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*** RSVPing on MeetUp does not register you for the event. ***
you must be fully vaccinated for covid-19 or bring a covid test from the prior 48 hours to attend this event
*** The RSVPs here do not represent real RSVPs. Due to covid we cap these events at 25 participants and usually sell out.
**** Tickets are sliding scale $15-40 pay what you can.
This will be an indoor unmasked event. DO NOT ATTEND if you or someone you are physically close with is sick or has increased risk for severe illness from COVID-19.
This is a non-sexual touch based event that invites participants to explore platonic intimacy with like-minded people in an environment that upholds personal boundaries and respect through a supportive framework of mutual agreements that maximize safety and create a space of easy openness and compassionate connection.
At this event we have the chance to normalize touch and intimacy with clear boundaries; this is a space for respectful, consent-based touch. We allow ourselves to be seen. We have fun. We get our touch needs met.
We welcome people of all backgrounds, genders, ethnicities, economic statuses, races, spiritual or religious beliefs, sizes, and ages (children welcome; parents/guardians must keep your eyes on your children and be responsible for them).
THE RULES OF CUDDLING
Clothes stay on for the whole event.
You do not have to touch anyone at a Cuddle Club event.
You must ask permission and receive a verbal YES before you touch anyone. Please be specific in your requests.
If you feel a yes, say YES. If you feel a no, say NO. If you’re a maybe, say NO. You can always change your mind.
Get your facilitator or assistant if you have a question or concern, or if you need assistance with anything during the event.
Talking, laughter, silence, silliness, stillness, and crying are welcome.
Touch is a basic human need, and many of us do not get enough; most people don’t even know they are missing touch, or have a way to ask for touch without sexualizing it. We believe deeply in the power of touch, and the importance of communication and consent in creating a safe space for touch.
CUDDLING WITH STRANGERS
Cuddling with strangers sounds weird or scary to most people. “Will I like it?” “What if someone wants to touch me and I don’t want to?” “What if I say yes and it’s not what I want?” “What if I really want to touch someone and they say no?” These are all normal questions. The answer is that this is a space created to ask for exactly what you want, and receive NOTHING you don’t want. Many people start out nervous at a cuddle event. Most are really, really glad they came.
ARRIVE ON TIME: It is important that all participants arrive before the Welcome Circle. The Welcome Circle serves the purpose of creating the safe space for consensual, non-sexual touch between participants and making sure that everyone is informed about consent.
Please be free of strong scents; many folks would rather not be close to someone who smells of cigarettes, perfume, or essential oils. Your clean self is a good smell!
BE SOBER: Please do not drink or smoke before or at this event.
WHAT TO BRING: personal water bottle and snacks to share. The only thing that you are required to bring is a clean and sober you.
Note: if you want to attend this event and truly can no afford it, please be in contact with us. We have work trade & scholarship options! NO one turned away for lack of funds.
***RSVPING does NOT sign you up for this event- you must register***
You MUST be phone vetted before attending this event.
This is a small/intimate vent of 15-25 people. RSVPs here do not represent who has signed up as we advertise in multiple places.
To register SIGN UP HERE!
This will be an indoor event. DO NOT ATTEND if you or someone you are physically close with is sick or has increased risk for severe illness from COVID-19. For now, we are requiring people who attend to be vaccinated OR have a rapid PCR test the day of event. Face masks are optional. After you register please email us a pic of your vax card if we dont already have it OR send a message that you'll be bringing a copy of your Rapid Diagnostic PCR test from that day.
What is a Sensual Snuggle Event?
A Sensual Snuggle Party is a sweet sensual touch based event where we gather to connect, cuddle, massage, play, laugh, cry, share intimacy, vulnerability or whatever else spontaneously arises. It’s a drug and alcohol-free space where we can relax and connect with other humans who are seeking touch based connection. This is a space to practice expressing what feels good and what doesn’t, asking to get your needs met, setting boundaries, and perhaps even overcoming rejection.
Many of us are longing for more touch, connection, community, pleasure, validation, and delight in our lives. Conversation is a wonderful way to connect with other people, but some of us crave physical connection as well. The body’s bliss hormone, Oxytocin, is released by nurturing, welcome, consensual touch and is essential for the well-being of your body, your heart, and your spirit. Your nervous system, blood pressure, and emotional health all benefit from healthy, heart-full touch!
Safe touch enhances our ability to connect with and trust people, our capacity to respect and care for ourselves, our creativity, and our sense of safety, comfort, and belonging. In today’s high-tech low-touch society, we especially crave the authentic connection, deep listening, and nurturing touch that we were born to receive.
Snuggling is a great way to get that kind of touch. And sometimes… you know… you want to do more than snuggle.
- Everyone keeps their pants on
Our intention is that this is a time and place for sensuality not sexuality. The object is to enjoy one another without trying to build our sensual/sexual energy toward orgasm. It’s not about trying to get someone off, it’s about enjoying being aroused, delighted and connected and letting that be enough. And… If you find yourself wanting more than that, great! We encourage you to enjoy that wanting. Delight in being turned on. Sit with it. Savor it for the whole party. But don’t act on it there.
- We take care of ourselves and each other
Don’t do anything you don’t want to do. Do (and ask for) what you want. Check in with yourself and others regularly. Each person brings their own safety. And we all look out for each other
- Always ask for and receive verbal consent
Say yes, to what you want and feels good. Say no to what you don’t want and doesn’t feel good. If you are not hearing a “Hell yes!” then it’s a “No.” It’s okay to change your mind at any time.
- Everything is an experiment and it is OK to be uncomfortable (as long as we are safe)
Trying something new is sometimes uncomfortable. You don’t have to know what you are going to want ahead of time. You can change your mind as many times as you want. Follow your authentic “yes” and authentic “no” in each moment; celebrate others doing the same. The only way to grow is to get out of our comfort zone.
We respect each other’s privacy and hold in confidence everything that is shared and done at this event.
Sensual experience is beautiful, natural, and healthy ~ Embrace it! Celebrate it!
Lets meet up in downtown Asheville to give away FREE HUGS!
RSVP so I have an idea of how many people will join us. I'll make some signs but bring your own if you have time to make one. We'll meet at Pack Square where the old obelisk was and will likely stay there for a while but we might wander to other parts of town.
Invite your friends to join! Everyone is welcome. After we are all hugged out (is this possible?) we can part ways or share dinner.
This event is hosted by HoldmeAVL.com & the Asheville Cuddle Collective!