• FREE Session Wholistic NVC: Observations (East Facet of Self)

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    Join us Monday Oct 3 for the first session of the series covering Observations, and how they're extended through the Wild Mind archetype of the Innocent/Sage/Trickster, windows of knowing and nature-based practices -- extending Nonviolent Communication with nature-based depth psychology by Bill Plotkin (Wild Mind - Field Guide to the Human Psyche) - so you can find the connected self you've always wanted.

    RSVP in Meetup to gain access to the Zoom link.

    Please arrive at 10:55 AM PDT; the room will be locked at 11:15 AM to contribute to the flow of participants that arrived on time.

    This FREE session will be recorded for registered participants.
    Please read PREREQUISITES. Click here to register for series.

    My Story

    After years of practicing NVC, identifying my feelings, connecting with my needs, I’d still find times when I behave in ways that don’t match my values -- when I was overcome with an intensity of feeling that overrode the “good compassionate” person I was trying to become.

    I discovered Bill Plotkin’s “Nature and the Human Soul” in 2012, where he lays out eight stages of maturity, and I came to realize that I needed more work for growing out of adolescence into adulthood. It wasn’t until I came across Wild Mind that I came to understand and value wholeness — how the human experience has at least 4 dimensions, and I was focusing mostly on my North — my Nurturing Generative Adult, the part of me that’s compassionate, acknowledges and accepts differences (including my own), and wants to contribute meaningfully to a better world. This is the part of me that practices Nonviolent Communication (NVC).

    Furthermore, I realized how diagnosing and healing areas of my life seemed pointless and never ending because my ego didn’t have a stable place to go. In reading, and in participating in Animas Valley's Wild Mind intensive in 2018, I began to grow into the cocoon of cultivating wholeness — how parts of my East (Innocent, Sage, Trickster), South (Wild Indigenous One), and West (Dark Muse Beloved) also needed attention. Without practices to support my growth, my sub-personalities, which cause much of the discord in my life, needed to be acknowledged, embraced, thanked, and promoted into retirement. My many wholeness practices give me richer life experiences, broaden and strengthen my sense of self, thereby allow me to make better choices.

    In short, I've been developing my NVC skills and participating in personal growth journeys with Animas Valley -- both of which have helped me to get out of my matrix-box of engineering to dedicate my life to contribute to a more compassionate world. I see an opportunity to exponentially impact the world by bringing these two paradigms together.

    My hypothesis is that NVC role plays with our various parts, as identified by the Wild Mind four facets of the self, will help us befriend our subpersonalities and contribute to wholeness -- discovering the connected self you always dreamed of. Would you join me in this grand experiment?

    Series Prerequisites

    • During the online session, you will be guided to identify and connect with different facets of yourself, and then engage with other participants from these facets.
    • You will need access to a wild or semi-wild area for nature-based practices each week, which happen outside of our Zoom group time. Participation in the series requires a commitment to also engage in the outdoor practices (minimum 1 hour each week).
    • This intermediate offering is for those who have some skill in NVC, you have read the book Nonviolent Communication, participated in NVC groups for at least 6 months and you are comfortable with the following:

    Required Skills

    • owning and taking responsibility for your inner experience
    • reliably distinguish between observations and evaluations
    • familiarity with feelings/needs

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  • NVC Practice Group (In-Person)

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    Join us in-person to practice Nonviolent Communication (NVC) by Marshall Rosenberg -- focusing our attention on co-creating a compassionate giving and receiving from the heart.

    This session will be facilitated by James Prieto, Certified NVC Trainer.

    Requesting $10-$20 per session to support the facilitator; no one turned away due to lack of funds.

  • A Taste of Connection Workshop Sat Jan 7, 2023 @11am PST (FREE, Online)

    Are you wanting...

    • to feel the joy of being heard, known, and understood?
    • fulfilling connections in reciprocal relationships?
    • to develop communication skills from the comfort of your home/office?

    Once you taste connection, you'll want more and you'll want to learn how to make your own.

    *** Click here to Register ***

    Join us for an immersion experience where you'll get a taste of connection as you develop your empathy and honesty skills.

    You will get a taste of the following:

    • to tap into your natural curiosity toward others
    • experience the joy of listening with empathy, contributing to others
    • learn basic empathy skills and universal needs awareness
    • you will meet new people and get to know them authentically
    • learn basic honest expression skills, expressing what's true for you in a way that builds trust and connection

    This is a FREE event; the main room will be recorded for marketing.

    *** Click here to Register ***

    You'll also be invited to a 10-weekly series starting on Mon 1/9/2023 at 11 PST to develop your own connection skills based on Nonviolent Communication:

  • Conversational Connection FREE Interactive Session (Zoom)

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    Would you like...

    • to feel the joy of being heard, known, and understood?
    • to have some ease in approaching challenging conversations?
    • fulfilling connections in reciprocal relationships?
    • to develop connection skills from the comfort of your home/office?

    Join us for FREE Session of the 10-week series on Conversational Connection skills through Nonviolent Communication (NVC).

    Click here to Register for Zoom information

    Dates: Mondays 1/9, 1/16, 1/23, 1/30, 2/6, 2/13, 2/20, 2/27, 3/6, 3/20 (10 weeks)

    Times: 11am to 12:30pm PST
    Optional: 12:30pm to 1 pm PST - additional discussion and questions
    Location: Zoom link provided with registration.

    *** Click Here to Register for Conversational Connection Skills 10-week series ***

    Zoom main room video recorded and available to registered participants through members-only webpage (breakout rooms not recorded).

    Testimonials:

    • "This class with James gave me practical skills to deal with challenging conversations in my personal and professional life. My favorite takeaway was self-empathy. Learning that I could apply NVC for myself was eye opening! I highly recommend taking this course with James!" Quionna Allen, Founder, Caldwell Allen Consulting
    • "Taking time to connect not only to my own self-empathy practice but to other's needs during conversations is an invaluable skill that I'm glad to be learning through the Conversational Connection Skills course. I'm extremely grateful for the modeling of NVC that James continuously and humbly exhibits along with his compassion and expertise in answering participants' needs and questions." Margaret Reed, Professional Actor
    • "I'm so grateful to have found a way to practice NVC online. After reading about NVC, I had no idea how to put it into practice. This 10-week Connection Skills course has provided a safe space to explore. James is an excellent guide on the path!" Leticia Adams, Creative Director

    Benefits of 10-week Series:

    • you will have more mastery and tools at your disposal for navigating conversations
    • interpersonal conversations will be easier and more satisfying
    • the people you interact with will enjoy being heard and understood
    • expressing yourself authentically will become more comfortable
    • you will meet new people, and get to know them more deeply
    • you will experience a natural curiosity toward others
    • you will develop compassion toward others as you acknowledge everyone's needs
    • experience more trust and the joy of connection

    About the 10-week Series:

    We meet as a group once a week for 1.5 hours. Sessions start with breakout rooms for a check-in. After re-connecting in the larger group, we'll dive into various NVC practices -- through structured and experiential learning practices.

    • Presentation slide PDF provided for sessions
    • Sessions are recorded for registered participants through a webpage
    • All registered participants will practice independently with others through a rotating buddy system (1 or 2 calls per week for 30 minutes)

    Learning Objectives - In this series, you will learn and practice how to

    • prepare for challenging conversations
    • get clear on what you really want, how you feel about it and why
    • get consent for a conversation
    • express yourself fully to maximize connection
    • listen to the heart of what others are expressing
    • make clear, doable, present requests with an openness to outcome
    • use requests to support a flow of connection
    • Observations vs. Evaluations
    • Needs vs. Strategies
    • Developing Feelings/Needs literacy
    • Empathic Listening
    • Feelings vs. Thoughts vs. Blaming
    • Self-Empathy
    • Responses to hard-to-hear messages
    • Compassionate Honesty
    • Requests vs. Demands
    • Flow of Connection
    • Expressing Appreciation

  • Transform Trigger-Bullets into Bouquets (Free, Online)

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    • Would you like more self-control and ease in challenging situations?
    • Are you tired of reacting to imaginary bullets coming at you?
    • Do you want skills for getting back to fullness after being triggered?

    Join us for a Free interactive workshop introducing self-empathy from Nonviolent Communication (NVC) applied to triggered situations. Unlike many online offerings, this is interactive in real-time; bring your mild triggers to start your journey to freedom.

    *** Click here to Register ***

    Series Participant Comments:

    • "How empowering and engaging the program was even on zoom and how much personal impact can happen in ten weeks"
    • "This is a highly effective approach to bringing about positive change at the the inner most level."
    • "If you want to understand why conversations and relationships don't go the way you think they should go or how you want them to, you will gain tremendous insight in deeply understanding why and the tools for progressing furthering."
    • " I would encourage them to take the series because it is a great introduction to NVC, well organized, provides good practice time and empathy buddy practice and James is a clear, skilled and caring trainer!"

    Not long ago, I used to get triggered often -- i.e. means that something set me off to react automatically. One day at lunch with colleagues, someone said something I didn't like and I responded in ways that I now regret; I'm embarrassed to think back to how that may have triggered them. I'm now surprised at how quickly I reacted without thought to the consequences.

    Today, I have tools to stay calm most of the time, and to choose how to respond in difficult situations.

    In this workshop you will be guided to:

    • pick a real-life triggered scenario (intensity less than 4 out of 10)
    • go deeper into the trigger to identify beliefs and judgments
    • get clear with what actually happened
    • identify universal human needs that weren't met
    • mourn those needs that weren't met
    • celebrate the inherent value of your needs

    With practice, the skills that you will learn in this workshop will help you in every area of your life: at work, as a teammate, a family member, in relationships, etc.

    Note: This is a free event -- the main online room will be recorded through Zoom.

    At the end, you will be invited to join a 10-weekly series of 1.5 hr. sessions starting on Wed 10/20 at 12pm PDT (First Session FREE)

    *** Register here for FREE First Series Session Wed Jan 25, 2023 ***

    *** Register for "Free Yourself from Reactivity: 10-week journey to fullness, authenticity and congruence" ***

    About the facilitator: Hi, I'm James Prieto. I enjoy facilitating dynamic interactive workshops with experiential learning. I blend structure along with organic back and forth covering the material using improv. I've been practicing NVC since 2002, and have been facilitating NVC since 2005. I received NVC trainer certification from the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) in 2014, which took about 3 years to complete. I've had over 100 days training with experienced teachers Marshall Rosenberg (creator of NVC), Mary Mackenzie, Robert Gonzales, Jim & Jori Manske, Roxy Manning and others as part of my growth journey. NVC is my passion and way of life. I'm dedicated full time to bringing NVC to individuals and organizations in Silicon Valley and online. For more information on my offerings, go to CompassionateConnecting.com

  • Free Yourself From Reactivity Series Wed Jan 25, 2023 (Free, Online)

    Needs a location

    • Would you like more self-control and ease in challenging situations?
    • Are you tired of reacting to imaginary bullets coming at you?
    • Do you want skills for getting back to fullness after being triggered?

    Join us for this FREE first session of a 10-week series. In this session, we will lay the foundation for the series, exploring our embodied feelings, and diving into self-empathy from Nonviolent Communication (NVC). Unlike many online offerings, this is interactive in real-time.

    *** Click Here to Register ***

    Note: This is a free event -- the main online room will be recorded through Zoom.

    Series Participant Comments:

    • James is a skillful online facilitator who was able to translate complex ideas into digestible lessons for weekly practice. (March 2021)
    • "This course helped me find freedom. I don't feel tortured by other peoples' words and actions. Now it's apparent to me that they were trying to get their needs met, even if they didn't use an effective strategy. " (March 2021)
    • Taking the class has been a huge step in my journey toward a more mindful, less reactive interaction with the world." (March 2021)
    • "How empowering and engaging the program was even on zoom and how much personal impact can happen in ten weeks" (Nov 2020)
    • "This is a highly effective approach to bringing about positive change at the the inner most level." (Nov 2020)
    • "If you want to understand why conversations and relationships don't go the way you think they should go or how you want them to, you will gain tremendous insight in deeply understanding why and the tools for progressing furthering." (Nov 2020)
    • "We worked progressively through understanding and experiencing processes that brought us into a deeper space of recognition around empathy, reflection and reactivity. The building of layers of practice really anchored and gave this 10 week series a chance to be a substantial ground for understanding myself and others in my life!" (Nov 2020)

    Not long ago, I used to get triggered often -- i.e. means that something set me off to react automatically. One day at lunch with colleagues, someone said something I didn't like and I responded in ways that I now regret; I'm embarrassed to think back to how that may have triggered them. I'm now surprised at how quickly I reacted without thought to the consequences.

    Today, I have tools to stay calm most of the time, and to choose how to respond in difficult situations.

    With practice, the skills that you will learn in this workshop will help you in every area of your life: at work, as a teammate, a family member, in relationships, etc.

    At the end, you will be invited to register for the 10-weekly series of 1.5 hr. sessions starting on Wednesday Jan 25 at 11am PST.

    *** Click here to Register for series ***

    About the facilitator: Hi, I'm James Prieto. I enjoy facilitating dynamic interactive workshops with experiential learning. I blend structure along with organic back and forth covering the material using improv. I'm Certified as an NVC Trainer, Agile Coach, author, engineer, lover of nature helping professionals communicate to connect through workshops, coaching and business consulting.

    After discovering NVC in 2002, James began his interpersonal growth journey, and began facilitating NVC workshops and groups in 2005. After attending his first intensive training with Marshall Rosenberg in 2007, he was inspired to pursue his NVC trainer certification from the Center for Nonviolent Communication, which he completed in 2014. His NVC practice is also inspired by several trainers including Mary Mackenzie, Jim & Jori Manske, Robert Gonzales, Kelly Bryson and others.