What we're about


(Sorry, this is long, but please read the entire thing before applying. There are questions on the application that you will only be able to answer if you've read this entire description)

Who is SexPositive Austin (SPA)?

We are an inclusive and diverse community comprised of monogamous, polyamorous, kinky, dominant, submissive, switch, sadistic, masochistic, transgender, cisgender, genderfluid, binary, non-binary, polygender, androgynous, transsexual, queer, bisexual, lesbian, gay, straight, intersexual, pansexual, asexual, demisexual, lovers and HUMAN BEINGS who serve as both members and volunteers.

SPA is a chapter of SexPositive World (not-for profit), an incestuous bunch of people (about 5k of us) in 15 cities and 5 countries that are part of a open-source, knowledge sharing, community dedicated to furthering the sex-positive movement.


What is Sex Positivity?

Sex positivity is a social movement and philosophy which regards all consensual expressions of sexuality as healthy, encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation, places an emphasis on informed consent and advocates sex education and risk-aware sex. Sex-positivity makes no moral distinctions among types of sexual expression, orientation, or identification, regarding these choices as matters of personal preference.


What does SexPositive Austin do?

SexPositive Austin makes the world a more pleasurable, inclusive, authentic, informed, and sexy place to live.

How does SexPositive Austin Do that?

SexPositive Austin members plan and host events centered around understanding and exploring all aspects of human sexuality.

We provide a chance to explore our authentic sexuality, learn, and grow in a safe, welcoming, and consensual environment. We use sexual energy as a powerful tool for transformation, healing, and connection, and we develop that energy by sharing ideas and experiences in both real world and virtual settings (Secret Facebook Groups, Reddit, and other Social Media.)

Events range from member hosted events (in homes, parks, restaurants, etc.), outings together such as burlesque shows, sex-positive theater, festivals, conventions, or visit a dungeon or club together, to signature events (facilitated events like our Snuggle Jam, and couple/triads massages) that are created by SexPositive Austin and led by its core volunteers.


Application Approval:

SPA Membership requires formal approval of an application. Our application procedure is outlined below. Applications are reviewed by a team of actual, real-life human beings, so please take the time to submit a thoughtful and thorough application and to allow the Membership team time to review it.

Applications that do not follow the guidelines outlined below may be rejected outright without further clarification.


(1) All applicants must be at least 21 years of age.

(2) Couples (and moresomes) must complete separate, individual applications, AND reference one another in each application.

(3) A reasonably recognizable face photo must be used:

-- no sunglasses, heavy filters, decent resolution, decent sizing, cropped to include only yourself

(4) Understand that your application will become your profile if you are approved:

-- profiles are visible to fellow SPA members

-- remember we are a private group so no one else can see it who is not a member


(6) Click the red “Join Us” button and complete your application.

Please know that due to the fact that it has always been safer for men to be out as sexual beings, we receive far more applications from single, cisgender, heterosexual males than we do from women and all other genders and orientations and relationship statuses combined. So, men, please be aware that although your application may have a higher probability of being declined, please do not let this stop you from applying if you are confident that you have much to CONTRIBUTE TO OUR COMMUNITY.


Vetting Process:

To create the safest possible culture, we have a level system that serves as a vetting process.

Level 1 Requirements:

None! Anyone can attend Level 1 events so please feel free to bring a friend or loved one.

Level 2 -4 You will learn about the requirements for this at Orientation

Level System:

To support the safety of the community and not expose individuals to things they aren't ready for or don't desire, we've developed a level system. Each event will be identified with a Level #, which equates to the maximum level of contact or sexuality that will be happening.

Level 1 is Social/Educational (workshops, classes, outings to wine bars, burlesque shows, plays, etc.)

Level 2 is Sensual (snuggle parties, group massage, sensation play: touch that is nurturing and affectionate)

Level 3 is Sexy (more arousing, teasing, exciting!)

Level 4 is Sexual (please note: we do not list these events on Meetup.com due to their rules!)

People tell us our level system is the thing they like the most about our group



Unlike some organizations, no one is allowed to make a living from this group, let alone a profit!

Most events will range from between $7 and $20, though some fundraiser events could be higher. To help keep it that way we have a very low membership fee of $25 per year, or you could opt to pay it forward and pay $50. You also have the option of a $5 per month dues. Dues start three months after joining.

Dues help pay for event spaces, buy needed equipment (chairs, snuggle mats, cushions, backjacks, coffee maker, cups, safer sex supplies, etc.) and sponsor members who cannot afford to pay for events.


Our Expectations of You:

You are expected be respectful of you own boundaries and those of others and of the host; to take care of yourself and others; keep you agreements. You must never do anything you don't want to do, nor to interact with anyone you don’t wish to. But we do expect you to contribute as an active participant through positive social interaction. Sex-positivity is about authentic, respectful, open communication, and being honest about your desires or lack thereof.



Thank you for taking the time to read about our community. If SPA sounds like a good fit for you, please continue your application by clicking the red “Join Us” button at the top of the page.

Also, as confirmation measure, we ask that all serious applicants who have read this far make sure to include the copy/pasting of the following sentence as the answer to the first question in the application:

“YES: I have read the Application Guidelines, and I am at least 21 years of age.”

Thank You!

We look forward to seeing you at an event soon!

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Workshop: How to Tell Sexy Stories (L1)

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Workshop: How to Tell Sexy Stories (L1)

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Performance: Tell Your Sexy Story! (L1)

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