online and physical events when we find them!
==== Confused? Ask! ====
This community can seem complex when you first explore it. Even if you are familiar, a new town or setting may take time to understand. So, if you have questions, just send an private message to Mike, the organizer of this meetup!
==== About This Group ====
This group provides an inclusive centralized meetup forum to let our members let go and find a welcoming, inclusive, set of kinky friendships and fun, unrestrained by repressive cultures. Take the red pill, and realize that those that repress are the ones fooling themselves and causing more harm to our society. Do as little or as much as you want -- you choose.
Here we announce and coordinate participation in various leather, kink, and BDSM events and activities held by organizations and qualified individuals. These welcoming communities are fine with what's different about you, and who you choose to be. Whatever you choose, be kind to others in our community.
We focus on Albuquerque, New Mexico, and prominent events in surrounding states of AZ, UT, NV, CO, OK, and TX. Larger and more prominent activities that are more distant may also be posted to facilitate coordination of locals that might attend. With the pandemic, we also have opportunities via Zoom and other services across the globe, so may post those.
Individuals that want to join this group must be 18+ in age, and might be those who are simply curious, novices, those having some experience, to those who are very experienced. Members may be only interested in particular aspects of leather, kink, and BDSM, or they may have a wide range of interest. We will be inclusive of all gender identities and sexual orientations in this meetup; however, particular events hosted here may focus on a particular subset of these based upon their charter. Therefore you may find that not all meetups posted here are of interest to your own energy or focus. If you don't see enough of what you like, let the organizer know! Many events are cross-community, so consider stepping outside your box to get to know others!
All events should provide safe space, require consent in their activities, and list age requirements. Typical events we anticipate include those for the curious, classes, training, social gatherings, club meetings, parades, pageants, volunteer, fund raising. Most events will likely be focused on a particular aspect of leather, kink, or BDSM, while some may be inclusive of a broad section of related topics. Many events here will be for 21+ years of age due to location. From past experience, most of these events are very welcoming to the novice - you can often just watch and learn without participating, or ask for help learning. This meetup will also entertain events from commercial sponsors or vendors with nominal contribution to operations costs.
To be clear, this meetup is not intended to create or duplicate existing leather, kink or BDSM organizations. It is intended to help awareness of like-minded individuals of all events in our area. Primary areas for information here are (1) meet-ups, (2) Pages with static information about leather and kink, (3) Discussions. If you'd like to help out here by adding information or organizing meetups, let the organizers know!
How many people are going?
Number of people going to a particular event is likely not accurately reflected here by the list and count of people go to a particular event. There are usually very many more going to events than register here -- because most of these events are posted in multiple forums. If events are specific to this meetup, the announcement should mention that and the count should be more accurate.
If you are not 18+ years of age, please leave this group until you are! Some events allow 18+ year old attendees, some have a 21 year limit due to availability of alcohol. While this group is for adults 18+ years in age, no sexually explicit images are allowed on this site. Please avoid placing images or very strong discussions that may be triggers for some members.
Do I have to be into all Leather/Kink activity?
No. You may just be curious wanting to learn. Be who you are. Be confident in your interests and stage of learning, which is better than pretending to be an expert when you are not. Don't "yuck someone else's yum." If you want to learn more, come to events and learn. Search information on the Internet, but remember not everything on the Internet is is true. Try http://bdsmwiki.info/ (http://bdsmwiki.info/Main_Page), for example.
Leather and Kink events are often very inclusive of sexual identity and orientation in one way or another. So, for instance, an event held at a facility that is typically identified as "straight," will very often encourage and welcome other sexual orientations at some events. A leather event held at a "gay bar" will quite often be very accepting of straight, bi, trans, queer folk. A leather event will often be welcoming to other fetishes such as rubber, furries, pups, etc. While energy at a particular event may not suit your interest, don't assume that it excludes your participation. Some events may be very focused on a narrow range of sexual identity and orientation -- but this is usually clearly stated. Ask. We have seen many cross-community events in Albuquerque that are welcoming to all.
What about soliciting others for Kink Play or Sex?
Usually the best way to engage a kink community is to attend events and get to know people in person first. Why? Because a higher level of trust is involved in this community. Attend events, meet people. Refrain from immediately asking for BDSM play or sex.
This meetup group is primarily set up to announce group social events where you can attend and meet others in person in safe group environments. Since Meetup is a social site, you may receive a solicitation from another member. If can choose to not respond, suggest meeting in a public setting, or politely indicate that you are not interested. Also check your privacy settings. If you wish to solicit others for sex or kink play, consider that the BDSM community strongly values consent, negotiation, and safety. As such, consider first asking something like "Hi. I noticed your profile and am interested in meeting for play. Do you mind if we discuss that here online?" This is less threatening and less likely to shock some members.
A better approach is to set up your own public meetup activity here on ALK to discuss the topics of interest. In such settings, you can get to meet and know people that might eventually be play partners. If you need help setting up your own meetup on ALK, let the organizer know!
Remote or Distant Events?
This meetup is primarily for physical events in or near New Mexico. Remote or distant events will be posted for awareness and as a means help local members coordinate travel and meetups at those distant events. These will be titled "Remote - Name of event." Due to the pandemic it may not matter where the host is located, and these will be titled "Online - Name of event." Any event in New Mexico, no matter how small, may be posted here. Interesting and somewhat larger events in surrounding states (AZ, UT, CO, NV, OK, TX) may be posted here. Events in these states, such as in Phoenix, Denver, or Dallas, can be reached via a day drive or quick flight and may encourage and coordinate Albuquerque attendance. More distant events should be much larger and have potential draw for our local membership. An example might be Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco. This group is not intended to list all events in the US or World, only those of potential interest to those in the Albuquerque area.
Want to participate or expand what's here?
If you have ideas for events that should be posted here, please contact the organizer. If you'd like to hold your own Leather/Kink event, contact the organizer to create and manage your own meetup.