What we're about

Please join our Polyamory Meetup to meet other supporters of multi-partner relationships and families. Talk about open relationships, polyfidelity, polyamory, honesty, respect and alternate forms of commitment. Typical topics discussed are family structure, children, conflict resolution, communication, compersion, jealousy avoidance, how the lifestyle works, and what doesn't work, adding new partners, and many others. You do not need to identify as polyamorous to join us, all we ask is that you keep an open mind.

This meetup group is family friendly and children are almost always present at our meetups. We are not listed as an adult only group. Please note that the TOS for meetup does not allow nudity or sexual activity in your profile pictures.

Do NOT send unsolicited messages to members in the group. Doing so will mean an instant ban. If you meet at a meetup and get permission to message someone, that is ok. This is a SAFE space, do NOT use this medium to try and "pick up" anyone. Do not send sexual messages to members or give/ask for phone numbers/email addresses via the meetup app. All communication between members should be done at a meetup until both (or more) individuals feel safe with contact outside of meetup.

Because this is a family meetup, it is important to please keep your profile pictures pg-13, not only to comply with meetup's TOS, but also because there may be individuals who are under 18 looking at the site. Thank you for understanding.

If you would like to join this Meetup, Please fill out ALL THE PROFILE QUESTIONS - We screen members who wish to join. If you do not fill out ALL the questions, your membership WILL BE DENIED.

We use these questions to make sure that those who join have at least read the information on the about us page (click here or on "pages" above (http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/about/)) and are serious about wanting to know more about the lifestyle. The questions also serve to let the other members know what your "model" of a poly relationship would look like.Yes, this means your answers to the questions will be visible to the rest of the group. It is of benefit to both the group and to yourselves to answer these questions honestly. REMEMBER, if you do not fill out ALL THE PROFILE QUESTIONS, your membership WILL BE DENIED.

Please check out our "ABOUT US" page (click here or on "pages" above (http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/about/)). The links on there will give you an idea what Polyamory is all about (they are also posted below).

Many members here are on OKCupid (http://www.okcupid.com/signup?friend=LadyLilithDreams) ( (http://www.okcupid.com/signup?friend=LadyLilithDreams) http://www.okcupid.com ), it's FREE!!

Anyone interested in attending is welcome! We ask for a $2 donation at the meetup to help cover the expense of running them (meetup charges the organizers, not the members), but no one is ever turned away for an inability to contribute. We welcome all poly and poly friendly individuals, groups and families. We also encourage those who are curious about the lifestyle to attend our meetups. We generally have between 35 and 50 people who show up at our main meetup at the beginning of each month.
Our main event is held in Burbank on the 1st Saturday of the month (FREE, but a $2 donation is requested). Our second event is held Near Canoga Park on the 3rd Saturday of the month. This event is a Live the Dream ( http://www.livethedream.org ) event, Organized by Terry Brussel. We also share our events with the Loving More Meetup group (http://www.meetup.com/loving-more/) with Tom, Angel and Eddie who hold a couple of pool parties a year. If you would like to organize an event, please let me know the specifics and I will add you as an event coordinator. I no longer allow my members to suggest meetups because of an abuse of this feature.
Please remember that this group is based on the premise of encouraging successful relationships of all kinds. To this end, open and honest communication, respect and tolerance of our individual beliefs and philosophies are of paramount importance. We may not always agree with one another, but we still need to respect each other. We are not here to change one another's beliefs, perceptions or expressions of those beliefs, we are here to support one another and possibly learn something in the process of getting to know one another. Along this vein, please note that we are not responsible for what others put on their profiles. If you see something you do not like, simply do not go to that profile. We do however ask that you comply with Meetup's TOS. This is a public forum, and while we do our best to pre-screen members, always follow the rules of internet safety (click here) (http://psychcentral.com/online_dating/safety.html) and screen people yourself. ( http://psychcentral.com/online_dating/safety.html )
***MEMBERS*** Please RSVP every month. Even if you RSVP "NO", it allows me to see who is active on the board. I will be purging inactive members after 6 months of inactivity. ***THANK YOU***
Here are some articles you might find of interest, especially if you are new to the world of Polyamory

Polyamory
What is Polyamory? (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Polyamory/%20)
Benefits of Polyamory (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/The_Benefits_of_a_Polyamorous_Relationship/)
Polyamory - What it is (Part 1) (http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Polyamory_-_What_it_is_%28Part_1%29/?name=Polyamory_-_What_it_is_%28Part_1%29)
Polyamory - What it isn't (Part 2) (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Polyamory_-_What_it_isn%27t_%28Part_2%29/)
Polyamory Language (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Polyamory_Language/)

Open Relationship Styles
Models Of Open Relationships (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Models_Of_Open_Relationships/) - Excellent Article

Polyamory and Children
Thinking About Children (http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Thinking_about_Children/)
Raising Kids Poly - An Eye Opening Experience (http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Raising_Kids_Poly_-_an_eye_opening_experience/)
But What About The Children? (http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/But_What_About_The_Children%3F/)

Dealing with Jealousy
Compersion and Polyamory (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Compersion__and_Polyamory/)
Thoughts on Jealousy (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Thoughts_on_Jealousy/)
A crazy little thing called.....Compersion

Poly/Mono Relationship Dynamics
Polyamory for the Monogamous (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Polyamory_for_the_Monogamous/)
My lover just told me he or she wants other lovers (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/My_lover_just_told_me_he_or_she_wants_other_lovers/) - Excellent Article
Bridging the Divide (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Bridging_the_Divide/)
Coming Clean (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Coming_Clean/)

Cohabitation and Dating Safety
Questionaire for Cohabitation (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Questionnaire_for_Cohabitation/)
Tips for Online Dating Safety (http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Tips_for_Safe_Online_Dating/)

Sexual Health
Condom Compact (http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Condom_Compact/)

Books
Books on Polyamory (http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Books_on_Polyamory/)

Poly Friendly Professionals
Poly Friendly Professionals (http://www.polychromatic.com/pfp/)

Live the Dream Articles
Click here for Live the Dream Articles (http://www.livethedream.org/articles.php)

Off Site Articles
Never Do This: Poly Mistakes (http://www.xeromag.com/fvpolymistakes.html)

If you know of any poly events in the LA area, please do not hesitate to leave a message on the boards, or contact one of the organizers..

Deborah

Upcoming events (5)

The Ethical Slut (Book) Club - Chapter 16 Embracing Conflict

Come virtually join us for a series of online Sex Positive 805 book club discussions. The first book will be exploring is “The Ethical Slut” by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton. The Ethical Slut is considered a "Bible" and practical guide to polyamory. You can purchase and download it on Amazon in a variety of formats. If you are not able to find this book or afford it, please contact us at [masked] for assistance. Please note that the second edition has less chapters than the current third edition. BE PREPARED: Please read the Chapter to be prepared for this meetup. (or not, we want you!) “The Ethical Slut is a classic, a book that helped launch the modern non-monogamy movement. Updating a book of such historical significance is no easy task, but The Ethical Slut, Third Edition succeeds beautifully. Where the original broke radical new ground, this edition is more nuanced, a book for a more complex age. In the third edition, we see the wide variety of forms ethical non-monogamy, and indeed human sexual relationships, can take. This new version brings a new focus on consent, talks about the many wonderful and varied ways ethical non-monogamy happens, and shows an appreciation for the vast range of human sexuality. This is The Ethical Slut for a new era, and cements the book’s place as one of the cornerstones of modern non-monogamous thought.” —Franklin Veaux, More Than Two: A practical guide to ethical polyamory WHERE TO FIND US: www.givenconsent.org/sign-up Do I need to read the book and show up *every* week to join? NO! Jump in and out at your own pace! This is an OPEN GROUP, please just show up! About the Author: Janet W. Hardy is the author of more than ten books and the founder of Greenery Press, a now defunct publisher specializing in sexually adventurous books. She has an MFA in creative writing from St. Mary's College, and swore off monogamy in 1987. Dossie Easton is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in alternative sexualities and relationships, with twenty years of experience counseling open relationships. She is the author of four other books, and has been an ethical slut since 1969. PM Jamie with Questions

Zoom with us! Long Term Poly Relationships+Group Living in Furry Fandom 7-18-30

Saturday July 18, 2020 By Zoom 11-12:30 Long Term Poly Relationships+Group Living in Furry Fandom Join Zoom Meeting https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83799832622?pwd=Mm4zeXI2cVZkSEhmKzcrU3Q1T0huUT09 Meeting ID:[masked] Password: heinlein1 This meeting is about relationships in furry Science Fiction/Fantasy Fandom. Mark Merlino and Rodney O’Riley, our presenters, have been life partners for 35 years. Two of their significant others who met them through Furry oriented role playing on line share the house with them at present and others have been in and out over the years, some of them as members of their intimate network from all over the country. Mark and Rodney are the founders of Furry Fandom connected with it since 1985. They hosted the annual ConFurence for many years and their monthly Furry Parties are still going strong at their Prancing Skiltaire home on second Saturday evenings of each month. Many Furry fans identify with particular animals (fantasy or real) as their own alternate identities. It also involves romantic/erotic Science Fiction and Art picturing sentient animals from big cats and wolves to hawks and reptiles who may be fantasy or extraterrestrial in origin. They will show us some of this art as well as discussing how they have kept an open committed relationship as well as a group house together for 35 years!

The Ethical Slut (Book) Club - Chapter 17 Making Agreements

Come virtually join us for a series of online Sex Positive 805 book club discussions. The first book will be exploring is “The Ethical Slut” by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton. The Ethical Slut is considered a "Bible" and practical guide to polyamory. You can purchase and download it on Amazon in a variety of formats. If you are not able to find this book or afford it, please contact us at [masked] for assistance. Please note that the second edition has less chapters than the current third edition. BE PREPARED: Please read the Chapter to be prepared for this meetup. (or not, we want you!) “The Ethical Slut is a classic, a book that helped launch the modern non-monogamy movement. Updating a book of such historical significance is no easy task, but The Ethical Slut, Third Edition succeeds beautifully. Where the original broke radical new ground, this edition is more nuanced, a book for a more complex age. In the third edition, we see the wide variety of forms ethical non-monogamy, and indeed human sexual relationships, can take. This new version brings a new focus on consent, talks about the many wonderful and varied ways ethical non-monogamy happens, and shows an appreciation for the vast range of human sexuality. This is The Ethical Slut for a new era, and cements the book’s place as one of the cornerstones of modern non-monogamous thought.” —Franklin Veaux, More Than Two: A practical guide to ethical polyamory WHERE TO FIND US: www.givenconsent.org/sign-up Do I need to read the book and show up *every* week to join? NO! Jump in and out at your own pace! This is an OPEN GROUP, please just show up! About the Author: Janet W. Hardy is the author of more than ten books and the founder of Greenery Press, a now defunct publisher specializing in sexually adventurous books. She has an MFA in creative writing from St. Mary's College, and swore off monogamy in 1987. Dossie Easton is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in alternative sexualities and relationships, with twenty years of experience counseling open relationships. She is the author of four other books, and has been an ethical slut since 1969. PM Jamie with Questions

CANCELLED-Live the Dream

8515 Penfield Ave

Always 3rd Saturday 11 am Poly themed discussion 1 pm Pot luck lunch. Bring something healthy and delicious to share 2 pm Socializing in clothing optional hot tub. Bring Towel and sandals For more info see livethedream.org or call[masked]

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