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The Three C's: Care, Confidentiality and Consent

The Three C's: Care, Confidentiality & Consent

These are the fundaments on which our group is based. Without them, we would not be able to guarantee the safe space we want to hold for everyone inside our community to safely explore, discover, play, experiment, discuss, express, talk, share, ... the way we want to without hurting or endangering others.


Care:

Take care of yourself: be hygienic, especially for level 2+ events since there can be close contact. Groom and dress yourself the way you want to be perceived, and how you feel good about yourself.
Try to be as conscious as possible about your own needs, desires, boundaries, limits, maybe's, ... Think about these things before adventuring to one of our events.

Take care of your fellow explorers: If you see someone in need of caring attention, please consider checking in with this person or bring this to the attention of one of our care-facilitators or event hosts.
Don't judge others for their gender expression, age, body, cultural background, race, orientation, work, relationship style, ... This is also caring about others.

Confidentiality:
What happens in the group, stays in the group. Respect each others privacy. Not everyone is open about their affiliation with the term Sex-Positive, their orientation, gender expression, ... It's not up to you to share experiences or a coming out of someone else.
Of course you can talk about your own experiences, but never link those to recognisable features of someone else.

Same goes for online platforms. What's been shared in this group, or on our secret Facebook group, is not meant to be shared outside of it.

It's this confidentiality that provides us a safe space where we can truly be ourselves, or explore this part of ourselves that the 'outside world' might not let us. We expose ourselves and make ourselves vulnerable. Respect this.

Consent:
Consent is THE KEY to honest connection and the building of trust. Here are some critical points to take into account:


  • Consent is situation based: Getting consent at one event, doesn't mean you automatically have it on next event, or outside of the events.
  • Consent can be revoked at ANY time, even during an already consented activity. Check in with the person you're with if they seem not at ease.
  • Consent has to be CONSCIOUS: If you're so intoxicated/tired that it becomes dangerous to drive, then you can not give consent.
  • No means NO.
  • Maybe means No. There's always the option later
  • Yes should be hell YES!
  • A No should be received gracefully and with respect. This builds trust and makes you a nice person :)


Nonconsensual interaction will be called out and might be followed with removal from our group.


Thank you for contributing to our awesome Sex-Positive community!

Table of Contents

Page title Most recent update Last edited by
Privacy Policy January 3, 2019 11:43 PM anonymous
The Three C's: Care, Confidentiality and Consent February 4, 2016 8:37 PM anonymous
What Sex-Positivity Is — And Is Not May 9, 2015 7:25 PM anonymous
The SPB Bookshelf! (Educate yourself here!) November 15, 2018 7:07 PM anonymous
Member Acceptance Policy December 20, 2019 6:26 PM anonymous
Levels of Possibilities June 16, 2015 5:25 PM anonymous
Meetup Privacy Settings November 27, 2014 7:38 PM anonymous
Read Me First BEFORE Joining July 23, 2019 3:19 PM anonymous
About Sex-Positive Belgium November 27, 2014 6:26 PM anonymous

Brussels, Belgium

Founded Nov 16, 2014

Organizers:

Olivier D, David, Marian, PJ deepblue, Sébastien Rothan-Ledoux, Tamara Foubert
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