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Under-achievement. Self-sabotage. Endless texting. Friendships with Peers Who Act Out. Constant Social Media and Internet Browsing. Under-performing. Disrespect. Substance Abuse. Lack of Drive or Motivation. Mood Changes. Poor Relationships with Siblings or Other Family Members.

If you are a parent of a child who exhibits any of the above behaviors or issues, and you struggle with how to approach these problems and effectively, then this group is designed for you.


With the endless array of challenges both within the family and externally (changing economic conditions, heated academic, athletic, extracurricular and social competition, surging peer pressure, and the many negative effects of technological advancement), parents are literally attempting to parent in a "perfect storm."

What's more, scientific evidence suggests that the parent-child relationship is more conflictual than ever before, with many devoted parents reporting a sense of helplessness and frustration in their attempts to "get through" to their kids, support their children's growth and maturity, and feel close to their sons and daughters.

The goals for this group are twofold:

(1) to provide parents with a non-judgmental, sympathetic and supportive forum for sharing their parenting challenges;

(2) to offer parents brief didactic presentations on the psychological elements of parenting, family processes, and the dynamics of the parent-child relationship.

It is unfortunate that the work of researchers, theorists and clinicians who have amassed a considerable knowledge base on parenting and family dynamics rarely if ever actually reaches parents -- precisely the ones who can benefit from this information! Organizing and translating this knowledge into pragmatic, easy-to-understand principles that parents may then apply to actual parenting dilemmas is the driving force for establishing this group.

This Educational Support Group for Parents is facilitated by James Tobin, Ph.D. (www.jamestobinphd.com; 949-338-4388; email: jt@jamestobinphd.com), PSY 22074, a licensed psychologist based in Newport Beach, CA who devotes a significant portion of his practice to adolescents, parents, and families.

Please note that this meetup.com group is intended to be informational and supportive in nature, and as such does not constitute counseling or psychotherapy. Consultation with a mental health practitioner is recommended to address specific issues that group members may be experiencing.

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For Your Review: Getting to the Bottom of the Adolescent Brain

Dear Members of the "Parenting in the 21st Century" Group:

In my clinical practice, I am frequently asked by parents (and also teenagers!) about what is going on in the brain during adolescence.

Below are three of the best resources I have come across on this important topic. The first, a blog posting from Social Work Today, provides an easy-to-understand summary of the work of Daniel Siegel, M.D., the prominent UCLA psychiatrist who founded the new field of interpersonal neurobiology. The second features a video presentation by Sarah Jayne Blakemore, a research scientist at the forefront of the latest investigations of the neural dynamics of the adolescent brain. The third, an article entitled "The Teen Brain" from the Dana Foundation, documents the neurobiology of the adolescent brain and offers some insights as to how to begin to determine if certain teen behaviors and tendencies are actually pathological vs. merely the manifestation of normal alterations of the brain as it develops.

Social Work Today Blog Post: http://www.socialwork... (http://www.socialworktoday.com/archive/011915p30.shtml)

Sarah Jayne Blakemore Video: https://www.edge.org/... (https://www.edge.org/conversation/sarah_jayne_blakemore-the-adolescent-brain)

"The Teen Brain": http://www.dana.org/C... (http://www.dana.org/Cerebrum/2009/The_Teen_Brain__Primed_to_Learn,_Primed_to_Take_Risks/)

I hope you find this information useful. Please don't hesitate to contact me with your reactions to these materials or any questions you might have.

James Tobin, Ph.D.

Licensed Psychologist | PSY 22074 |[masked] | [masked]

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