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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

1. What is a newbie?
A newbie is someone who has never attended a BAG meetup event, or someone who has joined in the last 2 months.

2. What is a flake?
A flake is someone who cancels an RSVP at the last minute. This is unfair to the host who has scheduled the event, the restaurant who is counting on x number of people to show up, and to the people on the waiting list who may not be able to change their plans at the last minute.

3. What is a no-show?
A no-show is someone who says they’re going to attend, but doesn’t bother to show up. This is bad for the reasons stated above.

4. How does the manual waiting list work?
When a spot opens up, will automatically email everyone on the waiting list. Whoever responds first will be added to the YES list.

5. If my boss makes me work late and I have to change my RSVP at the last minute, is that considered flaking?
Yes. Bay Area Gastronomers is not your backup plan for social events. You need to plan ahead and cancel your RSVP at least 24 hours in advance.

6. If I can't find parking near the meetup, and can't make it, am I considered a no-show?
Yes. It is your responsibility to figure out parking & transportation beforehand. Consult for specific directions and public transportation options.

7. Why do we have to pay the 4% San Francisco Health Fee?
The fee allows SF restaurants to provide healthcare benefits to their staff. If your current employer provides health benefits to you, then you're lucky. If not, then you should get a job at a restaurant in San Francisco. Not all restaurants impose this fee but, for those that do, we pay our share.

8. I'm shy but I like hanging out with people. Do I really have to talk?
Yes. The purpose of is to meet people and interact in a social setting. If you're serious about meeting new people, you should make an effort to talk to at least 3 people at each event. This will help you become more comfortable in group settings.

9. Why do you charge for meetup events?
There are a couple of reasons: 1) If a restaurant requires a credit card to hold our reservation, I’ll charge a refundable RSVP fee to avoid being hit with no-show fees. 2) If I have a Groupon that entitles our group to a discount, then I’ll ask attendees to reimburse me in advance of the event. 3) If an event requires pre-payment, e.g. a tour or entrance fee, then same as #2. In all cases, fees are refundable if the event is canceled or rescheduled.

10. I'm on the waiting list. Again. What's the best way to get into events?
Dining events are very popular and organizers try to host as many meals as our schedules will allow. That said, we recognize the insanity of over 900 members all vying for a seat at one of our events.

The best way to secure a seat is to note when the RSVPs open and set your alarm so that you can be ready when that happens. If, like the rest of us, you have a life and the event fills up, do add yourself to the waiting list. Why? Because there are often cancellations in the final 12-24 hours before an event. I've seen RSVP lists turn over 2 and 3 times in the final 12 hours. Keep in mind that we use the manual waiting list, which means that you will not automatically be added when a spot opens up. Instead, you'll receive an email message, so be alert!

11. I had a terrible time at dinner. What should I do?
If you experience a problem with one of our events, or with one our hosts, the best way to handle it is to contact the host directly via email. If you don't feel comfortable doing that, you're welcome to email Tee [the organizer] privately and she will be happy to help you resolve the situation. People come to our group to have a fun dining experience but things can/do go wrong. Constructive comments about the restaurant, food, and service are helpful, but personal attacks are not tolerated in this group and is definitely not the way to resolve your conflict, or maintain friendly relations among members.

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A Note about Solicitors July 21, 2013 9:12 PM anonymous
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) August 12, 2013 8:37 AM anonymous
Ground Rules January 1, 2014 8:38 PM anonymous
About Bay Area Gastronomers July 21, 2013 9:33 PM anonymous

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