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Workshop: Awesome Boundaries: for Empowerment, Safety, and Really Good Sex
Topic: Personal Boundaries, Sexual Boundaries: How to find yours, how to state them, how to keep them. Respecting the boundaries of others. Tips, context and exercises. NOTE: This is a collaboration with SexPositive Valley ( ) See: Discounted Tickets: $10 (use code "halfoff") Okay, let's admit it, at one time or another we've all said, yes when we wanted to say no, no when we wanted to say yes, and maybe when we really didn't mean it. Also, at one time or another, we've pushed someone's boundaries, invaded their personal space, went in for the hug without waiting, accepted a lukewarm yes, when we knew they didn't mean it. Right?!? How did it leave us feeling? Angry at ourselves and the other, guilt ridden, pissed off, remorseful. Why did we do it? Because neither culture nor family of origin taught us any better. As a matter of fact, they taught us how to go against our own boundaries, (if they taught us about boundaries at all!) to push for what we wanted (a "real man" would go for it, wouldn't they?), how to be nice and not make waves (a "good girl" would not raise her voice or cause a scene). Also, we would have been taught that if a man really wanted someone, he would pursue them past their objections, and if the woman didn't feign disinterest, she was likely a slut. It's time for a change: the sexual revolution 4.0 is here! And we are armed with all the tools we need, to do it right this time. Or you will be after you take this class. In this 2.5 hour session you will learn and practice the following: • How to make a list of your hard no's, your, "under the right circumstances" and your, hell yesses! • Where your line in the sand it, and where you want to test your own boundaries (maybe you don't know how you feel about something until it happens.) Learn how to explore safely using safe words, changing your yes to a no, and giving and getting feedback. • Learn how to say no, gently and caringly yet with authority and finality, and how to deal with someone who doesn't respect your boundaries (dealing with it as it happens, reporting it, and finding support after the fact, • Learn how to get proper consent to protect you from claims of violation later on (examples: get it in writing, voice recording, witnesses), • Physical maneuvers to evade: the unwanted hug, the stray hand in a snuggle, the person who doesn't hear or respect your "no", • Using words, tone of voice, and screams to be heard and avoid all possibility of being misunderstood, • What to do if you freeze (fight, flight, or freeze response), and how to recognize that someone you are interacting with has frozen (usually caused by past trauma.) This is a practical, hands on, class where we will discuss actual and theoretical situations, and give useful information for how to deal with them. ______________________________________ SexPositive World believes that people of every gender are longing for more love, connection, touch, and pleasure in their lives. We know that sex-negativity has systematically robbed people of safe and healthy ways to get these needs met, and we know that there is much work to be done to reclaim sexuality as something natural, healthy, and beautiful. Helping people feel safe and empowered is key, and good boundaries are vital. ______________________________________ Together with a team of therapists and sex-educators SPW has developed a class whose aim is to empower, teach strategy, find solutions, and make possible more love in the world. Bring your your friends. Plan to go out with your friends afterward for a discussion of the class and to further examine ways to expand into healthy boundaries. Purchase Discounted Tickets - $10 (use code "halfoff")


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