What we're about
Come learn, play, and grow with us! (APPLICATION GUIDELINES BELOW)
SexPositive Los Angeles (SPLA, Inc.) members plan and host events centered around understanding and exploring all aspects of human sexuality.
We are an inclusive and diverse community of volunteers comprised of different relationship styles, kinks, genders, and orientations – heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, pansexual, fluid, queer, transgender, queer, kinky, monogamists, polyamorists, and lovers of every age.
SPLA Membership requires formal approval of an application. Our application procedure is outlined below. Applications are reviewed by a team of actual, real-life human beings, so please take the time to submit a thoughtful and thorough application and to allow the Membership team time to review it.
Applications that do not follow the guidelines outlined below may be rejected outright without further clarification. IMPORTANT: Please review the note below concerning the 1,000 character limit in writing out your application answers.
TIP: If you are not fond of typing on a phone or tablet, please consider completing and submitting your application on a computer. THE QUALITY OF YOUR APPLICATION MATTERS!
APPLICATION GUIDELINES (7 steps)
(1) All applicants must be at least 21 years of age.
(2) Couples (and moresomes) must complete separate, individual applications, AND reference one another in each application.
(3) If an existing member has recommended you:
-- reference the existing member by both their actual name & Meetup name
-- have the existing member message the membership team about you
(4) A reasonably recognizable face photo must be used:
-- no sunglasses
-- no heavy filters
-- decent resolution
-- decent sizing
-- cropped to include only yourself
(5) Understand that your application will become your profile if you are approved:
-- profiles are visible to fellow SPLA members
-- remember we are a private group
-- What is the SPLA Level system? (https://www.meetup.com/Sex-Positive-LA/pages/19126249/Levels_Demystified/)
-- Care and Confidentiality (https://www.meetup.com/Sex-Positive-LA/pages/19240637/Care_and_Confidentiality_Commitment/)
-- What we look for in members (https://www.meetup.com/Sex-Positive-LA/pages/19172212/What_We_Look_For_in_Members/)
-- THE REST OF THIS PAGE!
(7) Click the red “Join Us” button and complete your application.
Please know that due to the fact that it has always been safer for men to be out as sexual beings, we receive far more applications from single, cisgender, heterosexual males than we do from women and all other genders and orientations and relationship statuses combined. So, men, please be aware that although your application may have a higher probability of being declined, please do not let this stop you from applying if you are confident that you have much to CONTRIBUTE TO OUR COMMUNITY.
What is Sex Positivity?
Sex positivity is a social movement and philosophy which regards all consensual expressions of sexuality as healthy, encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation, places an emphasis on informed consent and advocates sex education and risk-aware sex. Sex-positivity makes no moral distinctions among types of sexual expression, orientation, or identification, regarding these choices as matters of personal preference.
What does our group do?
SexPositive LA is an actual real-life community of open-minded, living, and breathing people who all serve as volunteers. We provide a chance to explore, learn, and grow in a safe, welcoming, and consensual environment. We believe that sexual energy is a powerful tool for transformation, healing, solidifying relationships, and building community, and we develop that energy by sharing ideas and experiences in both real world and virtual settings (Secret Facebook Groups, Reddit, and other Social Media.)
Our real world events include classes, discussion groups, workshops, socials, parties, festivals, and more. They range from member-hosted events (in homes, parks, restaurants, etc.), outings together such as burlesque shows, sex-positive theater, festivals, conventions, or visit a dungeon or club together, to signature events (facilitated events like our snuggles, couple/triads massages, and parties including our Crush! events) that are created by its core volunteers. We strive to keep events low cost (enough to cover expenses) and free when possible, but we sometimes do fundraisers, which cost a little more.
What is an Orientation?
Anyone can attend any Level 1 event that interests them, meaning you can invite friends and loved ones, however, if you wish to attend Level 2 or higher events you must successfully complete an Orientation and pay your annual dues. Orientation is a full-evening of activity that introduces our ideas and mission, explains how our group and events work, and includes some fun interactive exercises. The Orientations occur on the first Sunday of every month and sometimes in the middle of the month. Only those with an accepted application may attend an Orientation.
Events are coded Level 1 through 4. Again, please go onto the page called Levels Demystified (https://www.meetup.com/Sex-Positive-LA/pages/19240637/Care_and_Confidentiality_Commitment/)to learn all about our system. You are reading this page because you are following instructions, after all, so you will have already (or shall be shortly) visiting this Page. ;)
How Do I participate at Events?
At events (https://www.meetup.com/Sex-Positive-LA/pages/19240637/Care_and_Confidentiality_Commitment/)you are expected be respectful of the boundaries of others and of the event, to take care of yourself, and honor your boundaries and agreements. Beyond that, anything else is up to you. You will never be expected to do anything you don't want to do, nor to interact with anyone you don’t wish to. But we do expect you to contribute as an active participant through positive social interaction. Sex-positivity is about authentic, respectful, open communication, and being honest about your desires.
No Troll Policy
We are not a dating or hook-up group. We are a community. As such, we have a strict “no troll” policy. Please only direct message people you have first met in person!
READY TO APPLY?
Thank you for following our Application Guidelines and for taking the time to read about our community. If SPLA sounds like a good fit for you, please continue your application by clicking the red “Join Us” button at the top of the page. Please know that there is a 1,000 character limit in the MeetUp system for each answer you supply including spaces. If you provide more than 1,000 characters in any individual answer the MeetUp system will not accept your membership application.
Also, as confirmation measure, we ask that all serious applicants who have read this far make sure to include the copy/pasting of the following sentence as the answer to the first question in the application:
“YES: I have read the Application Guidelines, I am at least 21 years of age, and I am not a troll.”
We look forward to seeing you at an event soon!