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Led by the Doyenne of Death, Gail Rubin, the Albuquerque Death Cafe is a safe, inviting forum for those who want to talk about death and dying. The objective of Death Cafe is “To increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their (finite) lives.” It’s all about an interesting, unstructured conversation – open and free-flowing with no specific agenda. The Death Cafe concept was started in the United Kingdom by Jon Underwood. He was influenced by the ideas of Swiss sociologist Bernard Crettaz, who started holding Cafe Mortel events in France and Switzerland. At these events, people come together in a relaxed, confidential and safe setting to discuss death, drink tea (or your favorite beverage) and eat delicious cake or cookies. Gail is the host of the "A Good Goodbye" radio and TV show (now available on DVD) and the website agoodgoodbye.com.

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In Person Albuquerque Death Cafe in a Cemetery

Historic Fairview Cemetery

The objective of the Death Cafe is “to increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their (finite) lives.” It’s an interesting, unstructured conversation with no specific agenda. The ABQ Death Cafe offers a relaxed, confidential and safe setting to discuss death, drink tea (or your favorite beverage) and eat delicious cake or cookies. We also provide options for those avoiding gluten and added sugar.

This Death Cafe is being held outdoors in Historic Fairview Cemetery. Bring a folding chair, we'll provide the refreshments. We will set up in the shade near the Galles mausoleum. Hopefully the weather will cooperate. If it rains, we will cut the conversation short.

The Death Cafe concept was started in the United Kingdom by Jon Underwood. He was influenced by the ideas of Swiss sociologist Bernard Crettaz, who started holding Cafe Mortel events in France and Switzerland.

The discussion is facilitated by Gail Rubin, CT, The Doyenne of Death®. She is a pioneering death educator and one of the first people to host a Death Cafe in the United States, starting in 2012.

Online ABQ Death Cafe

Online event

The Albuquerque Death Cafes held online due to the pandemic have proven to be popular! We have people from across the U.S. and around the world joining in the conversation. The online Zoom meetings will continue monthly.

To keep this meeting secure, the link to this meeting will only be provided to those who RSVP. So please let us know if you'll attend!

Prepare to settle in with your own cup of tea or coffee, and a nourishing snack. We'll have an interesting, unstructured conversation that’s open and free-flowing with no specific agenda. It's always different every time.

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In Person Albuquerque Death Cafe in a Cemetery

Historic Fairview Cemetery

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