What we're about

Please join our Polyamory Meetup to meet other supporters of multi-partner relationships and families. Talk about open relationships, polyfidelity, polyamory, honesty, respect and alternate forms of commitment. Typical topics discussed are family structure, children, conflict resolution, communication, compersion, jealousy avoidance, how the lifestyle works, and what doesn't work, adding new partners, and many others. You do not need to identify as polyamorous to join us, all we ask is that you keep an open mind.

This meetup group is family friendly and children are almost always present at our meetups. We are not listed as an adult only group. Please note that the TOS for meetup does not allow nudity or sexual activity in your profile pictures.

Do NOT send unsolicited messages to members in the group. Doing so will mean an instant ban. If you meet at a meetup and get permission to message someone, that is ok. This is a SAFE space, do NOT use this medium to try and "pick up" anyone. Do not send sexual messages to members or give/ask for phone numbers/email addresses via the meetup app. All communication between members should be done at a meetup until both (or more) individuals feel safe with contact outside of meetup.

Because this is a family meetup, it is important to please keep your profile pictures pg-13, not only to comply with meetup's TOS, but also because there may be individuals who are under 18 looking at the site. Thank you for understanding.

If you would like to join this Meetup, Please fill out ALL THE PROFILE QUESTIONS - We screen members who wish to join. If you do not fill out ALL the questions, your membership WILL BE DENIED.

We use these questions to make sure that those who join have at least read the information on the about us page (click here or on "pages" above (https://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/about/)) and are serious about wanting to know more about the lifestyle. The questions also serve to let the other members know what your "model" of a poly relationship would look like.Yes, this means your answers to the questions will be visible to the rest of the group. It is of benefit to both the group and to yourselves to answer these questions honestly. REMEMBER, if you do not fill out ALL THE PROFILE QUESTIONS, your membership WILL BE DENIED.

Please check out our "ABOUT US" page (click here or on "pages" above (https://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/about/)). The links on there will give you an idea what Polyamory is all about (they are also posted below).

Anyone interested in attending is welcome! We ask for a $2 donation at the meetup to help cover the expense of running them (meetup charges the organizers, not the members), but no one is ever turned away for an inability to contribute. We welcome all poly and poly friendly individuals, groups and families. We also encourage those who are curious about the lifestyle to attend our meetups. We generally have between 15 and 50 people who show up at our main meetup at the beginning of each month.

Our main event is held in Burbank on the 1st Saturday of the month (FREE, but a $2 donation is requested). Our second event is held Near Canoga Park on the 3rd Saturday of the month. This event is a Live the Dream ( http://www.livethedream.org ) event, Organized by Terry Brussel.

If you would like to organize an event, please let me know the specifics and I will add you as an event coordinator. I no longer allow my members to suggest meetups because of an abuse of this feature.

Please remember that this group is based on the premise of encouraging successful relationships of all kinds. To this end, open and honest communication, respect and tolerance of our individual beliefs and philosophies are of paramount importance. We may not always agree with one another, but we still need to respect each other. We are not here to change one another's beliefs, perceptions or expressions of those beliefs, we are here to support one another and possibly learn something in the process of getting to know one another. Along this vein, please note that we are not responsible for what others put on their profiles. If you see something you do not like, simply do not go to that profile. We do however ask that you comply with Meetup's TOS. This is a public forum, and while we do our best to pre-screen members, always follow the rules of internet safety (click here) (http://psychcentral.com/online_dating/safety.html) and screen people yourself. ( http://psychcentral.com/online_dating/safety.html )

***MEMBERS*** Please RSVP every month. Even if you RSVP "NO", it allows me to see who is active on the board. I will be purging inactive members after 6 months of inactivity. ***THANK YOU***

Here are some articles you might find of interest, especially if you are new to the world of Polyamory

Polyamory
What is Polyamory? (https://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Polyamory/%20)
Benefits of Polyamory (https://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/The_Benefits_of_a_Polyamorous_Relationship/)
Polyamory - What it is (Part 1) (https://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Polyamory_-_What_it_is_%28Part_1%29/?name=Polyamory_-_What_it_is_%28Part_1%29)
Polyamory - What it isn't (Part 2) (https://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Polyamory_-_What_it_isn%27t_%28Part_2%29/)
Polyamory Language (https://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Polyamory_Language/)

Open Relationship Styles
Models Of Open Relationships (https://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Models_Of_Open_Relationships/) - Excellent Article

Polyamory and Children
Thinking About Children (https://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Thinking_about_Children/)
Raising Kids Poly - An Eye Opening Experience (https://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Raising_Kids_Poly_-_an_eye_opening_experience/)
But What About The Children? (https://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/But_What_About_The_Children%3F/)

Dealing with Jealousy
Compersion and Polyamory (https://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Compersion__and_Polyamory/)
Thoughts on Jealousy (https://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Thoughts_on_Jealousy/)
A crazy little thing called.....Compersion

Poly/Mono Relationship Dynamics
Polyamory for the Monogamous (https://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Polyamory_for_the_Monogamous/)
My lover just told me he or she wants other lovers (https://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/My_lover_just_told_me_he_or_she_wants_other_lovers/) - Excellent Article
Bridging the Divide (https://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Bridging_the_Divide/)
Coming Clean (https://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Coming_Clean/)

Cohabitation and Dating Safety
Questionaire for Cohabitation (https://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Questionnaire_for_Cohabitation/)
Tips for Online Dating Safety (https://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Tips_for_Safe_Online_Dating/)

Sexual Health
Condom Compact (https://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Condom_Compact/)

Books
Books on Polyamory (https://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Books_on_Polyamory/)

Poly Friendly Professionals
Poly Friendly Professionals (http://www.polychromatic.com/pfp/)

Live the Dream Articles
Click here for Live the Dream Articles (http://www.livethedream.org/articles.php)

Off Site Articles
Never Do This: Poly Mistakes (http://www.xeromag.com/fvpolymistakes.html)

If you know of any poly events in the LA area, please do not hesitate to leave a message on the boards, or contact one of the organizers..

Deborah

Upcoming events (4+)

EVERY 3RD SATURDAY 11 AM TO 12:30 PM

8515 Penfield Ave

Always 3rd Saturday
11 am Poly themed discussion
For more info see livethedream.org or call[masked]

Saturday October 16 Live 11am-4pm Spider Robinson’s Poly Primers

Live meeting--Show proof of vaccination.
8515 Penfield Ave. Winnetka, Ca. 91306
RSVP or call for more info[masked] or visit www.livethedream.org
Join Zoom Meeting 11 am to 1 pm
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/3175971626?pwd=NWVjU3A2M0I2Q29IUkI4L1lMRzd2QT09
Meeting ID:[masked] Passcode: Heinlein

Saturday October 16 Live 11am to 4pm (Zoom portion 11am-12:30pm PDT)
Spider Robinson’s Poly Primers

For those attending Live: Ladies free with pot luck dish to share—same price as gentlemen otherwise. Gentlemen (pot luck dish appreciated): Paid members of Live the Dream: $5 . Non-Members: $10 events.

Callahan’s Crosstime Saloon introduces a group of who support each other in handling their problems and celebrating their joys. In this and later books they go beyond this to actual group telepathic communication. In Callahan’s Keys they show their commitment to each other by all moving out-of- state together when local laws and the abuse of them prevented them from meeting together where they were. According to Spider’s biographical material, many of the metaphysical as well as the group related experiences come from his real-life ones with his expanded family and close friends during the ‘60 s in Haight Ashbury.

The Lady Callahan books are definitely Poly as committed couples share their partners’ with customers of this high class brothel/ international diplomacy center. The “artists” who work there have relationships with the Lady herself, other artists (some of which include legal marriage), etc. Lady Callahan’s place could itself be considered a group house since the artists and some of their partners actually do live there. Spider’s Star Dance series features very unusually configured group marriages— combining extra-terrestrials with humans, gays with straights who share mental “intercourse” etc. Eventually his proposed intentional Family includes the whole human race, past, present and future. Spider has written many other stories with incidental poly themes in fictional (?) worlds where it is assumed any choice of whom and how many you love is OK. He has been called the new Heinlein by many. How can we use this information in our own group living and multiple committed relationship efforts?
1 PM Pot Luck lunch—bring something healthy and delicious to share
2-4 Socializing in clothing optional Hot tub

EVERY 3RD SATURDAY 11 AM TO 12:30 PM

8515 Penfield Ave

Always 3rd Saturday
11 am Poly themed discussion
For more info see livethedream.org or call[masked]

EVERY 3RD SATURDAY 11 AM TO 12:30 PM

8515 Penfield Ave

Always 3rd Saturday
11 am Poly themed discussion
For more info see livethedream.org or call[masked]

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EVERY 3RD SATURDAY 11 AM TO 12:30 PM

8515 Penfield Ave

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