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Update on Polyamorous Lupercalia Party: Feb 16: Berkeley

From: Dave D.
Sent on: Sunday, February 10, 2013 11:22 PM

This an update on our 9th annual Polyamorous Lupercalia Party, which will be happening SATURDAY evening, February 16, in Berkeley, California. Party begins at 6:30 PM, going until 11 PM or so. (THIS HAPPENS AT THE CLARK KERR CONFERENCE CENTER ON the University of California, BERKELEY CAMPUS.


NOTICE THAT THIS IS A MORE EXPENSIVE AND ELABORATE EVENT THAN USUAL!!  This is because we are renting space at the University of California Berkeley Conference Center this time instead of trying to do it at my house. It gives us more space to work with than doing it in just my living room, but it costs some bucks to do this - so we have to charge participants.
Looks like we are already over quota for single males, but all other configurations are still wide open. (Note that gay couples are counted as couples, not as two single men).

  There are two pricing options:

  Participation at full price is $26 per person. This full price option includes the full Buffet dinner provided by the UC Berkeley Catering staff). The meal includes Beef Bouruignon, Rosemary roasted potatoes, Wild and Brown Rice Pilaf, Mixed Green Salad, Black Bean and Roasted Corn salad, Steamed Harocot Vert with Cashews (=green beans, a vegetable dish, and for those preferring a vegan entree, we also have Vegetable Strudel with Roasted Red Pepper Basil Sauce.
   There is also a low-budget option. Those wishing to attend the party but NOT desiring to take advantage of this meal option may attend for a requested donation of $12).
  This lower price is available to those who register and pay in advance via Paypal.

(Notice that we are asking people to RSVP AND register for this event advance. Just clicking on a MEETUp button does not register you or reserve you a space. You must RSVP with Dave at :

[address removed]

(Be aware that Dave will be almost impossible to reach on Saturday Feb 16, so if you plan to RSVP, tis best done quickly).

THIS party is an affiliated event connected with the International Polyamory  Conference that is happening at this same place Feb 15-17. However, the party is a distinct event from the Conference. You don't have to go to the Conference to attend the party, but anyone who registers for the conference can attend the party at no extra charge.


See the link below for conference information:
And why are we making such a big deal about Lupercalia as a polyamorous celebration?
That is because, as you probably know, Lupercalia was a wild holiday from pre-Christian Roman times, centered upon the celebration of the highly non-monogamous diety named Pan (aka Faunus). As the story goes, in order to cure the land of a severe plague of infertility in about 275 BC, the Romans consulted their most holy oracle about what to do. The oracle proclaimed that the gods of fertility had been offended, and therefore the ONLY way to lift the plague was for all the married men in the nation to allow their wives to have sex the preists of Pan, who acted as stand-ins for the fertility god Pan himself. (The priests of Pan were typically the most handsome and virile young men in Rome, so many of the married Roman women evidently were quite keen on the idea. The wives thus eagerly formed a line a mile long outside the Temple of Pan in order to do their solemn duty. Their husbands, however, were not all quite so enthusiastic on the idea).
To make a long story short, the actual having of sex with the preists of Pan eventually got turned into a more tame and symbolic gesture of the Roman wives lining the streets of the city and receiving a brief spanking from the nude preists as they ran by.  Nevertheless, the original meaning of the festival - centered upon the ceremonial granting of permission of wives by their husbands to have sex with some other handsome young man only slowly faded from memory, and the holiday - in the middle of February, was celebrated with themes of love and sexuality based on spontaneity, attraction, and desire rather that marriage and rules - and it seems to have been a prime holiday for all sorts of extra-marital sexual adventures and non-monogamous romantic shenanigans.
This whole Lupercalia thing eventually got toned down and became what is known and Marti Gras, Carnivale, and of course Valentine's Day - that namby-pamby Brady Bunch version of what the celebration used to be like. All the standard "Valentine's Day" symbols like Cupid shooting arrows into "heart" etc are all just pale reflections all this ancient Lupercalia celebration. It's origin as a festival at which married Roman men were required to give their wives permission to have sex with handsome young men dressed like Pan, wearing only a small goat-skin loin cloth and a pair of horns on their head - was mostly forgotten over the centuries, (but not by US!. Each year, traditionalists that we are, work hard to revive the original spirit of Lupercalia.

At  the party, we plan to have at least one professional exotic dancer. [Notice that since we are operating within the highly conservative environment of the University Campus, the dancers CANNOT be completely nude like they usually when we do this at other locations, but they will be HOT!

(We might end up with more pro dancers, but so far, just one is confirmed).
 (Still awaiting confirmation from our male exotic dancer).

   We shall also do the traditional Lupercalia "bestowing of horns" ceremony, during which those wishing to do so may ceremonially place the "horns of Pan" upon their heads, thus "magically" proclaiming their commitment to poly-ness to the universe, the assembled crowd, their our subconscious mind, or at least toanyone interested in listerning.

    We shall also of course have the traditional Lupercalia cake. (We'll have to make it from scratch, since nobody in this town will sell me a professionally made Lupercalia Cake. (You'd be surprised at the dumb looks I STILL get from the bakery shops around here every year when I try to order one of these - but never fear, we will have one - one way or ta other! Even the professional bakers at UC Berkeley Catering services are giving me grief and attitude over this one, but we ARE going to have one).
    We also plan to have a poly dance session in which all interested attendees are encouraged to participate. This involves dancing together in configurations that include not just a couple, but with three or more individuals simultaneously. Great fun!

Looking pretty good for at least one or two pro- massueses for the ladies, but its still under disussion whether we'll have one, two or three tables going at once. Massage is respectful and gentle, and person receiving it decides what regions of the body are to be massaged and how. (So far, this offer only extends to female attendees. Any one interested in massaging MALE attendees, please do let me know).

Still not enough volunteers to receive a (semi-public) traditional Lupercalia spanking. (Remember, you can't RECEIVE a spanking unless you APPLY for for one - AND have your application accepted by show time. You need to have been REALLY NAUGHTY this year to earn one. So ladies, get those applications filed right away!! (In ancient Roman times, it was only the ladies who were entitled to recieve a spanking, but in the egalitarian spirit of polyamory, we shall allow  males also to apply for a spanking - provided that they can convince someone they have been naughty enough to earn one).
(You are also allowd to recommend someone else for a spanking as well - stating the reasons you think it is justified - but it is strictly up to the candidate to accept or decline the honor).

Structured puppy scheduled to begin at 10:15 PM. This is a completely safe environment, G-rated - participation on a strictly voluntary basis only.

We will need to see valid PHOTO ID for ALL PERSONS who attend, especially those who are attending for the first time, and especially single males and those not personally known by me. Sorry to have to do this, but is it a security measure insisted upon by our lawyer. We need the ID for everybody.

This is NOT a kid-friendly event. No one under 18 years of age will be
We need 2 more people to help with set-up for a couple hours
before the party, roughly 4 PM to 6:30 on Saturday FEB 16.

Directions and location will be emailed to those who RVSP:

RSVP to: [address removed]

Hope to see Yah'all on February 16!!
 Notice again the Polyamorous Lupercalia Party is not happening at my house this year, but in the Clark Kerr Conference center at UC Berkeley. If despite it all, you show up at my house anyway, you will find a note tacked on the door, informing of this information, and reminding you are a silly person for not reading this notice.
  [address removed]
 Anyone who is registered for the main conference may attend the political summit  at no additional charge.

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