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BESS is an educational and social group for consenting adults with shared interests in BDSM. These interests include, among others, Dominance & submission, bondage & discipline, leathersex, fetishism, cross dressing, and roleplay.

BESS is multi-sexual. All genders and orientations are welcome to attend.

Our goal is to provide a safe, friendly, and discreet environment for the education and encouragement of adults interested in Safe, Sane, and Consensual expressions of BDSM.

BESS Contributorships, Educational Meetings, Socials, and SIGs are open to anyone, age 19 or older, with a sincere interest in some aspect of BDSM. BESS is a not-for-profit 501(c)7 organization. We are NOT a sex or swingers club. We are NOT a dating service. We do NOT make referrals.

Upcoming events (5+)

Know your Civil Rights in Maryland w/ the Maryland Commission on Civil Rights

7:10pm New People's Orientation (FREE), 7:30-9 Educational meeting ($5 for members, $10 for nonmembers), 9-10:30 MUNCH! (whatever you order to eat!). The Maryland Commission on Civil Rights is tasked with, among other things, educating employers in Maryland on the anti-discrimination codes which cover harassment of Maryland's citizens including those who are lesbian, gay, transgendered. From the presenter: This workshop will provide information on the Civil Rights protections that are afforded to persons who live, work, and visit the state of Maryland. The meaning of Maryland’s anti-discrimination code will be examined along with examples of what constitutes discrimination and harassment. Information will be provided as to how to file a discrimination or harassment charge. Finally, the session will help identify ways in which the Maryland Commission can provide assistance and resources to you and your community. Keith A. Merkey (M.Div./CE) is an Education and Outreach Associate for the Maryland Commission on Civil Rights where he provides educational workshops and conducts trainings on a variety of topics such as diversity, discrimination prevention, sexual harassment, conflict resolution, sexual orientation/gender identity, and other issues for Maryland’s agencies, universities, businesses and organizations. The majority of his work has been in the area of adult training and education. Mr. Merkey has worked for the past 30 years in the area of training, service, and education for both MCCR as well as non-profits such as Stop AIDS Campaign, Planned Parenthood of Maryland and the National Alliance for the Mentally Ill of Maryland. Baltimore Educational and Social Society (BESS) is an educational and social group for consenting adults with shared interests in BDSM sexuality. These interests include, among others, Dominance & submission, bondage & discipline, leathersex, fetishism, cross dressing, and roleplay. BESS is multi-sexual. All genders and orientations are welcome to attend. Our goal is to provide a safe, friendly, and discreet environment for the education and encouragement of adults interested in Safe, Sane, and Consensual expressions of BDSM sexuality. Orientation Meetings are free and ensure that you understand the basic ethical values of the Baltimore BDSM community. They also provide information about BESS and gives you an opportunity to ask any questions that you might have. The orientations are held at the same location as the BESS Educational meetings and there is no need to reserve in advance. Just be sure to arrive promptly at 7:10pm and inform the BESS staff that you wish to attend an orientation. Educational Meetings are generally held the 1st and 3rd Wednesday of each month, starting at 7:30 pm. They cover a wide range of topics related to BDSM, from play techniques to lifestyle issues and more. These meetings are open to all who wish to attend; there is a small fee for each meeting. For more information see http://www.bess-md.org

Hook Suspension with SuspenDC & BESS

Baltimore Playhouse

$15.00

Join in an amazing day of flesh hook play and community ritual. You will see people flying through the air, people making magik through their drumming, a great community potluck, and a community of amazing people. This is not a play event. Doors open at 11am. The first suspension is at noon. The last suspension goes up at 6pm. The SuspenDC crew will be there to offer a variety of flesh hook experiences. For those ready to fly the crew has a number of suspension positions they can help you achieve. For those new to the experience a hook pull gives a test of the experience. While flyers are in the air, a community of friends will be facilitating drumming. Essence of Earth and Spirit will be vending there to offer magikal tools to help you on your journey. The house vendor, VioletWand Store will also be there vending for all of your kinky needs. How can you participate? There are many ways to take part in the day's activities. -FLY- You get on the runway, spread your wings and fly. There are many ways to go up, the suspension team is here to discuss options and help you decide which one is best for you. If you know you want to fly, it's best to communicate with the team early (contact info below). There will be a limited amount of flights for the day so registering ahead of time is highly recommended! Flyers are also encouraged to bring on their own style and magik to the event. Costumes, face paint, your special music, your community of supporters, etc. The space is here for experimentation and play. You are empowered to use it. -Hook Pull- Some people are not ready to fly but want to try out the feeling of hooks. For you there is a hook pull. Two hooks are placed anywhere on your body and attached to a cord. From there you and a partner, or you and an anchor point, play tug-o-war. For people interested in flying but with no experience with this kind of body modification, this is a great first step of exploration. -Witness- For many people, flying is not currently an option but they love being in a space where people challenge themselves. You are welcome to come watch and see how this community plays. -Support- Some people are called to support flyers in their quest to defy gravity. A supporter takes an active role by being a positive, uplifting, supportive spirit as someone flies. Having this kind of cheering section creates a magik that has to be experienced in order to be believed. -Drumming- We keep the rhythm going all day to support the adepts who are working their bodies to find their healing and their magik. Bring your drum, rattle, or any acoustical instrument, or borrow one of ours. We like to share our toys. -Contributing to the community food table- Taking chances and holding a safe space take a lot of energy. To support each other in a physical way, everyone is asked to bring a dish/snack to share on the community table. There is a door charge for everyone attending unless you pre-register for hook suspensions with Whittney. -Hook Pulls Cost- Hook Pulls are $60 for 2 8g hooks placed anywhere you like. -Suspensions Cost- Suspensions are priced based on complexity, starting at $150. The most standard suspension, a vertical suspension with (4 or 6) 8g hooks placed across the back is $150. A more challenging suspension of 2, 4g hooks is also available. Please contact the team lead Whittney Matlock, [masked], to discuss what you want and the cost. -Photo Policy- The regular Baltimore Playhouse photo policy is in effect: NO UNAUTHORIZED PHOTOGRAPHY. If you would like pictures, please find designated staff members (who will be wearing high visibility vests) and they will take pics of you with your own device. -Register for Your Suspension/Questions- Ready to make plans to fly? Questions about what we are doing? Contact the SuspenDC team lead, Whittney Matlock, at [masked]. The event coordinator can be reached by email at: [masked]. Get Hooked and Fly!

Educational Meeting! Wax Play

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7:10pm New People's Orientation (FREE), 7:30-9 Educational meeting ($5 for members, $10 for nonmembers), 9-10:30 MUNCH! (whatever you order to eat!). Wax Play with Slave Jenna There is so much fun to be had with just a little wax! What should you avoid? How can you clean up easily? How to make it sensual or how to make it sadistic (without burning them)! Let's talk about all the fun you can have with wax! Slave Jenna has been volunteering her time and knowledge in the kink and leather community since 2005. She has given her time to MTTA, the Master/slave Conference, the Baltimore Educational and Social Society, Queer Leather Alliance, the Baltimore Playhouse, Black Rose, The Crucible, and volunteered at many different events around the region. Currently, she serves on the Board of Directors of the Baltimore Playhouse, the Board of Directors of MTTA, and on the Executive Committee for MsC. Slave Jenna is also the founder/director of MAsT Towson, is the bookkeeper for MTTA, the co-chef for MTTA Academy, and an Assistant Producer for MsC. She is a member of BESS, Women in Leather, and several of the Mid-Atlantic MAsT groups. In 2013, she was honored to receive the Sir Steve Community Service award at the Master/slave Conference. Slave Jenna is Owned and Operated by Master Robert of Baltimore. Baltimore Educational and Social Society (BESS) is an educational and social group for consenting adults with shared interests in BDSM sexuality. These interests include, among others, Dominance & submission, bondage & discipline, leathersex, fetishism, cross dressing, and roleplay. BESS is multi-sexual. All genders and orientations are welcome to attend. Our goal is to provide a safe, friendly, and discreet environment for the education and encouragement of adults interested in Safe, Sane, and Consensual expressions of BDSM sexuality. Orientation Meetings are free and ensure that you understand the basic ethical values of the Baltimore BDSM community. They also provide information about BESS and gives you an opportunity to ask any questions that you might have. The orientations are held at the same location as the BESS Educational meetings and there is no need to reserve in advance. Just be sure to arrive promptly at 7:10pm and inform the BESS staff that you wish to attend an orientation. Educational Meetings are generally held the 1st and 3rd Wednesday of each month, starting at 7:30 pm. They cover a wide range of topics related to BDSM, from play techniques to lifestyle issues and more. These meetings are open to all who wish to attend; there is a small fee for each meeting. For more information see http://www.bess-md.org

BESS Power Exchange SIG -- TBD

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Do you identify as Master/slave or Dominant/submissive in your lifestyle? Do you want to? Are you interested in service, structure, protocols, and relationship maintenance? Then the Power Exchange SIG is for you! TOPIC TBD ALL sexual orientations welcome. BESS membership is NOT a requirement to join us. This is a potluck/potmoney event! Please either bring something to share OR bring $5; we'll pool the money and order something! Basic plan: We'll start the discussion at 7pm. By 9, we'll open the floor to any topics at all that anyone wants to raise, and mingle and talk afterwards. We'll clean up by 10-10:15. You may anonymously request a topic for the open floor by emailing [masked] or PM porkchop on FL. The Power Exchange SIG will provide support and continuing education to those already involved in or interested in M/s or D/s power exchange relationships. Monthly meetings focus on structuring, maintaining and issues related to this unique relationship style. Guest speakers, facilitated discussion, service oriented instruction, and support are the focus, not S/m techniques and skills, play or sex, though those may certainly be facets of some member’s relationships.

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