What we're about

Short Description:

T-Group is a practice of mindful communication designed to generate profound connection; it is an invitation to Reveal the naked immediacy of whatever is actually happening Right Now in the space between us. As the group process unfolds, the practice is to turn your attention inward and deeply observe your experience from moment-to-moment. This allows you to make discoveries about the hidden inner forces that generate your thoughts, feelings, and impulses, and to lean into the practice of vulnerability as you Reveal these discoveries to the group. In return, your fellow practitioners provide you with real-time feedback about how you impact them and the responses you elicit from them, which is a rare opportunity to identify patterns in your communicating and relating styles. As you become more conscious of these dynamics, you gain the ability to catalyze ever-more vulnerable communication, intimate connection, and group cohesion in all areas and all relationships in your life.

Long Description:

If meditation is a mindfulness practice that you do with yourself, T-Group is a mindfulness practice that you do in relationship. In meditation, we pay close attention to the flow of *inner* experience and we make the discovery that we ourselves are the architects of our own happiness and our own suffering. This awareness gives us choice, which is the key to liberation. In T-Group, we pay close attention to the flow of *relational* experience and we discover yet again that we ourselves are the architects of the experiences we have in connection and in groups. This awareness, and the choice that comes with it, is the key to transforming our experience of relationship altogether.

Perhaps your pattern is that you tend to feel on the "outside," no matter what group you're part of. Or perhaps you're the one who tends to serve as the "lightning rod," drawing the tension and frustration of the group towards yourself whether you want it or not. Patterns can also be found in the roles we habitually assume in groups. Are you the caretaker or are you the instigator? The silent observer or the harmonizer? And lastly, we can find patterns in the ways we automatically respond to things like silence, eye contact, conflict, receiving others' attention/appreciation, or witnessing others' difficult emotions.

T-Group is a living mirror that can reflect you back to yourself, making it far easier to wake up to your patterns, the impact they have, and the responses they elicit from others. And with this new awareness and choice, T-Group becomes a laboratory where you can experiment with different ways of being and relating - and witness for yourself the different impact and response that comes back to you. When you make the discovery that you’ve been the architect all along, you can begin to learn how to build the structures you’d actually want to live in: connection, depth, understanding, enjoyment, intimacy, and love.

The perennial question at our T-Group gatherings is, “What is T-Group and how do we practice it?” It is a subtle and ambiguous practice by design, and it continues to elude our attempts to pin it down once and for all. It is so much more about observing what’s already happening than it is about making something happen in particular. There’s no one “right” way to T-Group, but you can read about the structure of the practice on the Training Video page (a written outline is available in addition to the video itself): crystallindillon.com/training. If that’s the “what,” then you can find the “why” on The Layers of Practice page, where I’ve outlined the rough progression of skills and capacities that grow stronger with ongoing T-Group practice: crystallindillon.com/layers.

But what I will say here is this: the power of T-Group comes from our collective willingness to Reveal. In group, we take the risk of sharing who we really are, what we’re actually experiencing, and what’s truly happening in the space between us, which is why we call it a practice of “authentic relating.” Another word for this is “vulnerability,” and the powerful discovery we make in T-Group is that rather than being the thing that costs us connection, vulnerability is the thing that creates it. We humans need connection, love, and belonging in the same way we need food and air. In a modern world where we’re having more communication than ever before, but somehow less actual connection, T-Group is a practice and a place where we can learn the skills that allow us to create the kind of intimacy we all need. It also gives us the tools we will need when it comes time to navigate the inevitable tricky passages of deep relationship.

Why do we call it T-Group 2.0? T-Group originated in the 1940's at National Training Laboratories, and it centers on the sharing of feelings in the present moment. Crystallin is deepening and elaborating up on this practice, drawing from her background in Buddhist Psychology, Systems Theory, and Group Psychotherapy, her training at The Matrix Leadership Institute, and her own extensive T-Group practice. See the Training, Advanced Practices, and Systems Theory pages to see the updates for yourself.

The evening begins when we meet in the large group for a brief, silent meditation and a round of sharing that allows us to arrive and get grounded together. Returning community members break off into small groups of 5-7 and first-time visitors join Crystallin for Training Group (which consists of facilitated exercises and practice groups). We come back to the large group to share the learning, and then break out again into different small groups for another round of practice (Training Group stays with Crystallin both rounds). The evening ends with one more large group sharing session. Even if you have done T-Group elsewhere before, I ask that you do Training Group before joining the rest of the community.

Upcoming events (5)

Sunday Night T-Group

Berkeley

To register for this event, please visit: crystallindillon.com/bayareatgroup First-time participants are kindly asked to please watch the Training Video before joining us: crystallindillon.com/training If meditation is a mindfulness practice that you do with yourself, T-Group is a mindfulness practice that you do in relationship with other people. It's an opportunity to step outside the norms of polite conversation and drop into something much more deep and real. It's a laboratory where you can learn about how you show up in connection with others and experiment with new ways of being and relating. It's a living mirror that can offer real-time feedback and reflection about the impact you have on the world. This practice will deepen your self-awareness, because it's only when you see yourself more clearly that you can begin to make new choices and generate new experiences. It will invite you into greater levels of transparency than most of us are accustomed to, revealing the connective and healing powers of authenticity, vulnerability, and intimacy. And it will teach you new ways to work with the obstacles to connection, equipping you to navigate differences, conflict, and your own triggers with both heart and skill. Finally, this practice also teaches us how to transform a collection of separate individuals into a truly cohesive, synergistic group that is greater than the sum of its parts. It is a place where we come together to learn how to re-weave the fabric of our human community in a way that honors and includes all our differences and diversity. And in so doing, we wind up co-creating the experience of belonging to something larger than ourselves, which is something we need now more than ever. T-Group allows you to… ~ Learn to establish new connections with confidence and ease, using the power of Authenticity and Vulnerability ~ Unravel patterns of insecurity, shame, and self-aggression ~ Experience the emotional nourishment of deeper Connection and a sense of Belonging ~ Overcome the social anxiety or awkwardness that results in loneliness and isolation ~ Discover more effective ways to negotiate through differences and navigate conflict in relationships ~ Receive real-time feedback about how others experience you, and the kinds of responses you elicit from them ~ Learn to give feedback in ways that can actually be heard ~ Gain greater access to your feelings as well as your thoughts, preferences, boundaries, and so on, and learn to articulate it all more effectively The Vision Statement of the Bay Area T-Group Community "We are here to create a Practice Community based on deep connection and authenticity, built on foundations of respect and goodwill, where all parts of us are welcome and our differences are appreciated as resources. We are here to gain self-awareness around our habitual patterns and roles, limiting beliefs and strategies, and repetitive experiences in groups. But ultimately, we are here to re-weave the web of the human community, to remember that we are not separate and that we belong to and with one another."

Sunday Night T-Group

Berkeley

To register for this event, please visit: crystallindillon.com/bayareatgroup First-time participants are kindly asked to please watch the Training Video before joining us: crystallindillon.com/training If meditation is a mindfulness practice that you do with yourself, T-Group is a mindfulness practice that you do in relationship with other people. It's an opportunity to step outside the norms of polite conversation and drop into something much more deep and real. It's a laboratory where you can learn about how you show up in connection with others and experiment with new ways of being and relating. It's a living mirror that can offer real-time feedback and reflection about the impact you have on the world. This practice will deepen your self-awareness, because it's only when you see yourself more clearly that you can begin to make new choices and generate new experiences. It will invite you into greater levels of transparency than most of us are accustomed to, revealing the connective and healing powers of authenticity, vulnerability, and intimacy. And it will teach you new ways to work with the obstacles to connection, equipping you to navigate differences, conflict, and your own triggers with both heart and skill. Finally, this practice also teaches us how to transform a collection of separate individuals into a truly cohesive, synergistic group that is greater than the sum of its parts. It is a place where we come together to learn how to re-weave the fabric of our human community in a way that honors and includes all our differences and diversity. And in so doing, we wind up co-creating the experience of belonging to something larger than ourselves, which is something we need now more than ever. T-Group allows you to… ~ Learn to establish new connections with confidence and ease, using the power of Authenticity and Vulnerability ~ Unravel patterns of insecurity, shame, and self-aggression ~ Experience the emotional nourishment of deeper Connection and a sense of Belonging ~ Overcome the social anxiety or awkwardness that results in loneliness and isolation ~ Discover more effective ways to negotiate through differences and navigate conflict in relationships ~ Receive real-time feedback about how others experience you, and the kinds of responses you elicit from them ~ Learn to give feedback in ways that can actually be heard ~ Gain greater access to your feelings as well as your thoughts, preferences, boundaries, and so on, and learn to articulate it all more effectively The Vision Statement of the Bay Area T-Group Community "We are here to create a Practice Community based on deep connection and authenticity, built on foundations of respect and goodwill, where all parts of us are welcome and our differences are appreciated as resources. We are here to gain self-awareness around our habitual patterns and roles, limiting beliefs and strategies, and repetitive experiences in groups. But ultimately, we are here to re-weave the web of the human community, to remember that we are not separate and that we belong to and with one another."

Sunday Night T-Group

Berkeley

To register for this event, please visit: crystallindillon.com/bayareatgroup First-time participants are kindly asked to please watch the Training Video before joining us: crystallindillon.com/training If meditation is a mindfulness practice that you do with yourself, T-Group is a mindfulness practice that you do in relationship with other people. It's an opportunity to step outside the norms of polite conversation and drop into something much more deep and real. It's a laboratory where you can learn about how you show up in connection with others and experiment with new ways of being and relating. It's a living mirror that can offer real-time feedback and reflection about the impact you have on the world. This practice will deepen your self-awareness, because it's only when you see yourself more clearly that you can begin to make new choices and generate new experiences. It will invite you into greater levels of transparency than most of us are accustomed to, revealing the connective and healing powers of authenticity, vulnerability, and intimacy. And it will teach you new ways to work with the obstacles to connection, equipping you to navigate differences, conflict, and your own triggers with both heart and skill. Finally, this practice also teaches us how to transform a collection of separate individuals into a truly cohesive, synergistic group that is greater than the sum of its parts. It is a place where we come together to learn how to re-weave the fabric of our human community in a way that honors and includes all our differences and diversity. And in so doing, we wind up co-creating the experience of belonging to something larger than ourselves, which is something we need now more than ever. T-Group allows you to… ~ Learn to establish new connections with confidence and ease, using the power of Authenticity and Vulnerability ~ Unravel patterns of insecurity, shame, and self-aggression ~ Experience the emotional nourishment of deeper Connection and a sense of Belonging ~ Overcome the social anxiety or awkwardness that results in loneliness and isolation ~ Discover more effective ways to negotiate through differences and navigate conflict in relationships ~ Receive real-time feedback about how others experience you, and the kinds of responses you elicit from them ~ Learn to give feedback in ways that can actually be heard ~ Gain greater access to your feelings as well as your thoughts, preferences, boundaries, and so on, and learn to articulate it all more effectively The Vision Statement of the Bay Area T-Group Community "We are here to create a Practice Community based on deep connection and authenticity, built on foundations of respect and goodwill, where all parts of us are welcome and our differences are appreciated as resources. We are here to gain self-awareness around our habitual patterns and roles, limiting beliefs and strategies, and repetitive experiences in groups. But ultimately, we are here to re-weave the web of the human community, to remember that we are not separate and that we belong to and with one another."

Sunday Night T-Group

Berkeley

To register for this event, please visit: crystallindillon.com/bayareatgroup First-time participants are kindly asked to please watch the Training Video before joining us: crystallindillon.com/training If meditation is a mindfulness practice that you do with yourself, T-Group is a mindfulness practice that you do in relationship with other people. It's an opportunity to step outside the norms of polite conversation and drop into something much more deep and real. It's a laboratory where you can learn about how you show up in connection with others and experiment with new ways of being and relating. It's a living mirror that can offer real-time feedback and reflection about the impact you have on the world. This practice will deepen your self-awareness, because it's only when you see yourself more clearly that you can begin to make new choices and generate new experiences. It will invite you into greater levels of transparency than most of us are accustomed to, revealing the connective and healing powers of authenticity, vulnerability, and intimacy. And it will teach you new ways to work with the obstacles to connection, equipping you to navigate differences, conflict, and your own triggers with both heart and skill. Finally, this practice also teaches us how to transform a collection of separate individuals into a truly cohesive, synergistic group that is greater than the sum of its parts. It is a place where we come together to learn how to re-weave the fabric of our human community in a way that honors and includes all our differences and diversity. And in so doing, we wind up co-creating the experience of belonging to something larger than ourselves, which is something we need now more than ever. T-Group allows you to… ~ Learn to establish new connections with confidence and ease, using the power of Authenticity and Vulnerability ~ Unravel patterns of insecurity, shame, and self-aggression ~ Experience the emotional nourishment of deeper Connection and a sense of Belonging ~ Overcome the social anxiety or awkwardness that results in loneliness and isolation ~ Discover more effective ways to negotiate through differences and navigate conflict in relationships ~ Receive real-time feedback about how others experience you, and the kinds of responses you elicit from them ~ Learn to give feedback in ways that can actually be heard ~ Gain greater access to your feelings as well as your thoughts, preferences, boundaries, and so on, and learn to articulate it all more effectively The Vision Statement of the Bay Area T-Group Community "We are here to create a Practice Community based on deep connection and authenticity, built on foundations of respect and goodwill, where all parts of us are welcome and our differences are appreciated as resources. We are here to gain self-awareness around our habitual patterns and roles, limiting beliefs and strategies, and repetitive experiences in groups. But ultimately, we are here to re-weave the web of the human community, to remember that we are not separate and that we belong to and with one another."

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Sunday Night T-Group

Berkeley

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