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Join us to meet other lesbian and bisexual women living in and around Greater Manchester. We post information on events, workshops and social support groups from LGBT Foundation, and other events organised by our meetup hosts. If you want to organise your own activities to meet with other women, please get in touch: women@lgbt.foundation

LESBIAN AND BI WOMEN’S MEETUP: SAFER SPACES AGREEMENT

This group is open to all self-identifying lesbian, bi, queer and questioning women and non-binary and gender fluid people who want to be in women’s spaces. It is a space that is created for all LBQ women, including trans women, women of colour, older women and disabled women.

In order to enable everyone to enjoy and feel comfortable in the space, there are a few ground rules. If you feel unsafe at any point, or witness any problematic behaviour, please get in touch with LGBT Foundation’s Women’s Programme by emailing women@lgbt.foundation

If you repeatedly break these group agreements, you will be removed from the meetup group.

All of these rules apply to online and face-to-face communications.

Pronouns

A pronoun is how you refer to someone, for example using she or they. Please ask people what their pronouns are if you are meeting them for the first time. Use their correct pronouns, even if the words are unfamiliar to you. If you make a mistake and refer to someone with the wrong pronoun, apologise and move on.

If you feel comfortable to, please include the pronouns you use in your bio, so people can address you correctly.

Assumptions

Don’t make assumptions about someone’s identity and think about the ways that people from minority groups may be impacted in different ways by the issues you discuss. Be aware that your experiences as a lesbian, bi, queer woman or non-binary person are not necessarily the same as everybody else in the room. Be aware of any position and privileges you may bring regarding for example your race, your class, your gender identity, your ability or your age. Try not to make generalising statements such as 'All women hate X'.

Oppressive Behaviour

Racism, sexism, classism, homophobia, biphobia, transphobia, disableism, fatphobia, ageism or discrimination on basis of ethnicity, immigration status, or religious, cultural, and/or spiritual beliefs, or any other kind of oppressive behavior is unacceptable and will be challenged. Please do not use slurs that are not yours to use: e.g if you are white do not use racial slurs, even if you are being critical of them. Please give a choice for people to interact without having to talk if they don’t want to, If they are neurodivergent[1] do not tell people off if they want to talk or move when everybody else is seating quietly and give space to people to go at their own pace.

Sexual Harassment

There is a zero tolerance policy to sexual harassment. This means no unwanted touching, including hugs, so please make sure you have consent before engaging in any physical contact with someone. This also means no wolf whistling or catcalling, and no inappropriate sexual comments or sexually based jokes, songs or taunts.

Accessible Language

Try to use clear, uncomplicated language and to avoid any acronyms and in-jokes. Please don’t assume that anyone else has the same background knowledge as you – if you’re referencing a person or theory, please give a brief description, no matter how well known you believe it is.

Content Warnings

Give people a heads up if you are going to discuss something that others might find upsetting. Sometimes upsetting things happen and we need to be able talk about how we deal with them as a community. It’s important to have a space where we feel able to do this, and we hope that our spaces will provide that. However, not everyone is able to talk about everything all the time, so let people know if you are going to talk about something potentially upsetting, such as mental illness or domestic abuse. You can do this simply by asking ‘is it okay if I talk about X thing?’

Space to Speak

Please be aware that it is often difficult for those belonging to marginalised groups or minority groups to participate in discussions both online and in person. Do not talk over people and try to gauge whether it is appropriate for you to speak on certain topics – e.g. if it’s not your lived experience, are you best placed to express an opinion on it? Try to give less confident and quieter people a chance to speak.

Privacy and Confidentiality

We will ask everybody to respect the fact that not everybody is “out” everywhere outside of this space so please do not share any contact information, pictures or identifiable information of other people without their explicit consent. Before taking photos at meetups, please ask the permission of everyone in the photo, and before posting, please ask permission again and state clearly where you intend to post it.

Respecting Hosts

Our meetup hosts are volunteers and give up their spare time and energy to make these wonderful meetups happen. They are also not usually trained support workers of any kind. Please be mindful of this and limit how many requests you make of them for new meetups and how much support or attention you require from them during meetups.

If you have any issues, complaints or ideas for new meetups, please contact women@lgbt.foundation . If you require more support around issues including mental health, substance use and sexual health and relationships, LGBT Foundation (http://www.lgbt.foundation/) has a range of services that may be able to support you. Please call 0345 3 30 30 30 or email helpline@lgbt.foundation to access this support.

[1] Neurodivergence is when someone’s their neurological development is different to what is deemed “typical”, such as autism, ADHD, OCD, etc.) but is based around the idea that the neurodivergent person does not want/need to be cured or changed.

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