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"Telling the truth is hard to do, because it is so contrary to our conditioning. People might get their feelings hurt, or get offended or shocked or unbearably relieved. But if neither you nor they run away, and you stay with your experience, on the other side of that short-term breaking of the taboo is great freedom and love for each other. Telling the truth is hard, but covering up is harder on you and harder to live with than the truth. Being isolated within our own internally-judging minds is what most of us suffer and die from. The rescue from our mind's oppression comes through authentic contact and honest sharing with other human beings....the quality of our lives depends on this contact and sharing..."

-Brad Blanton, Practicing Radical Honesty

In this group, we get together to learn and practice Radical Honesty in the style of Brad Blanton (Gestalt psychotherapist, author, and American maverick). Radical Honesty means telling the truth about what you have done, what you think, what you feel, and what you want.

Radical Honesty is about paying attention to ourselves and other people exactly as we are in this moment, and describing what is so for us, out loud. We practice paying attention to three things (the only three things you can pay attention to): what is happening right now in our immediate environment, sensations and feelings in our body right now, and thoughts & images in our mind right now. This orientation toward noticing is a liberation from all the pretending, performing, managing and controlling that we normally do. Instead of trying to make a good impression, controlling what we say & do, and trying to manipulate others, we simply notice what is there, and describe what we notice out loud (especially the parts that we usually withhold and lie about). By doing this, we can experience:

...deeper intimacy and connection with others

...relief from anger, resentment, fears and shame

...freedom from our mind's reactive triggers and control patterns

...presence, acceptance and forgiveness

....greater vitality, creativity, and spontaneity

Over time we learn to distinguish between reality (something you can see/hear/touch/notice) and our interpretation of reality (judgments, imaginations, the meaning our mind makes up), and become more grounded in present moment experience. We learn to pay attention to what's actually going on here and now, inside our own skin and right in front of us, and to describe that to other people. We often find that living in our right-now experience is more nurturing and gratifying than living in our minds.

Here is Brad Blanton's Tedx Talk for an introduction to Radical Honesty from the man himself:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V_Fp93OtaHE

You can also check out http://www.radicalhonesty.com , and read these books:

Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton

Practicing Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton

Radical Parenting by Brad Blanton

Getting Real by Susan Campbell

Saying What's Real by Susan Campbell

Please message Kara or Joe with any questions about the group. Newcomers are always welcome. Come experiment with us!

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Be Here Now, With Each Other

The Purpose Collective

Come experiment with relating in a more honest, transparent and direct way than we normally do. Practice tuning into what you feel, what you think, and what you want right now in this moment, and describing that out loud to other people. Pay attention to your experience exactly as it is, welcoming and accepting whatever arises. We often play games & exercises such as: "Sometimes I pretend ________, when actually I am _______________." "I notice ______________, and I imagine _______________." (practice describing what you notice in the moment, and making a distinction between an observation of the senses and an interpretation added by the the mind) The "No Shoulds" Game In addition to the exercises, we also do gestalt style "Hot Seat" work and freestyle sharing (with guidance from the facilitators). This is when the group goes "live"! We invite you to: -ask for what you want -notice automatic/conditioned patterns of withholding & communicating -admit when you are triggered -admit when you are pretending or trying make a good impression -learn new ways to process conflict and judgment -give and receive honest feedback -tune into whatever sensations arise -feel through an experience with the body We find that breaking the typical social taboos about what we do or do not share can be uncomfortable at first, and if we are willing to stay with the discomfort and stay in contact with each another, we often experience deep relief, aliveness, and connection. If you are curious, come on out and join us to find out what we are all about! This is an experiential practice and we learn by showing up and practicing together. Message Kara or Joe, the co-leaders, with any questions. Visit www.radicalhonesty.com to learn more about this practice and the international community. This Meetup runs on the gift economy model. You will have the opportunity to give a gift of your own choosing based on the value you receive.

Be Here Now, With Each Other

The Purpose Collective

Come experiment with relating in a more honest, transparent and direct way than we normally do. Practice tuning into what you feel, what you think, and what you want right now in this moment, and describing that out loud to other people. Pay attention to your experience exactly as it is, welcoming and accepting whatever arises. We often play games & exercises such as: "Sometimes I pretend ________, when actually I am _______________." "I notice ______________, and I imagine _______________." (practice describing what you notice in the moment, and making a distinction between an observation of the senses and an interpretation added by the the mind) The "No Shoulds" Game In addition to the exercises, we also do gestalt style "Hot Seat" work and freestyle sharing (with guidance from the facilitators). This is when the group goes "live"! We invite you to: -ask for what you want -notice automatic/conditioned patterns of withholding & communicating -admit when you are triggered -admit when you are pretending or trying make a good impression -learn new ways to process conflict and judgment -give and receive honest feedback -tune into whatever sensations arise -feel through an experience with the body We find that breaking the typical social taboos about what we do or do not share can be uncomfortable at first, and if we are willing to stay with the discomfort and stay in contact with each another, we often experience deep relief, aliveness, and connection. If you are curious, come on out and join us to find out what we are all about! This is an experiential practice and we learn by showing up and practicing together. Message Kara or Joe, the co-leaders, with any questions. Visit www.radicalhonesty.com to learn more about this practice and the international community. This Meetup runs on the gift economy model. You will have the opportunity to give a gift of your own choosing based on the value you receive.

Be Here Now, With Each Other

The Purpose Collective

Come experiment with relating in a more honest, transparent and direct way than we normally do. Practice tuning into what you feel, what you think, and what you want right now in this moment, and describing that out loud to other people. Pay attention to your experience exactly as it is, welcoming and accepting whatever arises. We often play games & exercises such as: "Sometimes I pretend ________, when actually I am _______________." "I notice ______________, and I imagine _______________." (practice describing what you notice in the moment, and making a distinction between an observation of the senses and an interpretation added by the the mind) The "No Shoulds" Game In addition to the exercises, we also do gestalt style "Hot Seat" work and freestyle sharing (with guidance from the facilitators). This is when the group goes "live"! We invite you to: -ask for what you want -notice automatic/conditioned patterns of withholding & communicating -admit when you are triggered -admit when you are pretending or trying make a good impression -learn new ways to process conflict and judgment -give and receive honest feedback -tune into whatever sensations arise -feel through an experience with the body We find that breaking the typical social taboos about what we do or do not share can be uncomfortable at first, and if we are willing to stay with the discomfort and stay in contact with each another, we often experience deep relief, aliveness, and connection. If you are curious, come on out and join us to find out what we are all about! This is an experiential practice and we learn by showing up and practicing together. Message Kara or Joe, the co-leaders, with any questions. Visit www.radicalhonesty.com to learn more about this practice and the international community. This Meetup runs on the gift economy model. You will have the opportunity to give a gift of your own choosing based on the value you receive.

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