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Welcome to Starting Over!

Divorce is one of the most stressful events that can happen to a human being. In our culture we rush to put a lid on emotions and the natural process that needs to happen to move forward successfully and freely. But you can't skip emotional steps! Just burying the feelings will not help us to learn from our experience, live authentically, or move forward with real freedom. We are a peer-led support group for men and women who are in any stage of separation, divorce or post-divorce. Our caring facilitators have all been through the divorce/breakup process in their own lives, but they also hold the scientific background to support us through such an overwhelming experience. Some of the topics we go through are:
-Recognizing what's happening to me
​-Dealing with loss
-The road to finding help
-Facing my anger
-Facing my depression
-Facing my loneliness
-Financial Survival
-Children Care
-New Relationships
-Moving On

We meet bi-monthly to help each other navigate the emotional roller coaster we all experience while going through this difficult time in our lives. We also share our personal experiences on getting through the legal process as this can seem quite overwhelming when life as you know it has been turned upside-down.

At our meetings we provide positive support in a NON-JUDGMENTAL setting where each member has a chance to discuss the evening's topic or any issue that is relevant to his/her situation. While divorce is an end of a marriage, it also provides the opportunity for starting over and rebuilding the life you want. Social activities are open to members who regularly attend support meetings. We meet every other week in the area of Rotterdam.

We request 15 euros at the end of each meeting (as you are able) to help defray meetup costs, these funds also go toward providing free or low-cost group events approximately twice per year. One is usually a holiday brunch at a restaurant.

Please note - Starting Over is first and foremost a support group, not a dating group.

Bring only your concerns, questions, open minds and warm hearts!


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Detox your Relationships


"Your next relationship will be pure and healthy." Do you recognize toxic patterns in your (past or current) relationships that you would like to change? Do you want to turn your (current or future) relationship into a healthy and safe heaven where insecurity and fear do not fit at all? Do you want to find ways to set boundaries to others and protect yourself and your inner peace more? Join us and discover your strong relationship skills and make your current or future relationship live longer and be more rewarding. Learn how to set boundaries early enough in the relationship and turn your love life into a positive and transformative experience. Join us and learn how to get the love you want and you deserve. The course is appropriate for you if: You are single and you want to learn the “how’s” and the “why’s” of the pastrelationships, so that your next relationship will be baggage-free and fresh. You are beginning a relationship, and would like to create a strong foundation and avoid some of the frustrations you may have experienced in the past. You want to turn a good relationship into a Great one! You are in a complicated relationship and want to resolve recurring conflicts. This workshop is suitable not only for love relationships, but also for relationships withfriends, colleagues and family members. Limited places - REGISTER NOW FOR TICKETS PLEASE VISIT- https://www.eventbrite.com/e/detox-your-relationships-tickets-50261848542 Kind regards, Vassia Sarantopoulou Counselor-Psychologist http://www.antiloneliness.com

Explain your Anger, don't Express it


“Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other to die." If you are nice to everybody, then where is all your anger going?.. Why would anger be expressed in an explosive and not in a positive way? Anger is a healthy human emotion used as a natural response to real and unavoidable problems in our lives. Experiencing it can be liberating and even positive. Have you recently got out of a relationship where the other person never let you express how you felt about them, about your relationship or about the breakup? Now all these words that left unsaid are turning into anger, coming out sometimes randomly to people close to us, who have nothing to do with the real reason of the suppressed anger. Do you know how many emotions are hiding behind your angry face? Excessive or misplaced anger can be just the top of the iceberg; a mask hiding grief, embarrassment, rejection, regret, worry, etc. If we don't know what the source is, our physical and mental health but also our relationships with others can become seriously affected as soon as anger overtakes the control of our daily life. ​ How many times has your anger caught you by surprise? Were there any warning signs? Most of the times we can’t predict, get rid of, nor change the things or people that enrage us. But we can learn to spot the early signs or cause of our anger; we can learn to change the way we perceive it; and we can learn to control our reactions to it, without neglecting the expression of our feelings. Join us on this powerful workshop and let us guide you on an internal reflection about your anger and on how to manage it, using a healthy and adequate response. Join us and see the results yourself! “Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other to die." Limited places - REGISTER NOW FOR TICKETS PLEASE VISIT- https://www.eventbrite.com/e/explain-your-anger-dont-express-it-tickets-50262050145 Kind regards, Vassia Sarantopoulou Counselor-Psychologist http://www.antiloneliness.com

Stop Self-Sabotage, Let yourself Grow


"Get out of your way!" ​If you find yourself stuck at the same point for a long time or you feel afraid to move on or you see the same patterns repeating again and again in your life, then probably you are not letting yourself grow and you sabotage yourself without knowing. STOP overthinking, minimizing, compromising, avoiding, overanalyzing, generalising, overpleasing, victimising, over-controlling, and START living! Either we are feeling not good enough, or we prefer to put other people's needs first or we overthink and over-rationalize, sooner or later we find ourselves stuck at the same point where we were some time ago and wondering why we are not moving on. There are many reasons why we have convinced ourselves that self-sabotaging is good. Let's explore them and disarm our Saboteurs. This workshop will give you the useful insights and the mental tools you need in order to realize how you can get un-stuck and move beyond your fears. In this workshop, you will: -learn more about the ways you are sabotaging yourself -understand why you choose to sabotage yourself and the purpose it serves -learn how to hear the inner voice that is stopping you from daring -understand why you are afraid of making decisions ​-learn how to re-wire your brain into more positive thinking -understand why you feel afraid of others or of failure -learn how to recognise and deal with the challenging emotions of your Inner voice -learn how to build a new, bold, more motivational and positive thinking But not only that! -You will gain back your confidence and your self-acceptance! LIMITED PLACES AVAILABLE - REGISTER NOW FOR TICKETS PLEASE VISIT- https://www.eventbrite.com/e/stop-self-sabotage-let-yourself-grow-tickets-50262255760 Kind regards, Vassia Sarantopoulou Counselor-Psychologist http://www.antiloneliness.com

Understand, Embrace and Defeat Loneliness


"You can feel lonely even among a hundred people." We live in the most technologically connected period, and yet we are lonelier than ever. Feeling lonely is not something wrong. But when it is treated as a taboo or as something "not supposed to feel", then it generates more negative feelings, such as shame, guilt, which result to less self-confidence and more self-defeating beliefs and behaviors, and hence more loneliness (vicious circle). ​Let's change that. This workshop will give you the useful insights and the mental tools you need in order to understand and defeat loneliness. In this workshop, you will learn how to: -identify feelings of loneliness and find their cause -not judge yourself for feeling different than others -build a sense of belonging and acceptance -become your own closest friend and connect with others in a more deep and authentic way -increase your resilience and your self-compassion -turn your emotional wounds into strengths But not only that! -You will gain back your confidence and enjoy more your social life but also you won't be afraid of your alone time! LIMITED PLACES AVAILABLE - REGISTER NOW FOR TICKETS PLEASE VISIT- https://www.eventbrite.com/e/understand-embrace-and-defeat-loneliness-tickets-50262472408 Kind regards, Vassia Sarantopoulou Counselor-Psychologist http://www.antiloneliness.com

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