What we're about
The Name is the mission. You are 40+ ( 40 40s 40's forty or forties ) and want to get out and be social, and at the moment you are flying solo.
You can also be 50 50s 50's (fifty / fifties ), or 60 60s 60's ( sixty / sixties ).
This group aims to be a welcoming place for all. So come and join in on the fun side.
What does "Flying Solo" mean? It means that for whatever reason you are on your own at the moment.
That can mean any version of "single."(as in never married, divorced, or separated, widowed). It can also mean you are dating or in a committed relationship or even married, but you do not have your other to go out with, or they do not like certain activities. And if you want to bring a partner, . . . that's ok too. This is a big tent and all are welcome. There is more than enough space for all to enjoy being out and social. All are welcome of any age (over 40), gender, gender preference, any relationship status, religion, national origin, shoe size, belly button lint, rs40 etc . . .
What this does mean is this is a social group not a singles group. If your main goal is to pick up, hook up, or otherwise hit on people, there are other groups for you. This in intended as a place to make and meet new friends, as well as to spend time and company with existing friends too. In other words this is a an open, welcoming friendly, inclusive and supportive community. If you are on the right side / rightside of life then you are just right for us.
This group established Sept 2007 and is the longest running 40 + meetup in LA, and on all of Meetup!!! Any others are imitations.
As it turns out imitation is a sincere form of flattery. So if you are interested intimation or flattery: there is that. If you like meetups that focus on heavy drinking Happy Hours, or just events in general that the main stated focus is cheap drinks early in the day on usually a weekday, . . . please seek out that group. If you wish good decent social with even better quality people . . . . just come to our next event.
About the group. It's a decent place with even better people. There is really only one rule:
"Do not contact (message) members you have not met in real life."
Truly it very often applies toward guys that need this reminder. But to be fair the same info and request is sent to all. The group is intended for real life over virtual. Come to events and make real connection in real life.
MeetUp in the MeeToo age. Yes!!! The two are not at odds. In fact this is to be embraced. There was another meetup where the organizer was banned from Meetup by Meetup for his activities/actions, and removed from his group. The organizer returned to run the group incognito. Meetup then removed the group completely and removed the organizer second time. Meetup will only know of actions by an organizer or members if it is reported. If you have an issue to report, . . . report it to Organizers AND to Meetup.
If you get contact from group members you have not met in real life please report to me. I will follow up on it in a discreet way and deal with it.
This rule applies here and to select other groups to establish a safe online and off-line culture.
Here is where else this rule applies:
See you at the next event!!
Oh yes, . . . . Do you enjoy friendship, activities, key networking, casual socializing (socailise), parties learning, sharing, inspiration? You do!?!?! How about personal and professional development with active nerd adult ( adults ) who like adventure ( adventurers, adventures, adventurous ) stuff that may involve silly dance game ( games ) and cool nerds with addicting, amazing fun? Great!!!! There will be sweet things to discover while engaging in retro revival underground instagram unique geeky exploration of fringe play plus speed punk quirky sophisticated spectacular geek socials with high society making savvy friends. It will be an offbeat odyssey of an outing to nerdy paradise and we will party at random places Such as Happy Hours, Theatre, Roller Skating, Mini Golf, Hiking, BBQs, Sports Events. . Come and share fine no flake ( flakes ) fun that is free or inexpensive and goes late into the lovely night. Left, right or center, we will live life together and enjoy.
We even just added Game of Thrones and The Walking Dead viewing parties.
About the Organizer: Truth be told I am more un-organized that organized. Even so . . . . I try. I'm Marc. I found meetup to try and get more fit and was doing the hiking meetups. Eventually I saw meetup had other more social things and I went to some. They were not decent at all, many focus on lots of drinking and hooking up. Many years ago I was a Summer Camp Director, and I thought: "I can do better than that." So instead of complaining, one day a meetup organizer had stepped down and I thought I would give it a shot. That was about 6 mos ago. So my events might just have the same feel as Summer Camp, . . . but for adults. Most events are free. There are a few that cost. Those do make enough to cover the Meetup fees. I do extend out to lots of other organizers, as a good community is made of many and diverse voices and people.
This is a place where everyone can just come as they are, and mingle with people who are like them AND who are NOT like them. Aside from age: We are not limited, restricted or exclusive by gender, gender preference, national origin, relationship status, etc. To put it more simply this group is open to all. All ages, all genders, all sexual orientations, all types - And that includes you!!! Diversity is coveted here. People are not monochrome and neither are we. You will fit in perfectly and find a lot of folks who just like you in certain aspect, and differ from you in others. It's the good kind of variety of life.
Some events on this group may specify limits at times. Those will be clearly noted when needed. At times they may be age delineated, or even gender related. Limits are placed often as a means to control size. The event can then be repeated/recycled with a different limit range. If there is an event you really wish to go to with a limit, . . . please contact me. You can be the impetus and the catalyst for the next event in the different limit/range. Other times the limit can be waived or bent as needed.
Challenge yourself and importantly, BE yourself and expand your horizons and comfort zone. Let your hair down! Go wild! Be open minded and be non-judgmental. The group is based off quality events to bring people together from positive social interaction. Anyone who wants to explore an alternative, bohemian, experimental, strange, obscure, weird, wild, absurd, bizarre, avant garde, unconventional, wild-at-heart side of Los Angeles is welcome!
In the interest of making events successful . . . I will spread events across other meetup groups to bump up attendance. For as you know, . . . sometimes people don't show up. Some Organizers get really bent out of shape about that. I do however know that life happens. Even if it's 10 mins before the event. Just change your rsvp. No worries. No harm-no foul. There is not any sort strikes or penalty system, and there is nobody keeping score. The exception will be if it is listed as a "no flake" event. On those you gotta give good notice of changes. It's about fun and community. What I have found is that by being mellow and and having good events more show up. We tend to have 80% or more attendance. I approach with compassion. So if you don't make one event or another. . . try and make it to the next, or the one after that. When you do make it, .. . . we will be glad you are there and all are welcome.
While there are flexible attendance rules. The sex/gender related rules mentioned earlier are not flexible. As a guideline do not message people you have not met in person. This is not an online dating place. Ladies: If a guy messages you please contact me. There have been problems with that happening over meetup in general. It's just not cool. Meetup is about real life and not virtual. Guys, . . . get off your computer and come to an event. Say hello in person. Smile, . . . be personable and decent. And just be there to get to know people and make friends of whatever gender. You can always use new good friends. And this is one way to make/meet them. Wingman tactics and and Pickup artist tactics are similarly not allowed in this group. Organizers of another group that are not an organizer or host here are also not allowed to solicit members.
We do NOT discriminate by age (we accept all), sex or gender, gender preference, origin, religion, belly button lint, etc . . . .
Do you enjoy friendship, activities, key networking, casual socializing, parties learning, sharing, inspiration? You do!?!?! How about personal and professional development with active nerd adult ( adults ) who like adventure ( adventurers, adventures, adventurous ) stuff that may involve silly dance game ( games ) and cool nerds with addicting, amazing fun? Great!!!! There will be sweet things to discover while engaging in retro revival underground unique geeky exploration of fringe play plus speed punk quirky sophisticated spectacular geek socials with high society making savvy friends. It will be an offbeat odyssey of an outing to nerdy paradise and we will party at random places (see locations below). Come and share fine no flake ( flakes ) fun that is free or inexpensive and goes late into the lovely night. Left, right or center, we will live life together and enjoy.
We do some sports related events. Are you interested in teammates players for your sport or hobby? Such as bowling, trivia, camping, biking, hike, hikes, hiking, snowboarder, snowboarding, ski, skiing, kayaking? Or even related to bmi, exercise, fitness, healthy, lock pong, recreation, recreational, outdoor, Halloween, mammoth mountain, St Patrick's, Ensenada, un scrabble solitaire poker or more!!! We run the range.
A bigger majority of what we are is obscure cultural ( culture ), language, travel, music, arts, festival, performance, crave, dining, exotic, restaurant, food, foodie, architecture, art, artistic, urban obscura or ballet. But it does not stop there. We also do comedy, concert ( concerts ), cook, cooking, theater, theatre, culinary, cultural, tours, sub-culture, subculture sponge ( sponges ), performances, dances, dancing, museums, musical ( musicals ), bars, foodies, dinner, dinning, bbq, beach, restaurants, trips, cruise ( cruises ), cuisine. And even with all that we still to even more!!! Including, flea n farmer (farmers) market ( markets ), boutique, burlesque, crafting, craft, create, creating, sushi, pho, pizza, tastings, tickets, kim chi, tai kimchi, deserts, eating, festivals, film, films, galleries, games, karaoke, movies, sutra kama karma.And now the important question. Did we miss one? Oh. . . OK then, . . Send that so we can add it to the list.
Aside from the High Brow we do engage in the Low Brow such as wine, beer, drink, bar hopping, dive bars ( dives ), rave ( raver ravers raves raving ), hip-hop hiphop, hole holes-in-walls, crawl crawls, trance techno, dubstep, night nightclub, nightlife, nights. As well as classic club clubbing, clubs eclectic, edm electro electronica, pubs, pub speak, speakeasy, drinks, meet meeting mix mixer mixers mixing, greet, happy hour hours haunts, Did somebody say mingle?
So the High Brow and the Low Brow get together and make up THE KNOW BROW and that is all about people and who makes us up.
By ethnicity we very much match the ethnic makeup of Los Angeles with Caucasian and Non Hispanic Whites, Latino, Black or African American, Native American,Asian, Native Hawaiian and Other Pacific Islander and others such as Middle Eastern such as Arab or Israeli, and others from the global atlas.
Different than ethnicity is Nationality, or National Origin. And again . . . from that we run the range European, Filipino, Japanese, Korean, Pacific Islander, Indian, Taiwanese (Taiwan), Thai, Vietnamese, Chinese ( China, Cantonese, Mandarin ), Hong Kong Mexican ( Mexico ), and more and more. Even USC or UCLA
And that makes for sooooooooo many languages. We like language and the culture it is able to unlock It brings English, Spanish second ESL and ELL and ASL are big here. Hebrew, Yiddish, German, French, And the gamut of others to translate ( translation translator ) with class (classes).
Tolerance is a main tenet here as we are Christian ( Catholic, Mormon, etc), Jewish (Jew Jews), Muslim, Sikh, Hindu, Buddhist, Scientology and more. And even Republican, Conservative, Liberal, Democrat, Libertarian, Bernie / BernieCrat, or even Trump or Trumpian or Scientologist. This is a big tent and since it's decent social we will all be decent.
What it comes down to is we are making new friends ( friend freind freinds ) and to be friendly. Almost like finding your entourage Made up of Men (man men's mens) and women ( woman women's ) and non-binary too. Members may be young or old, married, single ( divorce divorced separated and never married ) or coupled (couple as part of a committed relationship / relationships ). Many are likely singles and looking to date in one way or another. Going on dates or dating is fine. But it does NOT happen via using the group like Tinder, Match.com, POF or eharmony.
This group is about real life. So online messaging of people you have not met in real life is not allowed. Why such a rule?
Because it is heterosexist of you to assume that all people are interested in you. Like is says above there are married or those in committed relationships. There is is also the range of sexual preference in the group. Gay, lesbian girls lgbt lgbtq queer bi poly swing swinger swinging and any sort of variation such as transsexual and transgender. We do accept all. Even rs40 and rso40.
Whoever you find cute, hot, sexy or find attraction to that comes in person. Plenty a match and romance or spark may happen. You may find your love (or lover). But you also may just make great friends girlfriend ( girlfriends ). It's just down to good decent social. Conscious communication and engagement that makes for self-improvement and improvement of others. Conversation and network or networking of rso40 professionals. That's just smart l33t leet api entrepreneur groupting that will lead to inspirational international consciousness.
We just added Game of Thrones GOT and The Walking Dead viewing parties.
Where do you do events? We do them ALL OVER!!!! I have taken the time to look at past events and the cities they have happened in and near and put it together with the upcoming location too. Our groups IS different, . . . we DO range all over the city. Here are where we HAVE BEEN, and where we are GOING!!
So I have gone in great detail to cover who we are and what we do. This is accurate and verifiable by going to our past events and looking that what we have done. This is all fact based on the breadth, scope and mission of this group.
If you have made it this far. Then watch this and then, . . .get off social media and on meetup. The social part of social media. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GEWnXmDfVZg
THIS is description is in full compliance.