What we're about


Formed in 2011, the DC Regional Trans Ladies’ Meetup serves as the central trans-women group in the Washington, D.C. region for transgender women and those who support us. We welcome cross-dressers, bi-gender, gender-fluid, intersex, and transsexuals as well as their partners and community allies.

We seek to support and strengthen our community through social and educational events with an eye toward networking and personal growth while having fun in safe, secure, friendly venues. So, if you are drawn to express your feminine side or support those who do and wish to gather with and meet others with compatible interests, we invite you to read further.



The DC Trans Ladies’ core principle is to include everyone that comprises the female transgender spectrum as well as to accommodate our cisgender female allies.

We strive to provide a variety of activities meeting the interests and needs of trans-women. We are not a dating site. To ensure the comfort and privacy of all our trans-woman members, we do not accept male admirers for membership. Some of our events are designated private while others are public. Public events are open to all who wish to attend and are willing to appear and behave in a manner appropriate for such venues.

Our many social and educational events offer fun opportunities for socializing with new people, building friendships, sharing experiences, exploring and improving your presentation and style, and celebrating our femininity in safe settings. Most of all they provide you a place to be warmly accepted for who you are. Gatherings range from small private events to group excursions to larger mainstream venues, events, and outdoor locations.

For those just beginning to explore their femininity, many activities facilitate you discovering and perfecting your feminine presentation. To this end, we offer mentoring and support so that you can develop greater poise and confidence to comfortably and successfully express your innate femininity. Many find a “big sister” or a core group of girlfriends, which can help you avoid the many common.

We have found that it takes time and practice to evolve your presentation as well as to learn who you are; it is an on-going process. We have found that we become more comfortable and confident the more often we socialize in the public eye.

Our events are designed to provide opportunities to foster your growth and confidence. You will find our members willing to share a wealth of knowledge and the cisgender allies who join us also can provide invaluable guidance. These resources will be available to you at our events and on-line in our resource links and discussion forums.

If all this sounds right for you, join us, and take the important first step by attending one of our posted events! Your significant others and spouses are welcome to attend too.

First, please continue to read about the group’s details, so you know what is expected.


We want to address the issue of so-called “being passable” head on. Many of our events are held in the public domain. We do not restrict our activities to “LGBT safety net” type venues. As such, these events can be stressful to girls, particularly those who have recently “come out,” whose presentation skills are still in the formative stage.

Do not let the fear of whether you are “passable” become a barrier! In most cases, we all went through the “awkward stage” of opening that 500-pound car door that stood between our first trans event and us. Amazingly, we survived! Our events are inclusive—for those who can pass and those still finding their way to their own feminine look.


Gathering and socializing allows us to build community as we find our place on the gender continuum. Let your sisters help you as they were helped. Members also offer makeovers, fashion tips, and other types of support in learning how to better present and to quickly learn key skills that -girls learned in their formative years. Note that if it makes you more comfortable, trans-women are welcome to attend events dressed in male mode as personal circumstances and confidence dictates.


This is not a group for sex, hook-ups, or fetish sexual expression. We don’t impose micro-management dress codes or enforce rules designed for the convent. However, we do assume our members to be intelligent, responsible people who will dress and comport themselves appropriately for the venue and the type of event hosted.

When publicly en-femme, like it or not, we represent the transgender community to the public at large. As such, we are judged by what they see and hear: by how we look and by how we act. Should we appear in extreme fashions, reflect contradictory genders in presentation, or exhibit inappropriate behavior—we injure our cause and put our relationship with our venue in jeopardy.

For this reason, the group expects you to dress and behave appropriately for the venue and circumstance. Should this not occur, the group reserves the right to ask for and, if necessary, enforce appropriate dress and behavior. If you have questions about an outfit or circumstance, please contact one of our organizers for advice.


We recommend that you review our on-line message boards and discussions for topics and recommended resources that are relevant for just starting out or coming out. For example, if you are looking for trans-friendly makeovers, check out this resource listing on our site:


This is the forum to ask questions. You will find willing mentors and friends to guide and assist you.


Some trans-women are naturally drawn to a relationship with men, so some events explicitly include male admirers. Also, the bar and club events listed here put on by TGirlNation (www.tgirlnation.com (http://www.tgirnation.com/)) are public events designed for trans-women to meet admirers. Our Meetup site permits admirers to review members’ profiles and reach out to only those women who have indicated a specific interest in being contacted. Again, it will be your responsibility to conduct yourself appropriately at our gatherings.


Trans-women, their partners, and friends are invited to join us at our signature events, Soirees. Soirees occur at safe, approachable locations in the DC area. Come join us in a relaxed, comfortable setting for a few drinks while you meet and socialize with other women.


At any of our events, you are welcome to come in male mode. Upon arrival, introduce yourself to the hosts and you will be warmly welcomed. Please consider joining us at the Pre-Soiree Dinner in the hotel's dining room. It is an opportunity to sit with your sisters and get to know them.


For those who want to put their toe in the water before stepping out into fully public venues, we offer a transitional event, the “New Girls’ Social.” These events allow you to socialize with other new girls and more experienced women who can answer questions. These smaller scale, private gatherings help introduce you to the world outside the closet.



You will also be invited to join us for excursions to trans-friendly restaurants, clubs, and lounges with trans, LGBT+ and other groups to socialize and mingle. These events are scheduled throughout the week. Such events offer diverse opportunities to spread your wings and enjoy life as the person you are.




Once every two months or so on Saturday evenings, Monica Miller hosts a TGirlNation (TGN) party. These cocktail parties cater to trans women with dating interests and to admirers of any gender. The parties are usually hosted at trendy restaurants or bars located in Ballston area of Arlington, VA; Bethesda, MD; and Georgetown area of Washington, DC. Additional locations are explored from time to time to keep it fresh..


These no-cover events are open to the public. Parties start at 8 pm and usually run until midnight but can extend past 1 am depending on venue.


We support and announce other local groups’ activities as appropriate.


On our site, we offer a focused resource listing of this week’s happenings, members’ experiences, tips, insights, questions, and interesting reviews of our local trans community events/venues. Posts go to all members to keep everyone informed.

You can check out the topics that we cover on our "Message Boards" listed under "Discussions" found along the Meetup site’s top banner.

The topics include:

· Descriptions and reviews of local transgender groups

· Local and regional trans friendly bars, clubs, and popular events

· Information on what wig is best for your facial shape

· Shopping for wigs, women’s clothes, large size shoes, jewelry, makeup

· A descriptive list of psychotherapists who work with trans ladies

· Information on electrolysis and laser hair removal

· Transitioning to full-time

· Restroom laws in the metro area

· Members sharing their coming out stories

Be sure to add your experiences, insights, tips, and questions. We hope you will join us on our exploration and journey into femininity!

To being you,

Michelle, Monica, Suzanne, and Beth

Your Leadership Group

Upcoming events (5+)

Going out? Post your event here!

Washington Metropolitan Area

Going out on the town and looking for friends to join you? Then post your event here at the DC Regional Trans Ladies’ Meetup group! To create an event, message organizer Michelle Boyle here on Meetup with details including date, time, location, activity, event title, and how girls will find you. Michelle will get back to you with any follow-up questions and post your event with you as an event organizer. We look forward to seeing and attending your events! Michelle, Monica, Suzanne, and Beth

tgirlnation cocktail party

Hanaro Sushi

Just a bunch of girls and friends sipping on cocktails in a bar. A bar scene like other bar scenes, but the girls are a little taller. As always tgirlnation parties are very much public and open to all who wish to partake (tgirls, GGs, SOs, friends, admirers, etc.), and are publicly promoted. It is for those who are comfortable going anywhere, but like the idea of being in a space in which we are not only tolerated, but celebrated. I remind you that tgirlnation is a cocktail party for tgirls, friends, neighbors, co-workers, admirers, exes, crushes, and anyone who can put up with us. The parties are very much public and open to all who wish to partake, and are publicly promoted. It is for those who are comfortable going anywhere, but like the idea of being in a space in which we are not only tolerated, but celebrated. Hanaro is in downtown Bethesda. 2 blocks off of Wisconsin Ave. 10m from the Metro. Feel free to RSVP, but not necessary. Public event. Bethesda garages free on Saturdays. Street parking for $ until 10, free after 10pm. Also, as always, no cover charge, no membership required. Just be nice. See you there, Monica For more info go to http://tgirlnation.com

Kayaking - Kayak Lewes Lightship Overfalls (Rehoboth TransAlliance)

The Rehoboth TransAlliance is sponsoring a fun activity involving kayaking and canoeing on May 11th. Contact Kathy Carpenter Brown and use the link provided for more information.

CANCELLED: Spring Fling Pre-Soiree Dinner

Doubletree By Hilton

Update: This event is cancelled due to Doubletree renovation schedule changes. Neither the restaurant nor the bar will be available on May 18. Please join us for Girls’ Night Out @ Takoma Park event that same night. ————— Hi ladies, join us for our Spring Fling Pre-Soiree dinner in bustling downtown Bethesda at the Doubletree hotel! Show off your favorite floral frock or flair. Crash at the hotel to make your life easier. Be sure to book using our group rate of $99 a night by calling either Brittany or Zak directly at[masked]. Tell her (or him) that you are with the “DC Regional Trans Ladies” group and you will receive the discounted rate. If the nightly rate drops later, you’ll get the lower rate automatically. Parking inside hotel is also available for a modest amount, or you can park free at the municipal garage next to hotel. The Doubletree Hotel staff are eager to host us. Hotel management supports our approach to build on successes from our previous Soirees. The restaurant's preparation and serving staff will be expecting us to arrive in waves for dinner and will be fully resourced to serve us. Once the dinner period kicks off, you can take a seat in the restaurant early or have another drink at bar. Michelle or Suzanne will be there to help us form into groups then each bevy of gals will segue to a table. Specifically, we will seat ourselves in groups (8+-) in short (10-15 minute) intervals until we are all accommodated. This phased seating approach is intended to ensure more efficient order taking and more uniform, timely delivery of your meal and refreshments At our signature soirees, we invite trans-women, their partners, and friends socialize, network, and relax. We encourage new girls to come out to help boost their confidence and garner tips from those more experienced. And of course, we love having our regulars come out too! If you're not feeling ready for girl mode in public, you are still welcome to attend in guy mode. Upon arrival, introduce yourself as a member to the hosts, and we will welcome you warmly. Please consider joining us for the Pre-Soiree Dinner in the hotel's dining room. It is an opportunity to sit with your sisters and get to know them. If you’re looking to get your Soiree makeup professionally applied, our very own Elizabeth Taylor (Beth) will be offering makeup makeovers at her home studio (http://makeoverswithelizabethtaylor.fullslate.com) in Cabin John about 15 minutes from the hotel. Other makeover artists are listed on our discussion board. Beth Taylor will be taking photos during dinner and at the soiree. We look forward to seeing you all at our Spring Fling Pre-Soiree Dinner!

Past events (627)

Laverne Cox At Weiberg Center in Frederick MD

20 W Patrick St

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