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*** BESS is an established social group with most of our events averaging 30-50 people. You can find tons more information at http://www.bess-md.org/ and via our presence on FetLife ***

BESS is an educational and social group for consenting adults with shared interests in BDSM. These interests include, among others, Dominance & submission, bondage & discipline, leathersex, fetishism, cross dressing, and roleplay.

BESS is multi-sexual. All genders and orientations are welcome to attend.

Our goal is to provide a safe, friendly, and discreet environment for the education and encouragement of adults interested in Safe, Sane, and Consensual expressions of BDSM.

BESS Contributorships, Educational Meetings, Socials, and SIGs are open to anyone, age 19 or older, with a sincere interest in some aspect of BDSM. BESS is a 504C entity, however we operate on the principles of a not-for-profit organization. We are NOT a sex or swingers club, although BESS play parties are sex positive.
We are NOT a dating service. We do NOT make referrals.

Upcoming events (5)

BESS Power Exchange SIG -- TBD

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Do you identify as Master/slave or Dominant/submissive in your lifestyle? Do you want to? Are you interested in service, structure, protocols, and relationship maintenance? Then the Power Exchange SIG is for you! TOPIC TBD ALL sexual orientations welcome. BESS membership is NOT a requirement to join us. The entry is $5 per person. This is a potluck/potmoney event! Please either bring something to share OR bring $5; we'll pool the money and order something! Basic plan: We'll start the discussion at 7pm. By 9, we'll open the floor to any topics at all that anyone wants to raise, and mingle and talk afterwards. We'll clean up by 10-10:15. You may anonymously request a topic for the open floor by emailing [masked] or PM BESS-MD on Fet. The Power Exchange SIG will provide support and continuing education to those already involved in or interested in M/s or D/s power exchange relationships. Monthly meetings focus on structuring, maintaining and issues related to this unique relationship style. Guest speakers, facilitated discussion, service oriented instruction, and support are the focus, not S/m techniques and skills, play or sex, though those may certainly be facets of some member’s relationships.

Educational Meeting!

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7:10pm New People's Orientation (FREE), 7:30-9 Educational meeting ($5 for members, $10 for nonmembers), 9-10:30 MUNCH! (whatever you order to eat!). TO BE ANNOUNCED Baltimore Educational and Social Society (BESS) is an educational and social group for consenting adults with shared interests in BDSM sexuality. These interests include, among others, Dominance & submission, bondage & discipline, leathersex, fetishism, cross dressing, and roleplay. BESS is multi-sexual. All genders and orientations are welcome to attend. Our goal is to provide a safe, friendly, and discreet environment for the education and encouragement of adults interested in Safe, Sane, and Consensual expressions of BDSM sexuality. Orientation Meetings are free and ensure that you understand the basic ethical values of the Baltimore BDSM community. They also provide information about BESS and gives you an opportunity to ask any questions that you might have. The orientations are held at the same location as the BESS Educational meetings and there is no need to reserve in advance. Just be sure to arrive promptly at 7:10pm and inform the BESS staff that you wish to attend an orientation. Educational Meetings are generally held the 1st and 3rd Wednesday of each month, starting at 7:30 pm. They cover a wide range of topics related to BDSM, from play techniques to lifestyle issues and more. These meetings are open to all who wish to attend; there is a small fee for each meeting. For more information see http://www.bess-md.org

BESS Submissive / Slave SIG

Baltimore Playhouse

$5.00

The BESS Submissive / Slave Special Interest Group is for all members of "the bottom half of the slash". Switches are welcome, so long as they wear their "bottom" hat. This month's topic is TBA. __________________________________________________________________ What is sub/slave SIG (special interest group)? We come together from various backgrounds and experiences to share what we have in common. All submissives and slaves, and switches; regardless of gender/orientation or relationship status, are invited to join and participate. Get involved, share your ideas and interests, ask questions, feel safe, be respected and accepted among friends, learn, grow, and help others to do the same. The submissives and slaves SIG currently meets monthly, usually in a social setting, but may also include discussions and demonstrations of mutual interest. Just a note: NO Personal water/drink bottles allowed per The Playhouse ALL sexual orientations welcome. BESS membership is NOT a requirement to join us.

BESS People of Color SIG

Baltimore Playhouse

$5.00

Calling all Kinky People of Color! The Baltimore Educational Social Society (BESS) invites you to join us for the POC Special Interest Group (SIG)! Introducing a discussion group designed by and for POC kinksters! Topic: RSVP here: Meetings will be held at the Baltimore Playhouse every first Sunday of the month from 2-4PM. __________________________________________________________________ What is the POC SIG (special interest group)? The purpose of the SIG is to provide a space for kinksters who identify as People of Color to come together and discuss the shared experiences and/or challenges of being a Person of Color in a kink space. Unapologetic, real conversations loading! General SIG meetings are designed to serve the POC community within the kink community. If you are not a POC, please respect the intention of this SIG and restrict your attendance only to SIG events advertised to all kinksters. Don’t worry! There will be plenty of annual POC SIG events welcoming all kinksters. Regardless of ethnicity, experience level, gender identity, sexuality, or kink identity, if you identify as a Person of Color in the kink community, this SIG was designed to celebrate and support you! Just a note: NO Personal water/drink bottles allowed per The Playhouse ALL sexual orientations welcome. BESS membership is NOT a requirement to join us.

Past events (277)

BESS People of Color SIG

Baltimore Playhouse

$5.00

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