What we're about

Where do we meet and really connect with other gay men in London?

PHYSICAL CENTRAL LONDON VENUE MONTHLY + ONLINE MONTHLY

WHAT WE ARE:

It is a place where you will be able to connect with other gay and bi-sexual men and where you can exchange your life experiences with them and your everyday feelings, no matter what those feelings may be - and also a place where you will be able to just BE with others who live similar lives to you.

• It is a place where you will experience support and growth and where you can feel SAFE enough to explore and reflect on the feelings and life stories you bring. Sharing is at the heart of the group but you share however much you are comfortable with - you're in charge.

• It is a therapeutic discussion group which at times offers workshops and borrows elements from Creative Arts Psychotherapies.

This group is for men over 18 years old and aims to support you during the pandemic where restrictions by the government is changing the way we live and feel.

The group is based on the Creative Arts Psychotherapy and counselling work I provided ongoing for the charity Positive East in London.

New members are always welcome as as well as our much appreciated familiar faces!

The group provides an always friendly, supportive and safe space where your presence is always very much appreciated and your contributions always welcome. Each session will usually offer a specific theme, such as for example:

Isolation and family

Being in a relationship - is it important?

Love, sex, romance

Who am I - what makes me, me?

Do I feel I connect with others in my life to the degree that I want to?

How to find someone special?

What is it to be a man in 2018 - for you? Gender roles and gender fluidity

Our use of dating apps - what do we think of it? Can it be an addiction or is it sometimes a positive experience?

Dating

Monogamy - is it important?

Friends vs. sexual partners?

Age -gap - is it possible?

Addictions

Discrimination among men who love men

Loneliness

Getting older (and gay scenes obsession with youth)

Sugar daddy/Sugar Son

How out am I - work, friends, family, extended family, sports etc ? Living a compartmental life

Have you ever been touched without giving permission

My mum/my dad

..and much more.. (suggestions always welcome)

TESTIMONIAL:

'Hi Dan I wanted to let you know how much I enjoyed the group meeting on Friday night. You have created a safe and open environment and everyone seemed to respond with complete trust and joy in sharing. I haven't been in that sort of group with so broad a range of people, and it was really interesting to share such an important part of their / our lives in regards to our dads' K.L.

Please feel free to go to our Facebook page and to like and share:

http://www.Facebook.com/Gaymenswellness/

WHEN:

6:00 pm - 7:45 pm monthly online

+

6:30 - 8:15 pm monthly physical venue

WHERE:

Currently Quaker House, Bethnal Green, 17 Old Ford Rd, London E2 9PL, Underground/Overground: Bethnal Green - monthly

+

ZOOM (ONLINE) monthly

HOW TO JOIN OUR ONLINE MEETING:

1. Add yourself to the actual meeting event. It has the date of the meeting written above and here you can also see the other members attending. The deadline for adding yourself is an hour before the meeting.

2. You will receive the Zoom log in details: ID number and ID password, from host (Dan) approximately an hour before the meeting starts (not any earlier than that) - in your inbox, sent to you personally.

3. Please pay the recommended donation of £5 to take part in the meeting using this easy PayPal link: https://www.paypal.me/wellnesssupport OR

easy card payment here:

https://checkout.square.site/merchant/MLG8ZV8FJJDYS/checkout/DK4VVAQGAV3LIM2K5V4JIX2Y

4. Log into Zoom with your Zoom details: ID number and ID password ten minutes before the meeting starts. Please be considerate and be on time which is important because of the sensitive nature of this therapeutic discussion group.

There are no age restrictions other than 18+

FEE:

Online: £5

Physical venue £10

PAYMENT OPTIONS:

PayPal:

https://www.paypal.me/wellnesssupport

Credit card:

https://checkout.square.site/merchant/MLG8ZV8FJJDYS/checkout/DK4VVAQGAV3LIM2K5V4JIX2Y

Please note that it will still say 'unpaid' even when you have payed. I am aware that you have paid. It is just a technical thing from MeetUp.

GROUP AGREEMENT:

By taking part in our meetings online or face to face you are agreeing to the following:

MUTUAL RESPECT

Giving equal space

Not interrupting others

No judgement - accepting others opinion

CONFIDENTIALITY

No gossiping about what has been talked about

No sharing of others confidential/personal information outside the group

HOUSEKEEPING

Mobile phones off during sessions

Do attempt to be on time

PERSONAL AND GROUP DEVELOPMENT

Allow yourself to explore emotionally and creatively

Be courageous in supporting others

Take collective responsibility for a safe environment

We would love to see you!

Warm wishes,

Dan

ABOUT DAN:

Dan is a state registered and NHS contracted dramatherapist and clinical supervisor with 20 years experience in London, working with young people and adults and runs his own private practise in London Bridge and ONLINE.

Dan has worked with men and women who experience domestic abuse, in the London Borough of Greenwich for the charity ‘Tryangle Project 2011’, where Augusto Boal’s Psych-Educational Forum Theatre was at the heart of the work. He has run regular workshops for for the charity 'Positive East' in East London and written and directed plays for London Pride events.

Dan teaches Introduction to Dramatherapy at the established City Literary Institute in Covent Garden throughout the year. He previously

worked at ‘Studio Upstairs’ - the arts community with a therapeutic concern for 8 years, where he facilitated the psycho-therapeutic

performance group in a mental health setting, as well as also supervising students and volunteers.

Dan facilitates several ongoing Creative Arts Psychotherapy groups for men - and couples.

Feel free to contact Dan regarding any psychological and emotional issues you may have. Dan will try to offer you a 30 minute FREE one to one conversation online (Zoom) or face to face at his practice, if you'd like that.

https://www.creative-arts-psychotherapy.com... (https://www.creative-arts-psychotherapy.com/)

Upcoming events (5)

ONLINE VERSION - Gay & Bi LGBTQ+ Men's Wellness and Support Group

Dear members, new ones as well as much appreciated familiar faces,

This is a group which aims to support you during the pandemic where restrictions by the government is changing the way we live and feel. It is a fundamentally new and different time, which can be difficult to handle all by yourself. It is important that we are careful and together beat this pandemic but many single people, including the majority of gay men, do not live in what the government refers to as a 'household' which is a heteronormative way of seeing things. Join us x

There is still time to sign up for the meeting and you can do so until the very last minute. I hope you are all well and keeping safe still at this most surreal moment in time. We will meet online THIS FRIDAY at the usual time of 6:00 pm. This group is for men over 18 years old.

HOW TO JOIN OUR ONLINE MEETING:

1. Add yourself to the actual meeting event. It has the date of the meeting written above and here you can also see the other members attending. The deadline for adding yourself is an hour before the meeting.

2. You will receive the Zoom log in details: ID number and ID password, from host (Dan) approximately an hour before the meeting starts (not any earlier than that) - in your inbox, sent to you personally.

3. Please pay the recommended donation of £5 to take part in the meeting using this easy PayPal link: https://www.paypal.me/wellnesssupport

4. Log into Zoom with your Zoom details: ID number and ID password ten minutes before the meeting starts. Please be considerate and be on time which is important because of the sensitive nature of this therapeutic discussion group.

After the very successful meeting we had May 2020 we decided to meet more frequently online - which became fortnightly. Meeting online has indeed proven a popular and very useful way of continuing our group, which used to meet in Covent Garden, and for us to check in with each other; and looking after this impressive little community we have established together where all are welcome.

It has become apparent that there are quite a few issues around isolation, feelings of loneliness and mental health during this very surreal and difficult time, alongside other new subjects which will appear organically each time, as we proceed with our fortnightly meetings.

FEE:

£5 is suggested as a voluntary donation for each meeting online, prior to the event, to help the group running during COVID-19

https://www.paypal.me/wellnesssupport

OR

Easy card payment here:

https://checkout.square.site/merchant/MLG8ZV8FJJDYS/checkout/DK4VVAQGAV3LIM2K5V4JIX2Y

Please note that it will still say 'unpaid' even when you have payed. I am aware that you have paid. It is just a technical thing from MeetUp.

OUR PREVIOUS THEMES INCLUDE:

SELF ISOLATION AND MENTAL HEALTH

SOCIAL DISTANCING

LONELINESS

CONNECTION

ANXIETY

FEAR

TIME TO CONTEMPLATE AND THINK OF YOUR LIFE

LIVING DIFFERENTLY

TIME FOR FITNESS

also...

Sex, love, romance

Who am I - what makes me, me?

Do I feel I connect with others in my life to the degree that I want to?

How to find someone special?

What makes a man? Gender roles and gender fluidity.

Monogamy - is it important?

Age -gap - is it possible?

Addictions

Loneliness

Getting older (and gay scenes obsession with youth)

Friends vs. sexual partners

.. and much more !

LOOKING FORWARD TO SEEING YOU ONLINE - TAKE CARE - BEST WISHES,

ABOUT DAN:

Dan is a state registered and NHS contracted dramatherapist and clinical supervisor with 20 years experience in London, working with young people and adults and runs his own private practise in London Bridge and ONLINE.

Dan has worked with men and women who experience domestic abuse. He has run regular workshops for for the charity 'Positive East' in East London and written and directed plays for London Pride events.

Dan facilitates several ongoing Creative Arts Psychotherapy groups for men - and couples.

BETHNAL GREEN VENUE! - Gay & Bi LGBTQ+ Men's Wellness and Support Group

Dear members, new ones as well as much appreciated familiar faces,

THIS WILL BE OUR THIRD MEETING BACK AFTER THIS LONG AND DIFFICULT PANDEMIC.
We are SO very excited about meeting again face to face!

Corona virus health and safety

We will make sure that the venue and the meetings are safe in accordance with government rules. A health and safety assessment will also be in place. This is what the government is advising in terms of therapy groups:

GOV.UK:

'Support groups that have to be delivered in person can continue with up to 15 participants where officially organised to provide mutual aid, therapy or any other form of support'.

Join us - we would like to see you x

WHAT WE ARE:

It is a place where you will be able to connect with other gay and bi-sexual men and where you can exchange your life experiences with them and your everyday feelings, no matter what those feelings may be - and also a place where you will be able to just BE with others who live similar lives to you.

• It is a place where you will experience support and growth and where you can feel SAFE enough to explore and reflect on the feelings and life stories you bring. Sharing is at the heart of the group but you share however much you are comfortable with - you're in charge.

• It is a therapeutic discussion group which at times offers workshops and borrows elements from Creative Arts Psychotherapies.

WHERE:

17 Old Ford Rd, London E2 9PL

Underground/Overground: Bethnal Green

FEE:

£10 is payed on the door or in advance via PayPal:

https://www.paypal.me/wellnesssupport

Credit card:

https://checkout.square.site/merchant/MLG8ZV8FJJDYS/checkout/DK4VVAQGAV3LIM2K5V4JIX2YV

Please note that it will still say 'unpaid' even when you have payed. I am aware that you have paid. It is just a technical thing from MeetUp.

OUR PREVIOUS THEMES INCLUDE:

SELF ISOLATION AND MENTAL HEALTH

SOCIAL DISTANCING

LONELINESS

CONNECTION

ANXIETY

FEAR

TIME TO CONTEMPLATE AND THINK OF YOUR LIFE

LIVING DIFFERENTLY

TIME FOR FITNESS

also...

Sex, love, romance

Who am I - what makes me, me?

Do I feel I connect with others in my life to the degree that I want to?

How to find someone special?

What makes a man? Gender roles and gender fluidity.

Monogamy - is it important?

Age -gap - is it possible?

Addictions

Loneliness

Getting older (and gay scenes obsession with youth)

Friends vs. sexual partners

.. and much more !

LOOKING FORWARD TO SEEING YOU ONLINE - TAKE CARE - BEST WISHES,

ABOUT DAN:

Dan is a state registered and NHS contracted dramatherapist and clinical supervisor with 20 years experience in London, working with young people and adults and runs his own private practise in London Bridge and ONLINE.

Dan has worked with men and women who experience domestic abuse, in the London Borough of Greenwich for the charity ‘Tryangle Project 2011’, where Augusto Boal’s Psych-Educational Forum Theatre was at the heart of the work. He has run regular workshops for for the charity 'Positive East' in East London and written and directed plays for London Pride events.

Dan facilitates several ongoing Creative Arts Psychotherapy groups for men - and couples.

ONLINE VERSION - Gay & Bi LGBTQ+ Men's Wellness and Support Group

Dear members, new ones as well as much appreciated familiar faces,

This is a group which aims to support you during the pandemic where restrictions by the government is changing the way we live and feel. It is a fundamentally new and different time, which can be difficult to handle all by yourself. It is important that we are careful and together beat this pandemic but many single people, including the majority of gay men, do not live in what the government refers to as a 'household' which is a heteronormative way of seeing things. Join us x

There is still time to sign up for the meeting and you can do so until the very last minute. I hope you are all well and keeping safe still at this most surreal moment in time. We will meet online THIS FRIDAY at the usual time of 6:00 pm. This group is for men over 18 years old.

HOW TO JOIN OUR ONLINE MEETING:

1. Add yourself to the actual meeting event. It has the date of the meeting written above and here you can also see the other members attending. The deadline for adding yourself is an hour before the meeting.

2. You will receive the Zoom log in details: ID number and ID password, from host (Dan) approximately an hour before the meeting starts (not any earlier than that) - in your inbox, sent to you personally.

3. Please pay the recommended donation of £5 to take part in the meeting using this easy PayPal link: https://www.paypal.me/wellnesssupport

4. Log into Zoom with your Zoom details: ID number and ID password ten minutes before the meeting starts. Please be considerate and be on time which is important because of the sensitive nature of this therapeutic discussion group.

After the very successful meeting we had May 2020 we decided to meet more frequently online - which became fortnightly. Meeting online has indeed proven a popular and very useful way of continuing our group, which used to meet in Covent Garden, and for us to check in with each other; and looking after this impressive little community we have established together where all are welcome.

It has become apparent that there are quite a few issues around isolation, feelings of loneliness and mental health during this very surreal and difficult time, alongside other new subjects which will appear organically each time, as we proceed with our fortnightly meetings.

FEE:

£5 is suggested as a voluntary donation for each meeting online, prior to the event, to help the group running during COVID-19

https://www.paypal.me/wellnesssupport

OR

Easy card payment here:

https://checkout.square.site/merchant/MLG8ZV8FJJDYS/checkout/DK4VVAQGAV3LIM2K5V4JIX2Y

Please note that it will still say 'unpaid' even when you have payed. I am aware that you have paid. It is just a technical thing from MeetUp.

OUR PREVIOUS THEMES INCLUDE:

SELF ISOLATION AND MENTAL HEALTH

SOCIAL DISTANCING

LONELINESS

CONNECTION

ANXIETY

FEAR

TIME TO CONTEMPLATE AND THINK OF YOUR LIFE

LIVING DIFFERENTLY

TIME FOR FITNESS

also...

Sex, love, romance

Who am I - what makes me, me?

Do I feel I connect with others in my life to the degree that I want to?

How to find someone special?

What makes a man? Gender roles and gender fluidity.

Monogamy - is it important?

Age -gap - is it possible?

Addictions

Loneliness

Getting older (and gay scenes obsession with youth)

Friends vs. sexual partners

.. and much more !

LOOKING FORWARD TO SEEING YOU ONLINE - TAKE CARE - BEST WISHES,

ABOUT DAN:

Dan is a state registered and NHS contracted dramatherapist and clinical supervisor with 20 years experience in London, working with young people and adults and runs his own private practise in London Bridge and ONLINE.

Dan has worked with men and women who experience domestic abuse. He has run regular workshops for for the charity 'Positive East' in East London and written and directed plays for London Pride events.

Dan facilitates several ongoing Creative Arts Psychotherapy groups for men - and couples.

ONLINE VERSION - Gay & Bi LGBTQ+ Men's Wellness and Support Group

Dear members, new ones as well as much appreciated familiar faces,

This is a group which aims to support you during the pandemic where restrictions by the government is changing the way we live and feel. It is a fundamentally new and different time, which can be difficult to handle all by yourself. It is important that we are careful and together beat this pandemic but many single people, including the majority of gay men, do not live in what the government refers to as a 'household' which is a heteronormative way of seeing things. Join us x

There is still time to sign up for the meeting and you can do so until the very last minute. I hope you are all well and keeping safe still at this most surreal moment in time. We will meet online THIS FRIDAY at the usual time of 6:00 pm. This group is for men over 18 years old.

HOW TO JOIN OUR ONLINE MEETING:

1. Add yourself to the actual meeting event. It has the date of the meeting written above and here you can also see the other members attending. The deadline for adding yourself is an hour before the meeting.

2. You will receive the Zoom log in details: ID number and ID password, from host (Dan) approximately an hour before the meeting starts (not any earlier than that) - in your inbox, sent to you personally.

3. Please pay the recommended donation of £5 to take part in the meeting using this easy PayPal link: https://www.paypal.me/wellnesssupport

4. Log into Zoom with your Zoom details: ID number and ID password ten minutes before the meeting starts. Please be considerate and be on time which is important because of the sensitive nature of this therapeutic discussion group.

After the very successful meeting we had May 2020 we decided to meet more frequently online - which became fortnightly. Meeting online has indeed proven a popular and very useful way of continuing our group, which used to meet in Covent Garden, and for us to check in with each other; and looking after this impressive little community we have established together where all are welcome.

It has become apparent that there are quite a few issues around isolation, feelings of loneliness and mental health during this very surreal and difficult time, alongside other new subjects which will appear organically each time, as we proceed with our fortnightly meetings.

FEE:

£5 is suggested as a voluntary donation for each meeting online, prior to the event, to help the group running during COVID-19

https://www.paypal.me/wellnesssupport

OR

Easy card payment here:

https://checkout.square.site/merchant/MLG8ZV8FJJDYS/checkout/DK4VVAQGAV3LIM2K5V4JIX2Y

Please note that it will still say 'unpaid' even when you have payed. I am aware that you have paid. It is just a technical thing from MeetUp.

OUR PREVIOUS THEMES INCLUDE:

SELF ISOLATION AND MENTAL HEALTH

SOCIAL DISTANCING

LONELINESS

CONNECTION

ANXIETY

FEAR

TIME TO CONTEMPLATE AND THINK OF YOUR LIFE

LIVING DIFFERENTLY

TIME FOR FITNESS

also...

Sex, love, romance

Who am I - what makes me, me?

Do I feel I connect with others in my life to the degree that I want to?

How to find someone special?

What makes a man? Gender roles and gender fluidity.

Monogamy - is it important?

Age -gap - is it possible?

Addictions

Loneliness

Getting older (and gay scenes obsession with youth)

Friends vs. sexual partners

.. and much more !

LOOKING FORWARD TO SEEING YOU ONLINE - TAKE CARE - BEST WISHES,

ABOUT DAN:

Dan is a state registered and NHS contracted dramatherapist and clinical supervisor with 20 years experience in London, working with young people and adults and runs his own private practise in London Bridge and ONLINE.

Dan has worked with men and women who experience domestic abuse. He has run regular workshops for for the charity 'Positive East' in East London and written and directed plays for London Pride events.

Dan facilitates several ongoing Creative Arts Psychotherapy groups for men - and couples.

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