This group is intended to be a refuge from sex-negativity and body-shame in our culture. We believe in empowering people to challenge unfair gender stereotypes, expectations and double standards, liberate their sexuality and bodies and become more authentic and whole in the process. Here, members can celebrate bodies and their capacity for pleasure, enjoy the company of other sex- and body-positive people, and talk about relationships and sex, and how they might improve their own, in a safe and non-judgmental environment. Please refer to our Glossary (http://www.meetup.com/SexBodyPositiveOahu/pages/Glossary/) page for definitions of terms used in this description and throughout our site.
Everyone 18 and over is welcome to join this group, be they female or male, single or partnered, gay or straight, young or old, skinny or fat, vanilla or kinky, monogamous or polyamorous, or anything in between. The type and frequency of events that we have will depend on what members ask for and what we can find hosts and venues for, so please join and let us know what you're looking for. We'd like to have many different events to fulfill the interests of a broad range of people. We ask that each member have one and only one profile in the group (no couple's or duplicate accounts, please). We look forward to your participation in our group at events and on our site.
We understand that there are many reasons that women may be more reluctant than men to join this group. We strive to make this a group that women enjoy and feel comfortable, listened to and respected in. However, this depends on the participation and feedback of women. Ladies, please let us know if there is anything that we can do to persuade you to join our group, and also let us know about any concerns you have about joining, as we may be able to address them.
We are selective as to what men we allow to join the group. If you are a man just looking for no-strings-attached hookups or "easy" women, that is not what sex-positive means. You'll have better luck with that on Craigslist or Adult Friend Finder. We want men that have something to contribute to the group. Transexual, intersexual and gender-bending folks, you're welcome too!
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We hope that members will make new friends in the group and find lovers or play partners if that is what they are looking for. We ask that members and their guests at events respect and listen to each other as whole people, work toward enthusiastic consent (http://www.scarleteen.com/article/boyfriend/drivers_ed_for_the_sexual_superhighway_navigating_consent) for any physical intimacy they engage in and never attempt to coerce or manipulate another into doing something. Before posting a greeting on a member's profile, sending them an email via meetup or initiating any contact with them that could be unwanted, please note their preferences regarding these in their answers to the last set of questions in their profile. Failure to respect a member's answers to these questions may get you banned from the group.
This group may especially be of interest to those who
value openness, honesty, respect, vulnerability, consent and safety in their relationships
question the politics of gender in sex and relationships
embrace sex as a healthy part of the human experience
believe that no one should feel ashamed of their body
want to explore the world of possibilities for relationships and sex
want to deepen their connection to their partner
want to enjoy sex more
wish to explore the spiritual aspects of sexual experience, as through the practice of tantra
enjoy erotic art and media
enjoy social nudity
practice or wish to explore alternatives to monogamy, such as polyamory or swinging
engage in BDSM or fetishes
After you join the group, you can suggest a meetup via a link on the front page and members can RSVP to attend it before it even has a date, time or location or has been officially scheduled. Please use this feature to suggest a kind of meetup for the group or inform members about sex- and body-positive events on Oahu that they might want to attend as a group. Some possible future meetups are
Sexy game nights
Meet-and-greet events for singles, swingers or polyamorous people
Performances, such as burlesque or drag shows
A couple's massage class
A burlesque dance class
A Tantra workshop
We'll also announce sex- and body-positive events hosted by other groups and individuals that won't be meetups on our site. Our Resources (http://www.meetup.com/SexBodyPositiveOahu/pages/Resources/) page includes links to other sex- and body-positive groups on the island. Please let us know about any other relevant groups or events.
If you'd like to host a one-time or recurring event yourself, please contact the organizer about doing so.