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~ Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC) ~

Come and join us for a fun and revolutionary yet simple and effective process for communicating with empathy, honesty, confidence and compassion. Everything we do in life involves daily communication and language in our personal and professional lives. Our regular Meetups will focus on making life wonderful through playful and interactive group gatherings, while building the power of conscious and compassionate NVC communities.

Inspired by the theory and practice of Compassionate Communication, also known as Nonviolent Communication (NVC), this Meetup group is a gathering place for people to interact with honesty and authenticity.

Compassionate Communication is a process developed by Dr Marshall Rosenberg. It focuses on three aspects of communication: self-empathy (defined as a deep and compassionate awareness of one's own inner experience), empathy (defined as listening to another with deep compassion), and honest self-expression (defined as expressing oneself authentically in a way that is likely to inspire compassion in others).

With Compassionate Communication we learn to hear our own deeper needs and those of others. Through its emphasis on deep listening — to ourselves as well as others — Compassionate Communication helps us discover the depth of our own compassion. This language reveals the awareness that all human beings are only trying to honour universal values and needs.

Through the practice of Compassionate Communication, we can learn to clarify what we are observing, what emotions we are feeling, what values we want to live by, and what we want to ask of ourselves and others. We will no longer need to use the language of blame, judgement or domination. We can experience the deep pleasure of contributing to each others' well-being.

While Compassionate Communication is taught as a process of communication designed to improve compassionate connection to others, it has also been interpreted as a spiritual practice, a set of values, a parenting technique, an educational method and a worldview. Compassionate Communication is simple, yet powerfully transformative.

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Upcoming events (5+)

The Power of Empathy

Mt Vic Hub

Empathy is a quality of character that can change the world In Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC) we come to understand empathy as the capacity to be fully present with another, accompanying them as they experience and/or express what's alive for them in a given moment. We learn the skill of being in spacious, non-judgemental presence as we listen. The Power of Empathy Empathy is at the very heart of NVC and Compassionate Communication. It is a profound and total listening, neutral and deep, that does not look to influence the other or the quality of what is being said. It is being fully present in the moment and listening deeply to the real needs of the person speaking. While our usual habit is to listen from a place of judgement and evaluation, developing EMPATHY and SELF-Empathy skills brings us to a place of connection and harmony within ourself and others. This workshop will help move us towards a new way of thinking and being that brings healing compassionate connection into our life through the power of Empathy. What Is Self-Empathy? In self-empathy we practice the basic skills of NVC (Observation, Feelings, Needs and Requests) within ourselves silently. We pay attention to what’s going on within, what thoughts and stories are running in our minds, the bodily sensations we are experiencing, and what we notice ourselves doing and saying. What You Will Learn in this 4 Hour Workshop: Summary of the 4-step NVC process The 4 ways of hearing The 4 step 'dance' Strategies & Requests Explore what Empathy is in the NVC framework Strengthen your PRESENCE skills Experience an EMPATHY CIRCLE Experiential exercises Book & Pay: $40 (unwaged) $50 (waged) Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts. Please deposit into the following account with 'NVC' and your name as reference: Trading Bank: Kiwibank Name of Account: Spirit of Peace Account Number:[masked] Please RSVP on this Meetup or Enquiries email: [masked] OR Phone/Text Sophia on[masked] Your Facilitator: Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region 15 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ. She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers. She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public. She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness. Recent Testimonials from Participants: "Highly recommended! Sophia has done a wonderful job in presenting this amazing concept of compassionate communication in a very warm and heartfelt, as well as wonderfully visual, active and fun way. Very inspiring, thank you!" "Excellent - well worth taking the time to learn and practice some new communication skills. Sophia is very passionate about the topic which made it easy and fun to participate." Venue: Mt Vic Hub 24E Elizabeth Street Mt Victoria Wellington Like us on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/pages/Compassionate-Communication/355758411107040) Follow us on Twitter (https://twitter.com/CompassionNZ) NVC Lovers Page - Sophia (http://www.meetup.com/Compassionate-Nonviolent-Communication-NVC-Community/pages/NVC_Lovers_-_Sophia)

Transforming Depression, Anger, Guilt & Shame

Mt Vic Hub

Do You Play the Blame Game of 'who's right and who's wrong? Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame (DAGS) are caused by judgements or what we call Life-alienated thinking in Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC). We direct our Anger outward by blaming others, and direct it inward by blaming ourselves, which result in the arrival of its cousins, Guilt, Shame and Depression. Anger tells us we think the 'bad person' is somebody else. Guilt, Shame and Depression tell us we think we are the 'bad person'. These are the feelings that result from Life-alienated thinking and the 'domination' and 'power over' systems we live in every day of our lives, in our homes, schools and workplaces. They can lead to a culture of violence and bullying affecting others, or self-harm towards ourselves. In NVC we call Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame important alarms which let us know we are disconnected to our needs, values and what matters deeply to us. What Will You Learn in this 4 hour Workshop? 1) Life-serving vs Life-alienating communication 2) Unpacking Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame (DAGS) 3) Acknowledge without resistance the painful feelings of unmet needs and the 'Jackal Show' 4) Recognize that DAGS do not arise because of another’s words or behaviour 5) Find the 'gift' beneath the Anger and transform it into Life-serving energy and to 'make life more wonderful' 6) Shift your thinking patterns that lead to Guilt, Shame and Depression 7) Learn to Mourn the ‘sweet pain’ of unmet needs and painful relationships and Requests of Yourself and Others 8) Experiential DAG Dancing on the ‘Flower of Life’ 9) Role Playing yourself and those with whom you have an 'Enemy Image' 10) Build your EQ with Empathy, Self-Compassion, Gratitude and Appreciation NVC supports connection with oneself and others so everyone's needs are equally valued. This allows people to create strategies and meaningful solutions that resolve issues and create thriving relationships in all aspects of life. Using NVC Empathy tools, participants will learn how to transform everyday blame, shame, and critical expression into interactions that focus on mutual human needs. People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deeper connection and satisfying conflict resolution. Book & Pay: $40 (unwaged) $50 (waged) Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts. Please deposit into the following account with 'NVC' and your name as reference: Trading Bank: Kiwibank Name of Account: Spirit of Peace Account Number:[masked] Please RSVP on this Meetup or Enquiries email: [masked] OR Phone/Text Sophia on[masked] Your Facilitator: Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region nearly 12 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ. She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers. She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public. She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness. Testimonials from Participants: "Highly recommended! Sophia has done a wonderful job in presenting this amazing concept of compassionate communication in a very warm and heartfelt, as well as wonderfully visual, active and fun way. Very inspiring, thank you!" "Excellent - well worth taking the time to learn and practice some new communication skills. Sophia is very passionate about the topic which made it easy and fun to participate." Venue: Mt Vic Hub 24E Elizabeth Street Mt Victoria Wellington Like us on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/pages/Compassionate-Communication/355758411107040) Follow us on Twitter (https://twitter.com/CompassionNZ) NVC Lovers Page - Sophia (http://www.meetup.com/Compassionate-Nonviolent-Communication-NVC-Community/pages/NVC_Lovers_-_Sophia)

Wellington Heart: Toward A Culture Of Love & Compassion

'From Conflict to Connection' Within every conflict lies the seed of transformation. Conflict is an inevitable part of life. 'From Conflict To Connection' is a means to create peace through our speech and communication. At a time when anger and violence dominate human attitudes, how do you show up in the world? Bringing about peaceful change begins with working on our own mindsets. What YOU say next will change YOUR world. Be a force for love in your surroundings. Transform conflict to deepen connection to yourself and others in all your relationships. Listen empathically to understand. While our usual habit is to listen from a place of judgement and evaluation, developing EMPATHY and SELF-Empathy skills bring us to a place of connection and harmony within ourselves and others. Come and join the dialogue and discussion. Learn how to speak the 'Language of the Heart'. Take the first step toward developing an awareness and consciousness of harmlessness for yourself and others - in your homes, schools, workplaces, and empathic social change within our communities. Wellington Heart is a gathering of a diverse group of people with a powerful intent to reconnect as ‘community’ to transform our systems with care, compassion and sustainability. We are concerned about the future of humanity and the need to be part of the change that is required. Connecting with like-hearted people is seen as the way to build capacity for that to happen. Wellington Heart will provide a public forum for those who believe we need a compassionate, thriving, sustainable and spiritual approach with love-based and values-based politics, economics, health and educational systems towards positive social change. The New Zealand Project: We will look at new models based on the values of Care, Community and Creativity inspired by Max Harris and his book ‘The New Zealand Project’, in the creation of a fair and just society, where as a group, we can learn, share, and empower each other through genuine care and aroha. Localism: How do we work locally and think globally? We can draw some ideas and inspiration from Dr Oliver Hartwich, Executive Director of The New Zealand Initiative. His extensive experience of studying 'Localism' models in communities around the world and his passion for introducing ‘Localism’ into our local government system. Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC): Language is fundamental to all our relationships and the quality of lasting social change. We will integrate into our ethos the Language of the Heart, better known as Compassionate or Nonviolent Communication (NVC), founded by the late Dr Marshall Rosenberg. Speaking peace is communicating without violence, and a way of connecting with others that allow our innate Compassion and natural Empathy to flourish. It is hoped this forum will connect people who feel alienated by politics, economics, and helpless in the face of global environmental destruction, with a lack of trust in our systems and bureaucracies. We will look at these new models presented by Max Harris, Dr Oliver Hartwich, Dr Marshall Rosenberg and Joanna Macy. These will give us concrete inspiration as potential application in the Wellington region. Wellington Heart is working towards a compassionate, thriving, sustainable and spiritual Wellington. Our forums, working groups and conversations will be accessible and respectful to all, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, religion, faith, creed, ethnicity, disability or any other humanade condition. Your voice is vital. Come and join us. Free Entry. All Welcome. Koha/Donation gratefully accepted towards cost of venue. RSVP/Enquiries email: [masked] Website: https://wellingtonnzchronicle.wordpress.com/

The Power of Empathy

Mt Vic Hub

Empathy is a quality of character that can change the world In Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC) we come to understand empathy as the capacity to be fully present with another, accompanying them as they experience and/or express what's alive for them in a given moment. We learn the skill of being in spacious, non-judgemental presence as we listen. The Power of Empathy Empathy is at the very heart of NVC and Compassionate Communication. It is a profound and total listening, neutral and deep, that does not look to influence the other or the quality of what is being said. It is being fully present in the moment and listening deeply to the real needs of the person speaking. While our usual habit is to listen from a place of judgement and evaluation, developing EMPATHY and SELF-Empathy skills brings us to a place of connection and harmony within ourself and others. This workshop will help move us towards a new way of thinking and being that brings healing compassionate connection into our life through the power of Empathy. What Is Self-Empathy? In self-empathy we practice the basic skills of NVC (Observation, Feelings, Needs and Requests) within ourselves silently. We pay attention to what’s going on within, what thoughts and stories are running in our minds, the bodily sensations we are experiencing, and what we notice ourselves doing and saying. What You Will Learn in this 4 Hour Workshop: Summary of the 4-step NVC process The 4 ways of hearing The 4 step 'dance' Strategies & Requests Explore what Empathy is in the NVC framework Strengthen your PRESENCE skills Experience an EMPATHY CIRCLE Experiential exercises Book & Pay: $40 (unwaged) $50 (waged) Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts. Please deposit into the following account with 'NVC' and your name as reference: Trading Bank: Kiwibank Name of Account: Spirit of Peace Account Number:[masked] Please RSVP on this Meetup or Enquiries email: [masked] OR Phone/Text Sophia on[masked] Your Facilitator: Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region 15 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ. She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers. She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public. She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness. Recent Testimonials from Participants: "Highly recommended! Sophia has done a wonderful job in presenting this amazing concept of compassionate communication in a very warm and heartfelt, as well as wonderfully visual, active and fun way. Very inspiring, thank you!" "Excellent - well worth taking the time to learn and practice some new communication skills. Sophia is very passionate about the topic which made it easy and fun to participate." Venue: Mt Vic Hub 24E Elizabeth Street Mt Victoria Wellington Like us on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/pages/Compassionate-Communication/355758411107040) Follow us on Twitter (https://twitter.com/CompassionNZ) NVC Lovers Page - Sophia (http://www.meetup.com/Compassionate-Nonviolent-Communication-NVC-Community/pages/NVC_Lovers_-_Sophia)

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Empathy and Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

Mt Vic Hub

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