What we're about

Thank you for showing interest in this community of ethically non-monogamous or polyamorous friends! We are happy you are visiting!


We are a group of people in ethically non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. We practice open relationships, we support each other in their non-monogamy and polyamory, and we respect each others’ relationship choices and boundaries.

We enjoy meeting with and doing things with like-minded people. We share our feelings, exchange perspectives, play games, read poetry, perform burlesque, sing karaoke, get drunk together, or just observe and learn.

We are inclusive of communities of color, differently abled, and LGBTQIA persons. We welcome each and every one to participate in and build this community.

This group is not designed for hook ups or as a dating site. We encourage real, in-person conversations with open and honest intentions without expectations. All events advertised on meetup are open to non-members, unless stated otherwise.

Although many of our members are couples, we encourage people to reach out individually and prioritize direct relationships. Many of our couples are members individually.

We respect each other and expect clear, enthusiastic consent from each other. “Maybe later”, “I don’t know”, and “I’m not sure” all mean the same thing: “No”.


*L*earn – IE4Poly is for learning about polyamory and how to develop into better versions of ourselves.

*O*pen communications – IE4Poly is a place to exercise open communications with intention, foster interactive dialogue, facilitate trust, develop listening skills, and give support.

*V*erbal Consent – We encourage everyone to obtain clear, explicit verbal consent before initiating physical contact.

*E*xpectations – check them at the door! Interest in polyamory does *not* signal sexual availability or indicate sexual orientation.

*R*espectful behavior toward hosts and guests is required. Anything that is not “Yes” is a “No”. “Maybe later”, “I don’t know”, and “I’m not sure” all mean the same thing: “No”.

*S*afe Space – IE4Poly is safe space for all sexual orientations and gender/kink identities, as well as those who identify as monogamous.


• Honor your existing relationships.

• Honor others’ existing relationships.

• Respect each other.

• Be clear with yourself about what you want.

• Listen to others and be sure you know what they want. Anything that is not “Yes” is a “No”. “Maybe later”, “I don’t know”, and “I’m not sure” all mean the same thing: “No”.

• Express yourself when you feel disrespected or when your boundaries have been violated; reach out to others for support.

• No photography, video or recording of any kind is allowed without prior verbal consent of all parties involved.


We strongly encourage members to negotiate win-win, positive solutions amongst each other whenever possible. If you experience consent or boundary violations, unwanted or triggering behavior, unsolicited messaging, or thoughtless verbal language, you may begin by kindly and clearly communicating directly with each other. You may inform leadership of an incident as an FYI or if a situation becomes intractable or unbearable. The Organizer and Co-Organizers retain the right to remove or ban people from the community with or without cause.


This is OUR community. We welcome participation, feedback, and suggestions to improve our events. Working together, we will keep our poly community respectful and safe. Feel free to contact our leadership team:

• Hamilton Avila, Organizer

• Brad Hughes, Co-Organizer

• Natasha Kordus, Co-Organizer

• Robert Wilson, Co-Organizer

• Thomas Marquez, Co-Organizer

• Stephen Tremble, Event Organizer

• Veronika Archer, Event Oganizer

• Kathryn Bryars, Event Organizer

• Manijeh Badiee, Event Organizer

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