What we're about

This is a group dedicated to empowering and supporting men to be better versions of themselves, to make a bigger impact and get what they want in love, sex, and life. It is especially for men who identify as 'Nice Guys’ as defined by author and psychotherapist Dr. Robert Glover in his book No More Mr. Nice Guy.

Nice guys are people pleasers, always putting others first rather than getting their own needs met. That’s how they’ve been conditioned in life, to seek the approval of others and survive life by being just... nice! Giving to get, fixing, keeping the peace, avoiding conflict, seeking approval, hiding mistakes… the list goes on. That’s being 'Nice'. It’s ultimately unfulfilling and prevents us from being the fullest version of ourselves and giving our best to others. Who should join this group?

If you are you looking for a group of like-minded men where you can get to work on yourself and your Nice Guy-ness and have more of what you want in life, this is for you.

• Do you give in order to get?

• Do you avoid conflict and try to keep the peace?

• Do you try and get people to like you?

• Do you want to improve your relationships?

• Do you have more potential but you're just not achieving in life?

• Do you want stop people taking advantage of you?

• Do you want to bring more purpose and passion to your life?

If you are a man aged over 18 and answered 'yes' to one or more of these questions, this is the group for you.

Meetings
We meet on a regular basis twice monthly and empower and support you to break out of your Nice Guy persona using the ideas and exercises in Dr. Glover's book as well as a range of other helpful and transformative tools.

We also offer workshop programmes and one to one coaching sessions. More details will be announced via our website: www.nomoremrniceguy.co ( http://www.nomoremrniceguy.co/ )

Commitments of the group
As members of the No More Mr. Nice Guy UK Meetup group, we accept and undertake to uphold the following commitments.

Confidentiality
What goes on in the group, stays in the group. Confidentiality is paramount in creating a safe space for men to share and express themselves. It is ok to share stories and breakthroughs you have heard in a group meeting with other people but it is not ok to divulge names or other details that could identify a member. We may share stories that inspire us, but we do not gossip to others about what we have heard in the group in a way that may be detrimental to that person or breach their confidentiality.
Responsibility
We are all 100 per cent responsible for our own well being in this group. If something feels off to you, for example, you feel upset, uncomfortable or triggered by what someone else has said or done within the group, you are responsible for those feelings and how you respond. Take responsibility for resolving the matter by raising it with the person. If that does not resolve the matter for you, raise it with either of the group organisers, Rowan Andrews or Amir Khadr. We encourage men to be responsible like this and not be victims by holding on to opinions and concerns or suffering in silence. We also encourage men to take responsibility for their actions within the group, how they show up in the group, how they listen and share etc.
Accountability
We bring integrity to our interaction and engagement with the group. That means we are open and honest and do what we say we are going to do and we do things to the best of our ability. If you say will call someone at a given time, call them. If for any reason you are unable to fulfil a promise, let the person know in advance as soon as you know you cannot make it and re-commit to do it at another time. That is what we mean by integrity.
Active Listening
This is about the way we share and listen to our fellow members in the group. Both of these require presence. They are active, not passive activities. Listening requires us to give up whatever thoughts might be going on in our own heads so that we can be fully engaged in what the person is saying. This takes practice. It also requires an element of empathy, listening and appreciating the point of view of the person sharing even if we do not agree with what they say, we can appreciate why they might hold a certain view.
Respect
At one level we’re all different. At another, we’re all the same! We respect each member of the group whatever their background, ethnicity, sexuality, age, relationship status etc and we respect them whatever issues they may be dealing with and sharing about. We show our respect by listening and contributing to them with our listening, with our feedback and with our own sharing. We also respect that men share their truth, that which is true for them, even if what they say does not feel true to us.
Projections
We are all mirrors of each others' projections. Other men may trigger your unconscious behaviour patterns and beliefs. Our reactions can cause us to unconsciously project and impose on to the other our own experience, opinions and beliefs as if these are 'the truth'. We practice resisting this temptation and checking ourselves when we automatically find ourselves wanting to do that. We own our reactions and projections by revealing our triggers and taking responsibility for them.
If behaviours by any members of the group are not commensurate with these commitments, those members will removed from the group at the discretion of the organiser.

Upcoming events (5+)

No More Mr. Nice Guy Men's Group

Jericho Community Centre

£10.00

This is the first of a regular monthly Meetup for men to join other men taking steps towards recovery from the Nice Guy syndrome. The Meetup will be facilitated by certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach, Rowan Andrews. It is an opportunity for members to share and hear from other men about the issues they are taking on in their recovery and work through ideas from the book and other tools to empower men in their growth. The meetings occur at the same time on the last Thursday of every month. Format and Content of the Meetup Here’s a flavour of what you can expect when you come along. First of all the intention of the meetings: • that you leave with a new sense of empowerment for yourself in your life with regard to overcoming your Nice Guy behaviours • you gain a sense of connection with other men in the group who are dealing with similar issues to you so that you see and experience the fact that you are not alone in your struggles with being a Nice Guy • you start to take steps to towards transcending your Nice Guy to become a fully embodied man in touch with his masculinity The format of the meeting will be structured in such a way to give time to men who wish to share about their own life and how their Nice Guy shows up. Sharing is important because we can all see ourselves in another persons story and this helps us gain perspective on our own situation. As well as sharing we will also select certain particular topics to have a wider discussion on, present ideas to give you different perspectives on your own situation and do some thought provoking exercises to support you in your Nice Guy recovery. We believe you will find the meeting engaging, practical and supportive. We look forward to seeing you there.

No More Mr. Nice Guy® Breaking Free Bootcamp™

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Bootcamp is back! This is a must-attend event for recovering Nice Guys who want to dive deep and accelerate their recovery. Discover how you can recover from being a 'Nice Guy' and get what you want in love, sex, career, and life. Don't miss this opportunity to immerse yourself in your recovery journey with a practical workshop that will show you how to transcend your Nice Guy and be the man you were born to be. Register asap to take advantage of the early bird savings. You can even register for the VIP or VIP+ package and get the personal touch, dining with me and my team on the Saturday night​, join a follow-up group coaching session online and with the VIP+ also have a one to one personal coaching session with me to help you integrate what you learned on the Bootcamp. Ticket prices for the full weekend: Early Bird Standard Ticket: £447, (full price £547). Includes the full weekend workshop and a buffet lunch at the venue on both days. Early Bird VIP Ticket: £547 (full price £647). Includes same as Standard ticket, plus dinner with Head Coach and Facilitator, Rowan Andrews and his team on Saturday evening at the venue, and a two-hour follow-up group coaching call online, on March 12th 7pm, hosted by Rowan. Early Bird VIP+ Ticket: £697 (full price £797). Includes the VIP package plus a one to one personal integration coaching session online with Rowan. For all the details and to book your place, click here: https://uh455-adf4b7.pages.infusionsoft.net/ Whichever ticket you choose, consider it a major investment in yourself, you deserve it. And I can't wait to see you there! Rowan Certified No More Mr. Nice Guy® Coach and Workshop Facilitator PS If you would like to have a chat with me about the Bootcamp and what you could get from it, drop me an email to [masked] and we'll arrange a good time to talk. ©Rowan Andrews, 2019.

No More Mr. Nice Guy Men's Group

Jericho Community Centre

£10.00

This is the first of a regular monthly Meetup for men to join other men taking steps towards recovery from the Nice Guy syndrome. The Meetup will be facilitated by certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach, Rowan Andrews. It is an opportunity for members to share and hear from other men about the issues they are taking on in their recovery and work through ideas from the book and other tools to empower men in their growth. The meetings occur at the same time on the last Thursday of every month. Format and Content of the Meetup Here’s a flavour of what you can expect when you come along. First of all the intention of the meetings: • that you leave with a new sense of empowerment for yourself in your life with regard to overcoming your Nice Guy behaviours • you gain a sense of connection with other men in the group who are dealing with similar issues to you so that you see and experience the fact that you are not alone in your struggles with being a Nice Guy • you start to take steps to towards transcending your Nice Guy to become a fully embodied man in touch with his masculinity The format of the meeting will be structured in such a way to give time to men who wish to share about their own life and how their Nice Guy shows up. Sharing is important because we can all see ourselves in another persons story and this helps us gain perspective on our own situation. As well as sharing we will also select certain particular topics to have a wider discussion on, present ideas to give you different perspectives on your own situation and do some thought provoking exercises to support you in your Nice Guy recovery. We believe you will find the meeting engaging, practical and supportive. We look forward to seeing you there.

No More Mr. Nice Guy Men's Group

Jericho Community Centre

£10.00

This is the first of a regular monthly Meetup for men to join other men taking steps towards recovery from the Nice Guy syndrome. The Meetup will be facilitated by certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach, Rowan Andrews. It is an opportunity for members to share and hear from other men about the issues they are taking on in their recovery and work through ideas from the book and other tools to empower men in their growth. The meetings occur at the same time on the last Thursday of every month. Format and Content of the Meetup Here’s a flavour of what you can expect when you come along. First of all the intention of the meetings: • that you leave with a new sense of empowerment for yourself in your life with regard to overcoming your Nice Guy behaviours • you gain a sense of connection with other men in the group who are dealing with similar issues to you so that you see and experience the fact that you are not alone in your struggles with being a Nice Guy • you start to take steps to towards transcending your Nice Guy to become a fully embodied man in touch with his masculinity The format of the meeting will be structured in such a way to give time to men who wish to share about their own life and how their Nice Guy shows up. Sharing is important because we can all see ourselves in another persons story and this helps us gain perspective on our own situation. As well as sharing we will also select certain particular topics to have a wider discussion on, present ideas to give you different perspectives on your own situation and do some thought provoking exercises to support you in your Nice Guy recovery. We believe you will find the meeting engaging, practical and supportive. We look forward to seeing you there.

Past events (6)

No More Mr. Nice Guy Men's Group

Jericho Community Centre

£10.00

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