What we're about

1) What’s the problem? As the old song says, we are “looking for love in all the wrong places.” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FAyDmJvjxbg

But, to make the words of that song more modern, the wrong place is this- Online dating!

2) Why is online dating a problem? Examples- He/she did not look like their photos, he/she lied about their age, he/she is married, and on and on…..Plus, online dating is exhausting!

3) So, why don’t we stop? It is commonly understood that it takes about 40 days to break a habit. What is the habit? Online dating.

So, if you are SERIOUS about wanting a RELATIONSHIP, stop being insane. What is one of the definitions of insanity- “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.” Many of us have true feelings like “I want a relationship.” “I want someone to share life with, travel together, sleep next to at night, have coffee with in the morning,” ….you get the gist. So, why do we have these desires, yet not getting the results? Bad habits. Well, we have been using online dating for years. So, if it takes about 40 days to break a habit, what is the solution? Stop! Give this new way a try.

4) What is the Solution? Since ~70% of all communication is non-verbal, we need to meet in person. And combine the old with the new. What do I mean by that? Well, the old is pre-internet (ie meeting people in real life) with the new, the internet (that connects people). Thus, the reason to try this new meetup.com group. No “profile” to fill out. No giving out your phone numbers. No countless emails/texting. Instead, via this group, we will have numerous, real life, non- threatening, relaxed situations in which to have fun and meet other (single) people in a neutral setting.

Secondary reason- making new friends and maintaining friendships.

And, when you do meet the right person and start a relationship, don’t leave the group. Keep coming with your new romance to maintain friendships, but pay it forward. Bring single friends with you to give them the same opportunities you received.

5) What methods will achieve the desired outcomes (ie a relationship)?

Planned activities, for singles, in comfortable, relaxed, natural settings, making it easy to get to know others (and even make friends too). And, in natural settings, meaning, usually in public, around other non meetup people. A few examples…

a. Beach bonfires- dress casually, bring a chair, a Frisbee, a volleyball and just interact with others. Roast a marshmellow. Laugh. Have fun. Let nature take it’s course.

b. Live Music Venues- Like, Hennessey’s on Thursday nights in Dana Point. Great music. No cover. Small crowd. Room to dance. Room to sit.

c. House parties- A Sunday BBQ and watch football, play ping pong, play bocce ball, eat pizza. Chill, relax…..

d. Attending a public Food festival, wine tasting, etc. types of events.

e. And, sky is the limit!

There will (well, within reason) never be restrictions on the number of friends you can bring. They just must be single and in the age ranges as well.

And, with the venues, I never intend to single our group out. Meaning, no sign that says our groups name. No name tags. I would just make an invite and say something like, “Meet at Hennessey’s Thursday night. I will be sitting near the band or dancing. Just show up and have fun.” What does this create? Well, you now know that based on who RSVD’d, how many single men/women are coming. That you are in a non-threatening place. No pressure. Blue jeans. We will blend in with whatever crowd is present and no one will know that a “singles meet up group” is over in “that section” to make you feel uncomfortable. And, keep this in mind…..no pressure. Say you show up and you don’t like the “vibe” in the air. Well, you turn around and leave. You did not have to buy a ticket. Buy a fancy dress for a rented hotel ballroom dance event and so on. Casual, normal, and natural. Sounds pretty refreshing, right?

This group is for you if: a) you are single, b) you desire a serious, dating, monogamous relationship, c) and, you are between the ages of 30 and 99, and d) must have a face photo on your profile

This group is NOT for you if: a) You are married or in a relationship, 2) looking for “hook ups”, fwbs, etc.

I am asking for help for those wishing to plan events or be assistant organizers. Or, give ideas for new events. Please email me directly if you wish to get involved.

PS "It doesn't matter who you are in the beginning. what you do in life reveals the colors of your soul. The colors of your soul determine who you are in the end. The choice whether to make those colors beautiful is yours."--------Maximal the Alternative, aka Rose the Masked One.

Upcoming events (5)

OCEAN BIKE RIDE – FUN IN THE SUN - BALBOA TO THE WEDGE - PICNIC - BIKE RENTALS

OCEAN BIKE RIDE – BALBOA TO THE WEDGE - PICNIC - BIKE RENTALS Morning Bike Tour on ocean trails to the ‘Wedge’ on. Are you ready for a beautiful fun day? We stay on paved trails and side streets – No PCH. Open for all levels but must have a basic level of fitness and bikes with gears are recommended. The mandate is Be Safe and Have Fun. No one gets left behind. One short stretch of hard packed dirt. HISTORY OF OCEAN BIKE TOURS We have led over 250 bike tours over recent years on bike paths, side roads and paved trails (No PCH) along the ocean from Laguna Beach to the Queen Mary. Casual biking with great exercise, socializing on the move, well-organized rides soaking up Sunshine / Vitamin D improving immunity while Social Distancing. Meet new friends, like-minded people, practice social distancing, exercise and enjoy the beauty of where we live. Great for first timers, shy people, and expert riders. We have scheduled stops along the way to ‘Group Up’, hydrate and just be present in beauty. There is a ‘sweeper’ at the end of the group. START 10:30 – Saturday September 19th. Leaving from the Galley Cafe - 829 Harbor Island Dr in Newport Beach 92660 -[masked] Come early to eat and/or Call ahead to order food to go. Stay after for refreshments. RETURN BY 2:30+/- Route is designed to be individually shortened as needed. LIMIT Limited Number SOCIAL DISTANCING & MASKS Social Distancing is a personal, rigorous commitment by each rider as well as staying home if any signs of any illness or feeling uncomfortable. Please bring a mask for the ferry, food vendors or the entire ride. BIKE RENTALS Yes – If you do not have a bike - see the end of this post for all details. THE RIDE Plan for 4+/- hours and 18+/- total miles. Leave from the Galley Café to Castaway Park then along the Newport ridge to the Balboa Peninsula . Picnic and then to the Wedge and back to Balboa Island on the ferry. We plan the ride you bring the enthusiasm. On this ride you will see Pirates, Cowboys & Indians, you will ride all the way across the USA, and go places you’ve never been. Really! Bring money for lunch and the ferry which is $1.50 one way. We plan the ride you bring the enthusiasm. PICNIC Please pack a lunch. As we come up the peninsula, we will picnic at Channel Park on the water. Easiest if you pack your lunch or there are several places to buy lunch. We break for a picnic and complete the ride. No need for a bike lock. RELEASE OF LIABILITY Biking and running activities and all outdoor sports outings are rewarding and pleasant activities, but there are certain dangers you should be aware of including Covid 19. By signing up for this bike trip, you assume the risks of the outing and agree to release the organization, the trip organizer and other participants from claims for any and all injuries or other losses sustained during this trip. Helmets highly recommended. LEADER Roz –[masked] Text with questions please. BEHAVIOR Please! – No creepy, negative types, anger issues or controlling behavior invited. This is a supportive group of like-minded people and it is important that people feel safe. Some adventurous people are trying a Meet Up bike ride for the first time and we plan with this in mind. THE NO’s No boom boxes No politics No using your phone while riding. (Dismount) THE YES’s Helmets Shoes – Protect your feet Positive Attitude Ck the air in tires BIKE RENTAL PARKING Park in the Bayside Center Shopping Plaza at Jamboree and Bayside Drive. Walk across the bridge onto Balboa Island on the right-hand sidewalk. 1st building on the right is Sports Rent. Come early to rent a bike and peddle up Bayside Drive to the Galley Café to be ready for the 10:30 start. Stay on the left-hand sidewalk over the bridge and all the way to a left on Harbor Island Drive. BIKE RENTALS Call Liam to schedule a rental - Sports Rents –[masked] Marine Ave Newport Beach, CA 92662 www.sportsrentsonline.com

AGAPE SOUTH – On-Line - Sunday Guided Meditation – Life Structure Talk

Join AGAPE SOUTH on Sunday’s on-line Meditation and Service As we STAY CONNECTED IN COMMUNITY 10:30 Meditation 11:00 Inspirational Talk Do you have Zoom? If not download it. https://zoom.us/download Join us Sunday on this Zoom link: https://zoom.us/j/226971396 ____________________________________________________________________________________ FEELING SPIRITUAL BUT NOT RELIGIOUS Do you believe that your thoughts and internal self-talk, have anything to do with the life you are now experiencing and reality you have created? Meet other singles and like-minded people discovering a spiritual path and consciously changing their lives towards what they want. Thoughts become things. Our spiritual center - Dress casual. Come early, stay after for coffee and chat with people about the meditation, ideas and inspiration received. www.enlightenedheartoc.com/ “Everything is energy. Match the frequency of the reality you want, and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” Cross posted on Meet Up with average attendance of 40+ EVERY SUNDAY 10:30 a.m. Guided Meditation (Doors close at 10:30 – come early and relax!) 11:00 a.m. Inspiration – Message – Community - Coffee – Snacks 12:00 Receive Affirmative Prayer after service from an Agape Practitioner LIFE STRUCTURE / INSPIRED TALK AT 11:00 Our spiritual center - Dress casual. Come early, stay after for coffee and chat with people about the meditation, ideas and inspiration received. Simply, we are a group of people who gather to meditate together, get inspired regularly from each other for living in higher consciousness. Come and meet Rev. Susan Shahani trained by Reverend Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith, at the Agape International Spiritual Center in LA Spiritual practices of meditation, affirmative prayer, spiritual study, introspection, and service are the ground out of which all else evolves. All life structures (see below) are mirrors reflecting back to us how we are progressing in our journey towards self-realization. Thoughts become things and we attract into our lives not what we want but what we already are. COST There is no cost or fee however people invest in their own spiritual growth with a donation to support the center and come again and again. The journey IS the destination. LIFE STRUCTURE TALKS What are life structures? Life structures, as taught by Reverend Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith, at the Agape International Spiritual Center, “are the fundamental areas of living where our growth and development are revealed. The stabilization of our life structures keeps pace with the evolution of consciousness.” As we grow spiritually, we open to the possibility of what our life is truly meant to be! And as we continue to stabilize these Life Structures, we become more open and receptive to receive all of the good that awaits us! Life Structure Talks include: Spiritual – Ego – Livelihood – Relationship - Body Temple – Financial – Beliefs - Community. Each month, we will dive deeper into one structure, providing you with tools, tips! Life Structure – Body Temple. Life Structure – Ego Life Structure – Relationship Life Structure – Livelihood Life Structure - Community

AGAPE SOUTH – On-Line - Sunday Guided Meditation – Life Structure Talk

Join AGAPE SOUTH on Sunday’s on-line Meditation and Service As we STAY CONNECTED IN COMMUNITY 10:30 Meditation 11:00 Inspirational Talk Do you have Zoom? If not download it. https://zoom.us/download Join us Sunday on this Zoom link: https://zoom.us/j/226971396 ____________________________________________________________________________________ FEELING SPIRITUAL BUT NOT RELIGIOUS Do you believe that your thoughts and internal self-talk, have anything to do with the life you are now experiencing and reality you have created? Meet other singles and like-minded people discovering a spiritual path and consciously changing their lives towards what they want. Thoughts become things. Our spiritual center - Dress casual. Come early, stay after for coffee and chat with people about the meditation, ideas and inspiration received. www.enlightenedheartoc.com/ “Everything is energy. Match the frequency of the reality you want, and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” Cross posted on Meet Up with average attendance of 40+ EVERY SUNDAY 10:30 a.m. Guided Meditation (Doors close at 10:30 – come early and relax!) 11:00 a.m. Inspiration – Message – Community - Coffee – Snacks 12:00 Receive Affirmative Prayer after service from an Agape Practitioner LIFE STRUCTURE / INSPIRED TALK AT 11:00 Our spiritual center - Dress casual. Come early, stay after for coffee and chat with people about the meditation, ideas and inspiration received. Simply, we are a group of people who gather to meditate together, get inspired regularly from each other for living in higher consciousness. Come and meet Rev. Susan Shahani trained by Reverend Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith, at the Agape International Spiritual Center in LA Spiritual practices of meditation, affirmative prayer, spiritual study, introspection, and service are the ground out of which all else evolves. All life structures (see below) are mirrors reflecting back to us how we are progressing in our journey towards self-realization. Thoughts become things and we attract into our lives not what we want but what we already are. COST There is no cost or fee however people invest in their own spiritual growth with a donation to support the center and come again and again. The journey IS the destination. LIFE STRUCTURE TALKS What are life structures? Life structures, as taught by Reverend Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith, at the Agape International Spiritual Center, “are the fundamental areas of living where our growth and development are revealed. The stabilization of our life structures keeps pace with the evolution of consciousness.” As we grow spiritually, we open to the possibility of what our life is truly meant to be! And as we continue to stabilize these Life Structures, we become more open and receptive to receive all of the good that awaits us! Life Structure Talks include: Spiritual – Ego – Livelihood – Relationship - Body Temple – Financial – Beliefs - Community. Each month, we will dive deeper into one structure, providing you with tools, tips! Life Structure – Body Temple. Life Structure – Ego Life Structure – Relationship Life Structure – Livelihood Life Structure - Community

AGAPE SOUTH – On-Line - Sunday Guided Meditation – Life Structure Talk

Join AGAPE SOUTH on Sunday’s on-line Meditation and Service As we STAY CONNECTED IN COMMUNITY 10:30 Meditation 11:00 Inspirational Talk Do you have Zoom? If not download it. https://zoom.us/download Join us Sunday on this Zoom link: https://zoom.us/j/226971396 ____________________________________________________________________________________ FEELING SPIRITUAL BUT NOT RELIGIOUS Do you believe that your thoughts and internal self-talk, have anything to do with the life you are now experiencing and reality you have created? Meet other singles and like-minded people discovering a spiritual path and consciously changing their lives towards what they want. Thoughts become things. Our spiritual center - Dress casual. Come early, stay after for coffee and chat with people about the meditation, ideas and inspiration received. www.enlightenedheartoc.com/ “Everything is energy. Match the frequency of the reality you want, and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” Cross posted on Meet Up with average attendance of 40+ EVERY SUNDAY 10:30 a.m. Guided Meditation (Doors close at 10:30 – come early and relax!) 11:00 a.m. Inspiration – Message – Community - Coffee – Snacks 12:00 Receive Affirmative Prayer after service from an Agape Practitioner LIFE STRUCTURE / INSPIRED TALK AT 11:00 Our spiritual center - Dress casual. Come early, stay after for coffee and chat with people about the meditation, ideas and inspiration received. Simply, we are a group of people who gather to meditate together, get inspired regularly from each other for living in higher consciousness. Come and meet Rev. Susan Shahani trained by Reverend Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith, at the Agape International Spiritual Center in LA Spiritual practices of meditation, affirmative prayer, spiritual study, introspection, and service are the ground out of which all else evolves. All life structures (see below) are mirrors reflecting back to us how we are progressing in our journey towards self-realization. Thoughts become things and we attract into our lives not what we want but what we already are. COST There is no cost or fee however people invest in their own spiritual growth with a donation to support the center and come again and again. The journey IS the destination. LIFE STRUCTURE TALKS What are life structures? Life structures, as taught by Reverend Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith, at the Agape International Spiritual Center, “are the fundamental areas of living where our growth and development are revealed. The stabilization of our life structures keeps pace with the evolution of consciousness.” As we grow spiritually, we open to the possibility of what our life is truly meant to be! And as we continue to stabilize these Life Structures, we become more open and receptive to receive all of the good that awaits us! Life Structure Talks include: Spiritual – Ego – Livelihood – Relationship - Body Temple – Financial – Beliefs - Community. Each month, we will dive deeper into one structure, providing you with tools, tips! Life Structure – Body Temple. Life Structure – Ego Life Structure – Relationship Life Structure – Livelihood Life Structure - Community

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