What we're about

Short Description:

T-Group is a practice of mindful communication designed to generate profound connection; it is an invitation to Reveal the naked immediacy of whatever is actually happening Right Now in the space between us. As the group process unfolds, the practice is to turn your attention inward and deeply observe your experience from moment-to-moment. This allows you to make discoveries about the hidden inner forces that generate your thoughts, feelings, and impulses, and to lean into the practice of vulnerability as you Reveal these discoveries to the group. In return, your fellow practitioners provide you with real-time feedback about how you impact them and the responses you elicit from them, which is a rare opportunity to identify patterns in your communicating and relating styles. As you become more conscious of these dynamics, you gain the ability to catalyze ever-more vulnerable communication, intimate connection, and group cohesion in all areas and all relationships in your life.

Long Description:

If meditation is a mindfulness practice that you do with yourself, T-Group is a mindfulness practice that you do in relationship. In meditation, we pay close attention to the flow of *inner* experience and we make the discovery that we ourselves are the architects of our own happiness and our own suffering. This awareness gives us choice, which is the key to liberation. In T-Group, we pay close attention to the flow of *relational* experience and we discover yet again that we ourselves are the architects of the experiences we have in connection and in groups. This awareness, and the choice that comes with it, is the key to transforming our experience of relationship altogether.

Perhaps your pattern is that you tend to feel on the "outside," no matter what group you're part of. Or perhaps you're the one who tends to serve as the "lightning rod," drawing the tension and frustration of the group towards yourself whether you want it or not. Patterns can also be found in the roles we habitually assume in groups. Are you the caretaker or are you the instigator? The silent observer or the harmonizer? And lastly, we can find patterns in the ways we automatically respond to things like silence, eye contact, conflict, receiving others' attention/appreciation, or witnessing others' difficult emotions.

T-Group is a living mirror that can reflect you back to yourself, making it far easier to wake up to your patterns, the impact they have, and the responses they elicit from others. And with this new awareness and choice, T-Group becomes a laboratory where you can experiment with different ways of being and relating - and witness for yourself the different impact and response that comes back to you. When you make the discovery that you’ve been the architect all along, you can begin to learn how to build the structures you’d actually want to live in: connection, depth, understanding, enjoyment, intimacy, and love.

The perennial question at our T-Group gatherings is, “What is T-Group and how do we practice it?” It is a subtle and ambiguous practice by design, and it continues to elude our attempts to pin it down once and for all. It is so much more about observing what’s already happening than it is about making something happen in particular. There’s no one “right” way to T-Group, but you can read about the structure of the practice on the Training Video page (a written outline is available in addition to the video itself): crystallindillon.com/training. If that’s the “what,” then you can find the “why” on The Layers of Practice page, where I’ve outlined the rough progression of skills and capacities that grow stronger with ongoing T-Group practice: crystallindillon.com/layers.

But what I will say here is this: the power of T-Group comes from our collective willingness to Reveal. In group, we take the risk of sharing who we really are, what we’re actually experiencing, and what’s truly happening in the space between us, which is why we call it a practice of “authentic relating.” Another word for this is “vulnerability,” and the powerful discovery we make in T-Group is that rather than being the thing that costs us connection, vulnerability is the thing that creates it. We humans need connection, love, and belonging in the same way we need food and air. In a modern world where we’re having more communication than ever before, but somehow less actual connection, T-Group is a practice and a place where we can learn the skills that allow us to create the kind of intimacy we all need. It also gives us the tools we will need when it comes time to navigate the inevitable tricky passages of deep relationship.

Why do we call it T-Group 2.0? T-Group originated in the 1940's at National Training Laboratories, and it centers on the sharing of feelings in the present moment. Crystallin is deepening and elaborating up on this practice, drawing from her background in Buddhist Psychology, Systems Theory, and Group Psychotherapy, her training at The Matrix Leadership Institute, and her own extensive T-Group practice. See the Training, Advanced Practices, and Systems Theory pages to see the updates for yourself.

The evening begins when we meet in the large group for a brief, silent meditation and a round of sharing that allows us to arrive and get grounded together. Returning community members break off into small groups of 5-7 and first-time visitors join Crystallin for Training Group (which consists of facilitated exercises and practice groups). We come back to the large group to share the learning, and then break out again into different small groups for another round of practice (Training Group stays with Crystallin both rounds). The evening ends with one more large group sharing session. Even if you have done T-Group elsewhere before, I ask that you do Training Group before joining the rest of the community.

Upcoming events (5+)

Sunday Night T-Group

Emeryville

T-Group is a practice of mindful communication designed to generate profound connection; it is an invitation to Reveal the naked immediacy of whatever is actually happening Right Now in the space between us. As the group process unfolds, the practice is to turn your attention inward and deeply observe your experience from moment-to-moment. This allows you to make discoveries about the hidden inner forces that generate your thoughts, feelings, and impulses, and to lean into the practice of vulnerability as you Reveal these discoveries to the group. In return, your fellow practitioners provide you with real-time feedback about how you impact them and the responses you elicit from them, which is a rare opportunity to identify patterns in your communicating and relating styles. As you become more conscious of these dynamics, you gain the ability to catalyze ever-more vulnerable communication, intimate connection, and group cohesion in all areas and all relationships in your life. Learn more about T-Group and sign up to attend at crystallindillon.com/bayareatgroup

Sunday Night T-Group

Emeryville

T-Group is a practice of mindful communication designed to generate profound connection; it is an invitation to Reveal the naked immediacy of whatever is actually happening Right Now in the space between us. As the group process unfolds, the practice is to turn your attention inward and deeply observe your experience from moment-to-moment. This allows you to make discoveries about the hidden inner forces that generate your thoughts, feelings, and impulses, and to lean into the practice of vulnerability as you Reveal these discoveries to the group. In return, your fellow practitioners provide you with real-time feedback about how you impact them and the responses you elicit from them, which is a rare opportunity to identify patterns in your communicating and relating styles. As you become more conscious of these dynamics, you gain the ability to catalyze ever-more vulnerable communication, intimate connection, and group cohesion in all areas and all relationships in your life. Learn more about T-Group and sign up to attend at crystallindillon.com/bayareatgroup

Sunday Night T-Group

Emeryville

T-Group is a practice of mindful communication designed to generate profound connection; it is an invitation to Reveal the naked immediacy of whatever is actually happening Right Now in the space between us. As the group process unfolds, the practice is to turn your attention inward and deeply observe your experience from moment-to-moment. This allows you to make discoveries about the hidden inner forces that generate your thoughts, feelings, and impulses, and to lean into the practice of vulnerability as you Reveal these discoveries to the group. In return, your fellow practitioners provide you with real-time feedback about how you impact them and the responses you elicit from them, which is a rare opportunity to identify patterns in your communicating and relating styles. As you become more conscious of these dynamics, you gain the ability to catalyze ever-more vulnerable communication, intimate connection, and group cohesion in all areas and all relationships in your life. Learn more about T-Group and sign up to attend at crystallindillon.com/bayareatgroup

Sunday Night T-Group

Emeryville

T-Group is a practice of mindful communication designed to generate profound connection; it is an invitation to Reveal the naked immediacy of whatever is actually happening Right Now in the space between us. As the group process unfolds, the practice is to turn your attention inward and deeply observe your experience from moment-to-moment. This allows you to make discoveries about the hidden inner forces that generate your thoughts, feelings, and impulses, and to lean into the practice of vulnerability as you Reveal these discoveries to the group. In return, your fellow practitioners provide you with real-time feedback about how you impact them and the responses you elicit from them, which is a rare opportunity to identify patterns in your communicating and relating styles. As you become more conscious of these dynamics, you gain the ability to catalyze ever-more vulnerable communication, intimate connection, and group cohesion in all areas and all relationships in your life. Learn more about T-Group and sign up to attend at crystallindillon.com/bayareatgroup

Past events (40)

Sunday Night T-Group

Emeryville

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