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Live the Dream November event: POLY and BI Discussion + Bed Warming Party
Saturday November 17 11 -4 POLY and BI Discussion + Bed Warming Party Are you bi or bi curious or have a partner who is? Are you a male who has fantasies of making love with two delightful ladies who are also into each other? Surprise—some ladies have fantasies like that about two men. There is a whole fan fiction genre called Slash devoted to it. Kirk/Spock is the biggest one of these that I know of—and my personal favorite. The stories move from first romance when they met on the Enterprise to their 25th wedding anniversary with Spock’s parents solemnly sharing the occasion. A few of these stories offer us triads with Uhura, Nurse Chapel or even McCoy. Chewbacca/Solo also have their…adventures. In the real world, (whatever that is) bisexuality has been getting more and more common in both poly and swinging communities. People used to say at Lifestyles (a yearly swing convention put on by Wide World) that Swinger were 100% bi—99% of the women and 1% of the men. As more men join Bi pride, they no longer make that claim. Perhaps you have always known you were bi or have even had a same sex lover, but have been embarrassed to discuss it with your straight partner. If you are single and looking, should you mention your bisexuality in a personal ad or on a first date? What happens if you mention it in an on-line profile on a dating site? Does being Bi really double your chances of a date on Saturday night? Have you ever considered a family consisting of a triad with two bi men and a lady who wants kids? Or two couples who are all bi? If you are Poly, being bi sensual or at least comfortable with touching another man may make more sense than discomfort with hugging your wife’s lover. It may be difficult to avoid touching him when he joins you and your wife in bed. If you are bi, polyamory makes more sense than monogamy for many reasons. You can have your cake and eat it, too… We’ll discuss all of this and whatever YOUR particular questions are. Pot luck lunch 1 pm Afternoon Event 2-4 Appropo of Bi and Poly… How Big is Your Bed? Come see our brand new 8’6” wide by 6’6” long head and foot adjustable, massage bed being delivered on November 9th! We may try to figure out just how many can fit in this bed…volunteers?

LIVE THE DREAM

8515 Penfield Ave · Winnetka, CA

What we're about

Please join our Polyamory Meetup to meet other supporters of multi-partner relationships and families. Talk about open relationships, polyfidelity, polyamory, honesty, respect and alternate forms of commitment. Typical topics discussed are family structure, children, conflict resolution, communication, compersion, jealousy avoidance, how the lifestyle works, and what doesn't work, adding new partners, and many others. You do not need to identify as polyamorous to join us, all we ask is that you keep an open mind.

This meetup group is family friendly and children are almost always present at our meetups. We are not listed as an adult only group. Please note that the TOS for meetup does not allow nudity or sexual activity in your profile pictures. Because this is a family meetup, it is important to please keep your profile pictures pg-13, not only to comply with meetup's TOS, but also because there may be individuals who are under 18 looking at the site. Thank you for understanding.

If you would like to join this Meetup, Please fill out ALL THE PROFILE QUESTIONS - We screen members who wish to join. If you do not fill out ALL the questions, your membership WILL BE DENIED.

We use these questions to make sure that those who join have at least read the information on the about us page (click here or on "pages" above (
http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/about/)) and are serious about wanting to know more about the lifestyle. The questions also serve to let the other members know what your "model" of a poly relationship would look like.Yes, this means your answers to the questions will be visible to the rest of the group. It is of benefit to both the group and to yourselves to answer these questions honestly. REMEMBER, if you do not fill out ALL THE PROFILE QUESTIONS, your membership WILL BE DENIED.

Please check out our "ABOUT US" page (click here or on "pages" above (http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/about/)). The links on there will give you an idea what Polyamory is all about (they are also posted below).

Many members here are on OKCupid (http://www.okcupid.com/signup?friend=LadyLilithDreams) ( http://www.okcupid.com ), it's FREE!!

Anyone interested in attending is welcome! We ask for a $2 donation at the meetup to help cover the expense of running them (meetup charges the organizers, not the members), but no one is ever turned away for an inability to contribute. We welcome all poly and poly friendly individuals, groups and families. We also encourage those who are curious about the lifestyle to attend our meetups. We generally have between 35 and 50 people who show up at our main meetup at the beginning of each month.

Our main event is held in Burbank on the 1st Saturday of the month (FREE, but a $2 donation is requested) at Fuddrucker's restaurant, Organized by Deborah and Brad. Our second event is held Near Canoga Park on the 3rd Saturday of the month. This event is a Live the Dream ( http://www.livethedream.org ) event, Organized by Terry Brussel. We also share our events with the Loving More Meetup group (http://www.meetup.com/loving-more/) with Tom, Angel and Eddie who hold a couple of pool parties a year. If you would like to organize an event, please let me know the specifics and I will add you as an event coordinator. I no longer allow my members to suggest meetups because of an abuse of this feature.

Please remember that this group is based on the premise of encouraging successful relationships of all kinds. To this end, open and honest communication, respect and tolerance of our individual beliefs and philosophies are of paramount importance. We may not always agree with one another, but we still need to respect each other. We are not here to change one another's beliefs, perceptions or expressions of those beliefs, we are here to support one another and possibly learn something in the process of getting to know one another. Along this vein, please note that we are not responsible for what others put on their profiles. If you see something you do not like, simply do not go to that profile. We do however ask that you comply with Meetup's TOS. This is a public forum, and while we do our best to pre-screen members, always follow the rules of internet safety (click here) (http://psychcentral.com/online_dating/safety.html) and screen people yourself. ( http://psychcentral.com/online_dating/safety.html )

***MEMBERS*** Please RSVP every month. Even if you RSVP "NO", it allows me to see who is active on the board. I will be purging inactive members after 6 months of inactivity. ***THANK YOU***

Here are some articles you might find of interest, especially if you are new to the world of Polyamory

Polyamory
What is Polyamory?
Benefits of Polyamory (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/The_Benefits_of_a_Polyamorous_Relationship/)
Polyamory - What it is (Part 1) (http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Polyamory_-_What_it_is_%28Part_1%29/?name=Polyamory_-_What_it_is_%28Part_1%29)
Polyamory - What it isn't (Part 2) (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Polyamory_-_What_it_isn%27t_%28Part_2%29/)
Polyamory Language (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Polyamory_Language/)

Open Relationship Styles
Models Of Open Relationships (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Models_Of_Open_Relationships/) - Excellent Article

Polyamory and Children
Thinking About Children (http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Thinking_about_Children/)
Raising Kids Poly - An Eye Opening Experience (http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Raising_Kids_Poly_-_an_eye_opening_experience/)
But What About The Children? (http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/But_What_About_The_Children%3F/)

Dealing with Jealousy
Compersion and Polyamory (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Compersion__and_Polyamory/)
Thoughts on Jealousy (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Thoughts_on_Jealousy/)
A crazy little thing called.....Compersion (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/A_crazy_little_thing_called.....Compersion/)

Poly/Mono Relationship Dynamics
Polyamory for the Monogamous (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Polyamory_for_the_Monogamous/)
My lover just told me he or she wants other lovers (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/My_lover_just_told_me_he_or_she_wants_other_lovers/) - Excellent Article
Bridging the Divide (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Bridging_the_Divide/)
Coming Clean (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Coming_Clean/)

Cohabitation and Dating Safety
Questionaire for Cohabitation (http://polyamory.meetup.com/393/pages/Questionnaire_for_Cohabitation/)
Tips for Online Dating Safety (http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Tips_for_Safe_Online_Dating/)

Sexual Health
Condom Compact (http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Condom_Compact/)

Books
Books on Polyamory (http://www.meetup.com/SoCal-Polyamory/pages/Books_on_Polyamory/)

Poly Friendly Professionals
Poly Friendly Professionals (http://www.polychromatic.com/pfp/)

Live the Dream Articles
Click here for Live the Dream Articles (http://www.livethedream.org/articles.php)

Off Site Articles
Never Do This: Poly Mistakes (http://www.xeromag.com/fvpolymistakes.html)

If you know of any poly events in the LA area, please do not hesitate to leave a message on the boards, or contact one of the organizers..

Deborah

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