Here are a few websites you might find interesting. Taken together they are a good introduction to what BmorePoly is all about.
In BmorePoly, we say in a world of separation, we are about connection. Our main influences in this are the connection concepts found in polyamory, kink/BDSM, "new culture", sacred sexuality, tantra, and swing lifestyle, all of which are valid choices. Some people have asked for more information and background on all these various scenes that come together in BmorePoly. Here are some links to discussions of all of these.
This essay is from The Pervocracy, a very thoughtful poly/kink/open relationships blog. The way it talks about all this is very close to how we feel on BmorePoly. "What kind of relationship you have is your choice, and one choice isn't better than another ... What's important isn't what path you take, but that you know there are paths."
There's a very good FAQ on polyamory at morethantwo.com.
There's a good FAQ on BDSM here and a more philosophical take on this here.
There are some good essays on what the swing lifestyle is all about here and here.
Here is some good info on "new culture", another part of what we do in BmorePoly. That page talks about their summer camps, but the same perspectives are applicable everywhere.
A lot of people are starting to look at non-monogamous, non-traditional relationships in a broader context. Here's an interesting paper that looks at autonomy in sex, gender, and family formation from a non-monogamy perspective.
Here are a couple of interesting takes on the male experience in all this. First, Pepper Mint's Nonmonogamy for Men: The Big Picture and then Steve Bearman's thoughts on Why Men Are So Obsessed With Sex. Both of these sites have interesting analysis on All This Stuff and are well worth reading.
Are you a couple "looking for your third"? Read these ASAP: Part 1: To Unicorn Hunters, From an Ex-Unicorn and Part 2: To Unicorns, From an Ex-Unicorn . This one too: So What Is Couple Privilege, Anyway? And this one: So, somebody called you a Unicorn Hunter? Their flowchart is pretty good too.
And no matter what configuration of relationship you are contemplating, Franklin's Relationship Bill of Rights is a must-read.
Some people say, what about jealousy? Here's something we like on that. With good-hearted people there's plenty for everyone.
So poly folks don't get jealous? Well, not exactly. It isn't the getting jealous but how it's handled. Here are Ten Responses To “But Don’t You Get Jealous?”
The always interesting Charlie Glickman has a wonderful essay on how sex-negativity ties into so many other negative parts of our culture. "Every single person in this society is raised to be sex-negative, just as every one of us is raised to be racist, homophobic, sexist, etc. ... Part of the difficulty is that it’s difficult to admit our internalized sex-negativity, just as it’s difficult to admit homophobia or racism... In many ways, learning to break sex-negativity down is linked to working to end other prejudices."
Here's my own take on all this: polyamory as self-determination. I wrote this paper in 2010, and it was published in the IASHS Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality. It's about polyamory (and really, all sexual/loving styles, including monogamy) being not so much about sex but rather the right to make your own choices, just as in every other part of your life.
Here's a charming and thought provoking little essay. What if everything were like sex?
And finally, A Warm Fuzzy Tale. This is a very sweet parable that is on the web in many variations; here are a few of my favorites. The original version, the complete version in the book that's on Amazon as posted by the author, and the author reading that version. I'm sure you'll see the obvious parallels with what we do in BmorePoly.
Well, enough for now. This list is a work in progress. It will be updated as we find more to add. Feel free to offer suggestions!
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