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Transforming Depression, Anger, Guilt & Shame
Do You Play the Blame Game of 'who's right and who's wrong? Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame (DAGS) are caused by judgements or what we call Life-alienated thinking in Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC). We direct our Anger outward by blaming others, and direct it inward by blaming ourselves, which result in the arrival of its cousins, Guilt, Shame and Depression. Anger tells us we think the 'bad person' is somebody else. Guilt, Shame and Depression tell us we think we are the 'bad person'. These are the feelings that result from Life-alienated thinking and the 'domination' and 'power over' systems we live in every day of our lives, in our homes, schools and workplaces. They can lead to a culture of violence and bullying affecting others, or self-harm towards ourselves. In NVC we call Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame important alarms which let us know we are disconnected to our needs, values and what matters deeply to us. What Will You Learn in this 4 hour Workshop? 1) Life-serving vs Life-alienating communication 2) Unpacking Depression, Anger, Guilt, Shame (DAGS) 3) Acknowledge without resistance the painful feelings of unmet needs and the 'Jackal Show' 4) Recognize that DAGS do not arise because of another’s words or behaviour 5) Find the 'gift' beneath the Anger and transform it into Life-serving energy and to 'make life more wonderful' 6) Shift your thinking patterns that lead to Guilt, Shame and Depression 7) Learn to Mourn the ‘sweet pain’ of unmet needs and painful relationships and Requests of Yourself and Others 8) Experiential DAG Dancing on the ‘Flower of Life’ 9) Role Playing yourself and those with whom you have an 'Enemy Image' 10) Build your EQ with Empathy, Self-Compassion, Gratitude and Appreciation NVC supports connection with oneself and others so everyone's needs are equally valued. This allows people to create strategies and meaningful solutions that resolve issues and create thriving relationships in all aspects of life. Using NVC Empathy tools, participants will learn how to transform everyday blame, shame, and critical expression into interactions that focus on mutual human needs. People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deeper connection and satisfying conflict resolution. Book & Pay: $40 (unwaged) $50 (waged) Towards venue costs, refreshments and photocopy handouts. Please deposit into the following account with 'NVC' and your name as reference: Trading Bank: Kiwibank Name of Account: Spirit of Peace Account Number:[masked] Please RSVP on this Meetup or Enquiries email: [masked] OR Phone/Text Sophia on[masked] Your Facilitator: Sophia initiated and founded the NVC grassroots movement in the Wellington Region nearly 12 years ago, and organised many workshops attended by keen participants throughout NZ. She trained with the founder of NVC, Dr Marshall Rosenberg, Robert Gonzales, Miki Kashtan, Sura Hart, Jean Morrison, Gina Lawrie and many other overseas trainers. She has facilitated a wide range of NVC workshops for community activists, spiritual and social change groups, including Death Cafes, Grief & Loss with Compassion & Empathy, Intentional Living, Steiner and Buddhist communities, The Occupy NZ & Wellington movements, Inter/national Peace and Disarmament groups, alternative Adult Education, teachers, parents and children in school communities and the general public. She resonates deeply with the Spirituality of NVC and an abiding empathy for First Nations, the plight and healing of the world’s indigenous people, through NVC and cultural-spiritual awareness. Testimonials from Participants: "Highly recommended! Sophia has done a wonderful job in presenting this amazing concept of compassionate communication in a very warm and heartfelt, as well as wonderfully visual, active and fun way. Very inspiring, thank you!" "Excellent - well worth taking the time to learn and practice some new communication skills. Sophia is very passionate about the topic which made it easy and fun to participate." Venue: Mt Vic Hub 24E Elizabeth Street Mt Victoria Wellington Like us on Facebook ( Follow us on Twitter ( NVC Lovers Page - Sophia (

Mt Vic Hub

24E Elizabeth Street · Wellington

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~ Compassionate Nonviolent Communication (NVC) ~

Come and join us for a fun and revolutionary yet simple and effective process for communicating with empathy, honesty, confidence and compassion. Everything we do in life involves daily communication and language in our personal and professional lives. Our regular Meetups will focus on making life wonderful through playful and interactive group gatherings, while building the power of conscious and compassionate NVC communities.

Inspired by the theory and practice of Compassionate Communication, also known as Nonviolent Communication (NVC), this Meetup group is a gathering place for people to interact with honesty and authenticity.

Compassionate Communication is a process developed by Dr Marshall Rosenberg. It focuses on three aspects of communication: self-empathy (defined as a deep and compassionate awareness of one's own inner experience), empathy (defined as listening to another with deep compassion), and honest self-expression (defined as expressing oneself authentically in a way that is likely to inspire compassion in others).

With Compassionate Communication we learn to hear our own deeper needs and those of others. Through its emphasis on deep listening — to ourselves as well as others — Compassionate Communication helps us discover the depth of our own compassion. This language reveals the awareness that all human beings are only trying to honour universal values and needs.

Through the practice of Compassionate Communication, we can learn to clarify what we are observing, what emotions we are feeling, what values we want to live by, and what we want to ask of ourselves and others. We will no longer need to use the language of blame, judgement or domination. We can experience the deep pleasure of contributing to each others' well-being.

While Compassionate Communication is taught as a process of communication designed to improve compassionate connection to others, it has also been interpreted as a spiritual practice, a set of values, a parenting technique, an educational method and a worldview. Compassionate Communication is simple, yet powerfully transformative.

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